The Balance Tree (2026)

30/01/2026

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27/01/2026

𝐋𝐄𝐓'𝐒 𝐓𝐀𝐋𝐊
𝐼𝑓 𝑎𝑛𝑑 𝑇ℎ𝑒𝑛 - 𝑇ℎ𝑖𝑠 𝑤𝑎𝑦 𝑜𝑓 𝑡ℎ𝑖𝑛𝑘𝑖𝑛𝑔 𝑘𝑒𝑒𝑝𝑠 𝑦𝑜𝑢 𝑠𝑡𝑢𝑐𝑘!

I was recently speaking with a client who was keen to lose weight, eat healthier meals, exercise more and, in general, be healthier. I guided her through some processes to help her understand what she needed to reach these "health" goals. In all her thinking this "if and then" scenario kept forcing its way through - IF I lose weight THEN I'll be able to exercise ... IF I lose weight THEN I'll have more energy to prepare healthier meals ... IF I lose weight THEN I'll be happier ... IF I lose weight THEN ... Can you hear her logic!?

Everything she wanted to achieve was being blocked by the thought that losing weight had to be the first step. And yet, it was all the other steps that would help her to lose the weight! This limiting belief that her weight was holding her back from everything else was stopping her from doing everything else! Can you see how we do this do ourselves - thinking that we can only have one thing if something else happens.

Well ... what if ... we can have it all? And it all comes down to adding one little word to our vocab. Whilst.

I will exercise whilst losing weight
I will lose weight whilst having more energy
I will be happy whilst losing weight
I will lose weight whilst being happy

Can you feel the shift that this brings? We are giving ourselves permission to work in harmony with our goals.
So, focus on your ability to solve your own problems by being curious, being positive, looking for other options and knowing what it is that's holding you back.

I would love to hear back from you when you try this for yourself!

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23/01/2026

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20/01/2026

𝐋𝐄𝐓'𝐒 𝐓𝐀𝐋𝐊
𝐴𝑟𝑒 𝑦𝑜𝑢 𝑎𝑏𝑙𝑒 𝑡𝑜 𝑡𝑎𝑘𝑒 𝑐𝑜𝑚𝑚𝑎𝑛𝑑 𝑜𝑓 𝑎 𝑑𝑖𝑠𝑐𝑢𝑠𝑠𝑖𝑜𝑛 𝑜𝑟 𝑎𝑟𝑒 𝑦𝑜𝑢 𝑙𝑒𝑓𝑡 𝑤𝑜𝑛𝑑𝑒𝑟𝑖𝑛𝑔 𝑤ℎ𝑦 𝑛𝑜𝑏𝑜𝑑𝑦 𝑡𝑎𝑘𝑒𝑠 𝑦𝑜𝑢 𝑠𝑒𝑟𝑖𝑜𝑢𝑠𝑙𝑦?

This can apply at work and at home, right!?
😕 You ask for something to be done and everyone looks at you as though you're not being serious
😕 You give a direction and everyone seems confused
😕 You say what you want and everyone pushes back
Have you experienced that?

There is a simple solution and yet it does require a little practice. It's called tonality and it goes like this.

When you are in command your tone goes DOWN 🔻 When it goes up it's received as a question and this is why you are not taken seriously, people are confused and you get push back!
💭Their thought process is "Does she want this or is she ASKING me ... which means I can say NO!"💭

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16/01/2026

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13/01/2026

𝐋𝐄𝐓'𝐒 𝐓𝐀𝐋𝐊
𝐴𝑟𝑒 𝑦𝑜𝑢 𝑡𝑎𝑙𝑘𝑖𝑛𝑔 𝑡𝑜 𝑚𝑒?

We all want to be listened to. Whether we're about to say something out-of-this-world profound or to seek a simple request, there is nothing more annoying than the recipient responding with a "What?" or worse - being totally oblivious you've said a word!

So, how can you rectify this? Easy! Gain the person's attention by starting your sentence with their name. Our name is an important part of our identity, it is the easiest heard word across a crowded room - who doesn't turn around when they hear their name!

𝑫𝒂𝒍𝒆 𝑪𝒂𝒓𝒏𝒆𝒈𝒊𝒆 𝒔𝒕𝒂𝒕𝒆𝒅 “𝑨 𝒑𝒆𝒓𝒔𝒐𝒏’𝒔 𝒏𝒂𝒎𝒆 𝒊𝒔 𝒕𝒐 𝒉𝒊𝒎 𝒐𝒓 𝒉𝒆𝒓 𝒕𝒉𝒆 𝒔𝒘𝒆𝒆𝒕𝒆𝒔𝒕 𝒂𝒏𝒅 𝒎𝒐𝒔𝒕 𝒊𝒎𝒑𝒐𝒓𝒕𝒂𝒏𝒕 𝒔𝒐𝒖𝒏𝒅 𝒊𝒏 𝒂𝒏𝒚 𝒍𝒂𝒏𝒈𝒖𝒂𝒈𝒆.”

