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24/02/2026

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Relationships
She’s Not The Woman I Married.

She’s quieter now.
Less affectionate.
Easily annoyed.
Less fun.

But she didn’t just change.

She slowly stopped feeling safe to speak.

Every time she tried to share her feelings, she heard:

“You’re overreacting.”

“You’re so dramatic.”

“Here we go again.”

“I’m a good husband.”

“Look at everything I do for you.”

“I work hard for this family.”

“Silence.”

“Eye rolls.”

“Anger.”

And a little part of her shutdown each time.

When someone feels unheard long enough, they don’t fight harder….

They go quiet.

By the time her husband has noticed his wife has pulled away….

She has been trying to tell him her feelings for years.

This doesn’t have to be the end of the relationship.
At Central Cosst Counselling, as a couple you can both learn to communicate.
You will both have the opportunity to feel heard and validated.

Find your way back to each other, to the way it was in the beginning.

Take the first step by clicking on the link above for a booking today.

23/02/2026

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Relationships
Finding Your Way Back

Do you find yourself day dreaming when you were both happy?

When you were dating and you couldn’t wait to hear your partner’s voice on the phone and you couldn’t wait to see them?

Do you remember feeling like you’ve found the love of your life, the one you wanted to call husband or wife?

Do you remember what it was like before children, when you had time for each other, when you felt like a couple?

But….
Life got in the way.
Stresses got in the way.
You forgot you were a couple because you were so focused on being parents.

It’s time to go back to basics.
To those romantic messages to each other.
To planning those date nights.
To changing the way you speak to each other.

It’s time to build on the friendship and on the relationship as lovers.

Don’t wait until you both have stopped trying.

Let me help you find your way back.
Let me help you become friends and lovers again.
Take the first step by clicking on the link above for a booking today.

22/02/2026

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Relationships

When One of You Says
“We Don’t Need Counselling.”

We just need to:
Stop bringing up the past.
Stop bringing up the same issues.
Stop blaming.

“We Don’t Need Counselling.”
So we’ll keep:
Sleeping with our backs to each other.
Replaying arguments in our heads that never get resolved.
Remembering when we last laughed together.
Remembering how good things were in the beginning.
Remembering our last date night.

We Dont Need Counselling:

Until one of us stops trying.
Stops talking.
Stops caring.

Couples don’t call when things feel uncomfortable.

They call when someone says
“it’s over.”

They call when someone says
“I don’t love you anymore.”

They call when one person says
“I want to be happy and I’m not happy with you.”

Most relationships fall apart from slow emotional neglect and resentment.

Don’t wait until someone says it’s over.
Don’t wait until no one is talking to each other.
Don’t wait until you’re flat mates instead of lovers.

Take the first step to winning each other back.
Take the first step to winning your best friend back.
Take the first step by clicking on the link above for a booking today.

20/02/2026

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Relationships
Coercive Abuse And Would You Recognise It If It Was In Your Relationship?

You second guess your own memory.
You are constantly explaining yourself.
You feel guilty for needing space.
You apologise to keep the peace.
You slowly stop seeing friends because it’s easier.
You feel anxious when they walk in the room.
Your stomach feels sick, your heart begins to beat faster when you hear their car pulling up in the driveway.
You feel relieved when they leave for work.

These are all signs of coercive abuse.

Coercive abuse is about power - not anger.
It’s about control, not love.

It chips away at your confidence so gradually, that don’t realise it’s happening.

Have you been told;
“You’re too sensitive.”
“That never happened.”
“No one else would put up with you!”
“You’re lucky I stay!”
“You know your family think the same way about you, I do!”

Healthy love is not about control or hurting you, or making you feel small.

You are not crazy.
Your voice has been silenced.

I work with individuals who feel powerless and confused, anxious, or emotionally trapped in their relationship.

You deserve clarity.
You deserve to be heard.
You deserve to feel safe.
You deserve to live in peace in your home.

You don’t have to go through this alone.
Take the first step towards support and empathy by clicking on the link above for a booking today.

19/02/2026

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Before You Tell The Kids….Read This

You’re lying in bed thinking,
“Maybe we’d all be happier apart.”

Most couples dont separate because they hate each other.

They separate because they feel
Unheard
Resentful
Lonely in the same room
Exhausted from trying

It gets more complicated with children.
You are not the only ones who will be affected by this decision.

Here’s what no one tells you.
Once you say the words
“We’re separating”, you can’t unsay them.

The children can’t unhear them.
Their world is about to be torn apart.

I’m not suggesting anyone stays in an unsafe relationship.

Have you tried structured, intentional counselling?

Or have you just been fighting…..alone?

Before Lawyers.
Before telling the children.
Before dividing the holidays.

Give your relationship the time to heal and repair in counselling, a safe place where both people are heard and validated.

No reactivity.
No blaming.
No attacking.
Be honest and vulnerable.

Book a session today before you walk away from your relationship.

