Nicole Colantoni

02/04/2025

Misconceptions about love can keep you trapped in cycles of dysfunction. But real, lasting love doesn’t have to be figured out through trial and error. It starts with unlearning the patterns and beliefs that aren’t serving you and choosing a healthier way forward.

If you’re ready to break free from relationship dysfunction, follow me and comment “HELP” to join the waitlist for my upcoming program: From Relationship Dysfunction to Healthy Love—Break Free from Old Patterns and Attract and Build Lasting Relationships.

02/04/2025

Before I met my partner, my love life was a mess.

I had a history of dysfunctional relationships— followed by 9 years of being single, over 200+ first dates, and a whole lot of wondering if I was just destined to be alone forever.

I seriously questioned whether love was ever going to happen for me. I watched friends settle down, get engaged, start families, while I was still attracting the same type of person, over and over again.

Different names, different faces—but the same painful relationship dynamics. I knew I wanted a healthy, loving relationship, but I couldn’t understand why I was so unlucky in love.

And if you can relate to this, please don’t lose hope.

I genuinely believe that you wouldn’t have the desire for love if it wasn’t possible for you. But sometimes, we have to heal what’s blocking us from receiving it.

For me, it wasn’t just about waiting for the right person—it was about breaking the patterns that were keeping me stuck in dysfunctional relationships. It was about learning how my past was shaping my choices, why I was attracted to the wrong people, and how to become emotionally available for the love I actually wanted.

Because the truth is, love isn’t just about luck—it’s about alignment.

So if you’re feeling stuck, know this: love isn’t passing you by, but it might be waiting for you to do the inner work that will allow you to receive it.

If you’re ready to break free from relationship dysfunction and attract the love you actually deserve, follow me and comment “HELP” to join the waitlist for my upcoming program: From Relationship Dysfunction to Healthy Love—Break Free from Old Patterns and Attract and Build Lasting Relationships.

Certified dating and relationship coach who specialises in helping people navigate the complex world of modern love and dating as well as attract and cultivate healthy relationships.

02/04/2025

I remember a time when I was so heartbroken.

I was physically sick. I couldn’t sleep or eat. All I could do was pace my apartment, chain-smoke (ex-smoker now for 10 years), and replay painful moments in my mind.

The pain was so excruciating it felt like my heart had been run over by a tractor. I had no idea how I was going to survive the day.
I knew my ex wasn’t right for me, and yet all I wanted was them back. I begged, pleaded, bargained. And in doing so, I lost my dignity.

I was ashamed—ashamed of how I had let myself be treated, ashamed of how desperate I felt. I wanted to disappear, to start over, anything to escape the pain.

For years, I blamed myself for the way it ended. I questioned whether I would ever find love again. The idea of opening myself up to someone new felt impossible.

I had convinced myself love was dead. That I was unlovable. And yet, I was only 23.

I so wish I could go back and tell my younger self: Everything is going to be okay.

That the pain I was drowning in was not proof I was unworthy—but that life was preparing me for something greater. 

I wish I hadn’t spent months crying over someone who wasn’t in alignment with me—someone whose only purpose was to hold up a mirror to the parts of me that needed healing.

But sometimes, the deepest lessons come from suffering.

That’s why I share my journey—because I want you to know you’re not alone.

Whether you feel unlucky in love, unlovable, or stuck in painful patterns, there’s hope. Healing is possible. And the more you heal, the more you transform—not only how you show up in love but the quality of love you attract.

No matter what you’ve been through, it does not define you. Healthy, fulfilling love is within reach.

That’s why I do what I do.

I help individuals and couples worldwide break free from relationship dysfunction and build lasting, secure love—because love shouldn’t have to be figured out by trial and error.

If you’re ready to break free from dysfunctional relationships, follow me and comment ‘HELP’ to join the waitlist for my upcoming program: From Relationship Dysfunction to Healthy Love—Break Free from Old Patterns and Attract and Build Lasting Relationships.

02/04/2025

As someone who used to feel so unlucky in love, trust me—I get it. I spent years wondering why things never worked out for me, why I kept attracting the same kind of relationships, and why love seemed so easy for everyone else but me.

But here’s what I’ve learned: love isn’t about luck. It’s about patterns. It’s about your nervous system. It’s about the beliefs you carry about yourself and relationships.

The more I worked on myself—healing my attachment wounds, breaking free from dysfunctional cycles, and learning how to truly receive love—the better my love life became. And the same is possible for you.

You don’t have to keep repeating the past. You don’t have to settle. And you don’t have to figure it all out alone.

If you’re ready to break free from relationship dysfunction and attract healthy love, comment “HELP” to join the waitlist for my upcoming program: From Relationship Dysfunction to Healthy Love—Break Free from Old Patterns and Attract and Build Lasting Relationships.

02/04/2025

If you keep choosing relationships that drain you, it’s not because you’re “bad at love.” It’s because your subconscious is repeating what feels familiar, not what feels good.

Healing means unlearning dysfunction and choosing relationships that feel safe, secure, and nourishing. Follow me to learn how to break the cycle.

02/04/2025

Being single isn’t a waiting room—it’s an opportunity to break free from past dysfunction so you don’t repeat it. Heal now so your next relationship can be your healthiest.

02/04/2025

Dysfunctional relationships are built on insecurity. Healthy love is built on trust, safety, and consistency. If you want to move from dysfunction to secure love, you have to learn how to regulate your emotions, communicate effectively, and be present.

Follow for more insights on building healthy love.

02/04/2025

That’s why I share my journey—because I want you to know you’re not alone.

Whether you feel unlucky in love, unlovable, or stuck in painful patterns, there’s hope. Healing is possible. And the more you heal, the more you transform—not only how you show up in love but the quality of love you attract.

No matter what you’ve been through, it does not define you. Healthy, fulfilling love is within reach.

And that’s why I do what I do.

I now help individuals and couples worldwide break free from relationship dysfunction and build lasting, secure love—because love shouldn’t have to be figured out by trial and error.

If you’re ready to break free from dysfunctional relationships, follow me and comment ‘HELP’ to join the waitlist for my upcoming program: From Relationship Dysfunction to Healthy Love—Break Free from Old Patterns and Attract and Build Lasting Relationships.

02/04/2025

A dysfunctional relationship is where both partners expect the other to “fix” them. A healthy relationship is where both partners do the inner work so they can show up for each other fully.

The shift from dysfunction to healthy love starts with you.