01/02/2026
Gentleness came up today, and got me thinking.
I often consider gentleness as being calm, reasonable, quiet, and non-reactive. But a definition I heard today reframed it: gentleness is strength withheld, and strength used to protect.
In leadership, especially without a title or formal authority, I’ve found this tension difficult to navigate. At times I’ve overcorrected toward assertiveness when pressure rises. More often, though, I’ve chosen gentleness and found myself spoken over, unheard, or quietly sidelined. When strength is consistently restrained but rarely visible, it can be mistaken for passivity.
Today’s sermon highlighted three pressure points that tend to expose our character: distraction, disappointment, and division.
👀 Distraction draws our attention away from what truly matters.
😭 Disappointment tests whether we remain faithful to the path or allow ourselves to harden.
➗ Division tempts us to turn our strength against one another rather than using it to protect unity and purpose.
“Let your eyes look straight ahead; fix your gaze directly before you. Give careful thought to the paths for your feet and be steadfast in all your ways. Do not turn to the right or the left; keep your foot from evil.” Proverbs.
Not louder voices, but steadier ones. Not force, but direction.