Take the first step by clicking on the link above for a booking today.

18/02/2026

I do not just want to guide them through childhood, I want to witness their whole life unfold.

There is something deeper than just raising children. It is not only about packed lunches, school runs, and bedtime stories. It is about watching their personality form. Seeing their confidence grow. Listening to their dreams change as they discover who they are. It is about being present for the small moments that slowly build into a lifetime.

You do not just want to teach them how to walk. You want to see where their feet take them. The careers they choose. The cities they move to. The love they find. You want to sit at their wedding, not just as a parent who raised them, but as someone who truly knows their journey. You want to meet the person who makes them feel safe. To understand the life they build outside of you.

And one day, you want to hold their babies. To see a new generation that carries pieces of them. To feel time pass and realize that your love stretched further than you ever imagined. It is not about control. It is about connection. About being a steady presence through every season.

That kind of love is patient. It is long term. It is not only focused on today’s struggles. It is focused on decades of memories. Growing old with them means choosing to stay, to show up, to care through every stage. Not just to raise them, but to remain part of the story for as long as life allows.

18/02/2026

What does respect really mean?
What does it mean to treat someone with respect?
I think it means to treat someone with kindness and compassion because you believe they are worthy of that kindness and compassion.
Aren’t children worthy of respect, if this is what respect means?
But too often we see obedience as a sign of respect, when it comes to children.
With adults, we see kindness as respectful. But with children, it’s obedience.

This is from my latest book Love Grows. Available NOW through the link in my bio

Comment LOVE GROWS or go to the link in my bio to order your book today.

Title: Love Grows: A Collection of Works By J. Milburn

18/02/2026

Children do not become what we tell them. They become what feels familiar.

The tone we use. The way we handle stress. The way we repair after hard moments. The safety they feel in our presence. All of it becomes their internal blueprint for love, for conflict, for belonging.

If home feels steady, respectful, and emotionally safe, that is what their nervous system learns as normal. And one day, that is what they will gravitate toward in friendships, in partners, and in the way they parent their own children.

We are not just managing behavior in the moment. We are shaping what love feels like in their body.

When children grow up surrounded by patience, accountability, warmth, and repair, they do not have to search for love in chaos. They recognize calm. They expect respect. They choose relationships that feel safe.

The environment we create today becomes the relationships they choose tomorrow.

18/02/2026

Australian research (Salter, Woodlock, Whitten, et al., 2023) found that around 9% of Australian men had engaged in sexual offending against children. This included behaviours such as viewing illegal material, sexual communication, or physical contact with minors.

About half of these men (5%) also reported ongoing sexual feelings towards children. Compared to men without such feelings, they were:
🟥More likely to be married.
🟥Almost 3 times more likely to work with children.
🟥More likely to earn a higher income.
🟥Over 4 times more likely to binge drink weekly.
🟥Twice as likely to have experienced multiple adverse childhood events.
🟥25 times more likely to hold pro-offending attitudes about online child sexual abuse.
🟥Heavier internet and social media users.
🟥Over 11 times more likely to watch violent po*******hy.

Read more curated research around child sexual abuse on the Bravehearts website: GO TO - bravehearts.org.au/research-lobbying/stats-facts/

18/02/2026

Some days parenting feels calm and connected. Other days it feels loud, messy, and overwhelming. If you’ve ever felt your frustration rising, you are not a bad parent — you are a human one.

Children don’t need perfect adults. They need adults who notice their feelings, take responsibility for their reactions, and show that big emotions can be handled safely. That’s how regulation is really taught.

The goal isn’t to never feel frustrated. The goal is to model what to do when we are. Pause. Breathe. Name it. Repair if needed. These moments quietly shape how a child learns to handle their own storms.

What helps you calm yourself in hard parenting moments? Your ideas might support another parent reading.

For practical tools, scripts, and visuals that build emotional regulation step-by-step, my parent resources go deeper — link in comments below ⬇️ or via Linktree Shop in Bio.

18/02/2026

The way we speak to children becomes the voice they carry inside for life. Words are not just sounds to a developing brain. They are blueprints.

When adults consistently speak to children as if they are wise, kind, capable, and valued, the brain begins wiring around that identity. Children internalize what they hear repeatedly. “You are thoughtful.” “You are strong.” “You are learning.” These statements shape self-perception.

Neuroscience shows that belief systems form early. A child who feels seen and positively reflected develops stronger confidence, resilience, and emotional regulation. When their inner voice mirrors encouragement instead of criticism, they approach challenges with curiosity instead of fear.

This does not mean ignoring mistakes. It means correcting behavior without attacking identity. Guidance can coexist with affirmation. A child can make poor choices and still be spoken to as someone inherently good and capable.

Children tend to become the stories they are told about themselves. When we speak to them as if they are kind and capable, they strive to live up to that vision. The tone we use today quietly shapes who they believe they are tomorrow.

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