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23/12/2025

𝐋𝐄𝐓'𝐒 𝐓𝐀𝐋𝐊
We all know to ask open-ended questions if we want to create a mature, motivational and positive conversation. But why not "why"?

A "Why?" question can often prompt a reaction of defense or offence and it usually doesn't get you a sophisticated answer. Add a tone of doubt or accusation to your why question and the conversation is likely to take a downward spiral very quickly.

Bringing in the old How, What, When, Who and other conversation starters will help you ask a more comprehensive question to which you are more likely to get the full and unbiased answer you are looking for.

"Why did you do that?" may result in "Because I want to", "Because you told me to", "What's it to you!"
versus
"What brought you to that decision?" or "Can you help me understand what's happening here?" or "Show me how this works".

By using this technique you're likely to receive a more substantial answer and one that is closer to the intention of your question as it implies curiosity rather than judgement.

I'd love you try this during the week and let me know how you get on.

19/12/2025

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16/12/2025

𝐋𝐞𝐭'𝐬 𝐓𝐚𝐥𝐤
Body language and non-verbal cues equate to around 93% of the impact of your communication with words making up a meager 7%!

We are taught to chose our words carefully, and, of course, these are absolutely important, whilst at the same time being aware of the tone of our voice and the physical queues we are projecting.

It's difficult to exude confidence if you are speaking at a meeting with your head down and fiddling with your shoe laces! No matter how amazing your presentation.

Will someone really believe you if you are complimenting them while you're yawning or talking to someone else at the same time?

How can you be taken seriously if you are checking your emails whilst reprimanding someone?

Heads up. Be present. Factor in your physical cues, tone of voice and choice of language.
I'd love to hear how you get on with these.

12/12/2025

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09/12/2025

𝐋𝐄𝐓'𝐒 𝐓𝐀𝐋𝐊
You're looking fantastic but ....
When you hear that word ... but ... you brace yourself for the negative, right? It's just one little word that can really change the flavour of a sentence, even when there is positive intention!

Using the word "but" negates the statement that came before it. On top of that it can often shut down dialogue and reduce the opportunity for what needs to be said. Try using the word "and" instead.

I want to meet with you 𝐛𝐮𝐭 I'm busy right now. (𝑃𝑜𝑡𝑒𝑛𝑡𝑖𝑎𝑙 𝑓𝑜𝑟 𝑜𝑡ℎ𝑒𝑟 𝑝𝑒𝑟𝑠𝑜𝑛 𝑝𝑟𝑒𝑠𝑢𝑚𝑖𝑛𝑔 𝑦𝑜𝑢 𝑑𝑜𝑛'𝑡 ℎ𝑎𝑣𝑒 𝑡𝑖𝑚𝑒 𝑓𝑜𝑟 𝑡ℎ𝑒𝑚)
I want to meet with you 𝐚𝐧𝐝 would love to schedule something for this afternoon.

You've done a great job on that project 𝐛𝐮𝐭 the deadline has changed. (𝑃𝑜𝑡𝑒𝑛𝑡𝑖𝑎𝑙 𝑓𝑜𝑟 𝑜𝑡ℎ𝑒𝑟 𝑝𝑒𝑟𝑠𝑜𝑛 𝑡𝑜 𝑓𝑒𝑒𝑙 𝑡ℎ𝑒𝑟𝑒 𝑎𝑟𝑒 𝑛𝑜 𝑚𝑜𝑟𝑒 𝑜𝑝𝑡𝑖𝑜𝑛𝑠)
You've done a great job on that project 𝐚𝐧𝐝 with the changing deadline I've approved extra hours.

Swap 𝐛𝐮𝐭 for 𝐚𝐧𝐝 this week and monitor the response! I'd love to hear how you get on.

05/12/2025

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02/12/2025

𝐋𝐄𝐓'𝐒 𝐓𝐀𝐋𝐊
Great leaders know how to get the most out of their teams.
Great leaders know how to set meaningful boundaries whilst giving the other person options.
Great leaders know how to maintain focus on the desired result.

"This or That" strategy will help you narrow your focus for output and allow the other person a clear understanding of what is expected to be part of a successful outcome.

P.S. Works great for the kids as well! 😉

28/11/2025

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When we are down, we can be quite hard on ourselves. "I'm not good enough"... "smart enough"... "rich enough"... "thin enough"- it's different for each of us. Do you ever stop yourself in these moments and instead think what you ARE?!

It’s time to shift your and who you are, what you are, what you have and what you've achieved.

25/11/2025

𝐋𝐄𝐓'𝐒 𝐓𝐀𝐋𝐊
Our unconscious mind cannot process negatives.
Saying what 𝑛𝑜𝑡 to do just conjures up an image of what 𝐭𝐨 𝐝𝐨 first! Our brain has to understand the thing before we can disengage from it.

Communicating with positive language and being clear on what you 𝑑𝑜 𝑤𝑎𝑛𝑡 decreases confusion and ambiguity whilst building productivity and clarity. To get the most out of your teams, managers, friends and family use positive and productive language.

18/11/2025

𝐋𝐄𝐓'𝐒 𝐓𝐀𝐋𝐊
𝐴𝑔𝑟𝑒𝑒𝑚𝑒𝑛𝑡 𝑜𝑟 𝑇𝑎𝑘𝑒𝑜𝑣𝑒𝑟?

When you are trying to get your message across do people feel like you are expressing your view whilst respecting their opinion or that you completely take over and push your message across to anyone who will listen? 😬

If you're not the Takeover type I'm sure you have experienced being on the other side of a pushy, opinionated person who cannot or will not listen to your thoughts and views. And, as we all know, it's not pleasant. Nor does it allow for growth, inclusion or productivity.

We can't change others but we can certainly learn more about effective communication and be an example to those around us. To assist with creating conversations that are balanced and open let's look at Agreement Frames.

Agreement Frames aren't about agreeing with everything the other person says and you backing down from 𝑦𝑜𝑢𝑟 view. To the contrary! Being the People Pleaser or Yes Person is certainly not the way to a Balanced and Effective Life! Agreement Frames are about giving respect to the other person's opinion whilst, at the same time, expressing yours. It's about avoiding resistance from the other person, in order to keep them involved in the conversation and open up new ideas.

The three Agreement Frames are:
I appreciate ...
I agree ...
I respect ...

If someone tells you "I'm too busy to keep coming to meetings every week" you could respond with
"Everyone is busy - I need you to make the effort!" OR you could use an Agreement Frame:
"𝐼 𝑎𝑝𝑝𝑟𝑒𝑐𝑖𝑎𝑡𝑒 you are busy and as I value your input I'd love you to come each time."
"𝐼 𝑟𝑒𝑠𝑝𝑒𝑐𝑡 that you have a big workload at the moment and it would be great if you could attend every fortnight."
"𝐼 𝑎𝑔𝑟𝑒𝑒, you have a lot going on at the moment, and I would love you to share your findings next week with the others."
You can see the difference between the first response - putting your opinion across and shutting the other person down - and the Agreement Frame options.

It's important that when you say I appreciate, I agree or I respect, that you sincerely and legitimately do! You need to be sincere in your approach and choose your words carefully for this to be a win-win for all parties. Your goal is for the other person to feel listened to and to keep the lines of communication open and respectful.

I'd love to hear about your experiences with the Agreement Frames and what differences they made to your conversations.

14/11/2025

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