08/04/2025
Divorce is a significant life transition, akin to a rite of passage. It's a tough one, too.
It takes immense courage to make the choice to divorce, a decision that often comes after months and years of questioning, second-guessing, and gaslighting.
There were years of doubt, unhappiness vieavied with happy moments, moments with kids nad family.
Year of laughter, of growth, of dreams and beautiful journeys together.
Our mothers and their generations fought hard to be able to leave highly dysfunctional relationships.
These days, we have more freedom to choose our paths, including the decision to divorce, a choice that was often not readily available in the past.
We also tent to divorce faster, sooner and for less problems. Our expectations of what a good marriage looks like have changed significantly and is still eveolving.
When I was confiding in my mum about the struggles in my marriage, she had some hard questions for me and also shared more about the profound sense of isolation she experienced in her own marriage.
"if only someone just made me a cup of tea and wished me a good morning".
My parents marriage was far from ideal and as a teenager I wished they would divorce much sooner than they actually did, which was after I left home.
In today's world, divorce is increasingly recognized not as a failure but as a courageous step toward personal growth and new opportunities.
Every relationship, even those that end in divorce, imparts valuable lessons, shaping and guiding us toward who we aspire to be. Choosing to part ways can be a testament to self-awareness and the pursuit of happiness.
Either way, if you are on my page, intense growth isn't too far from you. It comes with growing pains, I know.
Whatever you choose, remember this is a rite of passage, and you are strong!