Using someone's name regularly, correctly and respectfully is a sign of courtesy. Do you remember how you felt when someone remembered your name after being introduced or at a meeting? We feel respected and more important. What about when someone used the wrong name or pronounced it incorrectly or you've had to repeat it several times? We may feel trivial and slighted.

So take your time and show respect when using someone's name. It is a powerful statement of respect and a brilliant word to gain their attention.

P.S. Out of curiousity - do you have a name that is regularly misspelt or mispronounced? Do you correct people or just let it go?

09/01/2026

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06/01/2026

𝐋𝐄𝐓'𝐒 𝐓𝐀𝐋𝐊
𝑅𝑒𝑠𝑝𝑒𝑐𝑡 𝑜𝑡ℎ𝑒𝑟𝑠' 𝑣𝑖𝑒𝑤 𝑜𝑓 𝑡ℎ𝑒 𝑤𝑜𝑟𝑙𝑑
Can you? Do you?
I'm sure you know someone who seems to take over a conversation, push their own point of view or continually 'story top' - or is that someone 𝑦𝑜𝑢!? 😱

Everyone has their own view of the world - perspective depends on culture, upbringing, geography, spirituality, health, wealth ...

When we communicate with only one view - our own - we shut out the opportunity to learn, grow, create and build relationships.

I recently had a conversation with someone who was very opposed to something a neighbour had done. When she found out that the neighbour was nursing a sick husband, and trying to look after two young grandchildren on her own, this person developed respect for the neighbour's behaviour and actions. The point of view she had been pushing was defused when she took time to understand the full story - rather than her own version of it.

When we enter into conversations with curiousity and compassion we are given the gift of seeing how others view the world.
Can you? Will you?

30/12/2025

𝐋𝐄𝐓'𝐒 𝐓𝐀𝐋𝐊
𝑊ℎ𝑎𝑡'𝑠 𝑡ℎ𝑒 𝑝𝑢𝑟𝑝𝑜𝑠𝑒 𝑜𝑓 𝑡ℎ𝑎𝑡?
This is one of the most powerful resources I have been taught and that I can gift to you!

This phrase has changed my confidence and provided me with the most simple expression of empowerment both in my career and in my personal life. This is how it works ...

Do you struggle to say 'no' - because you don't want to let the other person down?
Do you say 'yes', then later regret it?
Do you agree to something that you're not sure about just because you feel honoured they've asked you?

Saying 'yes' to everything isn't always the best answer for you OR the other party!

If you're asked to do something and you're not sure you're the right person for the job, you don't have the time, or you simply don't want to, ask the person ...
𝐖𝐡𝐚𝐭'𝐬 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐩𝐮𝐫𝐩𝐨𝐬𝐞 𝐨𝐟 𝐭𝐡𝐚𝐭? OR 𝐖𝐡𝐚𝐭'𝐬 𝐌𝐘 𝐩𝐮𝐫𝐩𝐨𝐬𝐞 𝐢𝐧 𝐭𝐡𝐚𝐭?

It may be you're the only one who always says 'yes' (ouch) or
You were the closest at the time (oucher) or
there is no purpose at all (ouchier)!!
OR
you get an amazing and purposeful answer and you want in - no regrets!

I'd love to hear your experiences as you introduce this simple and effective phrase into your life.

26/12/2025

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23/12/2025

𝐋𝐄𝐓'𝐒 𝐓𝐀𝐋𝐊
We all know to ask open-ended questions if we want to create a mature, motivational and positive conversation. But why not "why"?

A "Why?" question can often prompt a reaction of defense or offence and it usually doesn't get you a sophisticated answer. Add a tone of doubt or accusation to your why question and the conversation is likely to take a downward spiral very quickly.

Bringing in the old How, What, When, Who and other conversation starters will help you ask a more comprehensive question to which you are more likely to get the full and unbiased answer you are looking for.

"Why did you do that?" may result in "Because I want to", "Because you told me to", "What's it to you!"
versus
"What brought you to that decision?" or "Can you help me understand what's happening here?" or "Show me how this works".

By using this technique you're likely to receive a more substantial answer and one that is closer to the intention of your question as it implies curiosity rather than judgement.

I'd love you try this during the week and let me know how you get on.

19/12/2025

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