Mental Health is For Life Psychology

27/10/2025

24/10/2025

Anger isn’t just an emotion, it’s a battle between two parts of your brain. Neuroscience shows that when you lose control and give in to anger, your emotional brain takes over, dominating decision-making, judgment, and self-control. Over time, this can make you reactive, impulsive, and easier to influence.

But there’s a powerful alternative. When you stay calm, your thinking brain, the prefrontal cortex, activates and strengthens. This region is responsible for reasoning, planning, and long-term thinking. Every moment you resist the urge to lash out or react hastily is a workout for your rational brain, building resilience and control.

Research demonstrates that repeated practice of calmness rewires neural pathways, making it easier to respond thoughtfully in high-pressure situations. People who train their brains to stay composed are not only calmer but also smarter , better able to solve problems, make decisions, and maintain perspective when others around them are losing control.

The benefits extend beyond personal growth. A strong thinking brain makes you harder to manipulate. Emotional hijacks lose power, social pressure has less effect, and stress triggers fewer automatic reactions. Essentially, self-control becomes a shield and a tool, helping you navigate both personal and professional challenges.

So the next time anger rises, see it as an opportunity. By pausing, breathing, and choosing calm, you’re not just avoiding conflict, you’re literally growing your brain, enhancing intelligence, and reclaiming power over your own reactions.

Because sometimes, the strongest strategy isn’t arguing or reacting, it’s training your mind to remain unshakable.

19/10/2025

Social rejection can equate to a real physical pain feeling

Heartbreak hurts, and now science proves it literally does. When you’re rejected, ignored, or excluded, your brain reacts the same way it would to a physical wound. Functional MRI scans reveal that emotional pain activates the same neural circuits responsible for processing bodily injury. In other words, rejection isn’t just “in your head”, your brain feels it as real pain.

Researchers found that regions like the anterior cingulate cortex and insula, which light up during physical pain, also flare when you experience social exclusion. That’s why heartbreak, betrayal, or loneliness can cause chest tightness or stomach knots. The body and brain don’t distinguish between emotional and physical suffering, they share the same biological alarm system.

This discovery reshapes how we understand human connection. It explains why belonging is essential for survival and why social bonds are as vital as food or shelter. Our brains evolved to treat rejection as danger, warning us to repair relationships and reconnect for safety.

The takeaway? Be gentle with yourself during emotional pain, it’s not weakness, it’s biology. Healing from heartbreak takes time because your brain is recovering from an injury it truly believes is real.

18/10/2025

Using your own name in self-talk makes you listen to yourself better !

New studies show that self-talk, particularly using one's own name, activates brain regions associated with control, planning, and focus.
It helps people manage stress, sharpen decision-making, and even perform better under pressure.

17/10/2025

17/10/2025

A study found that that children who are placed in adult roles too early in life (e.g. forced to take care of siblings, too much housework, etc.) feel guilty resting and have difficulty setting healthy boundaries as adults.

This phenomenon, known as parentification, occurs when children are expected to take on responsibilities and emotional burdens that are inappropriate for their age and developmental stage.

This can involve a child taking on responsibilities beyond their years due to a parent’s emotional unavailability, laziness, illness or other circumstances.

When children are parentified, they may develop difficulties setting boundaries in their own relationships later in life. They might struggle to prioritize their own needs, leading to feelings of guilt when taking time for themselves.

Parentified children often internalize strong sense of responsibility and obligation, feeling compelled to care for others’ needs and neglecting their own. This can manifest as people-pleasing tendencies, difficulty saying no, and a fear of disappointing others.

The ingrained expectation to be constantly available and responsible can make it difficult for parentified individuals to rest or take time for themselves without feeling guilty. This can lead to chronic stress and chronic stress leads to severe health complications, most alarmingly, autoimmune conditions.

Interestingly the parentified behaviors are often placed on the backs of young girls (“eldest daughter syndrome”) and women make up over 80% of all autoimmune conditions diagnosed.

Let your children be children.

17/10/2025