Hills Healing Haven, Upwey (2025)

Kate 🌟 Breathwork Coach + Reiki Master + Somatic Healer

Holding space for sensitive souls to heal & come home to self
💫 Breathwork • Somatic • Reiki Grounded & heart-led
🌿 Online & in-person sessions | Aus

05/09/2025

True nervous system regulation isn’t about always being calm — it’s about being flexible.

Regulation doesn’t mean you’re zen all the time. It means you have range.
It’s the ability to move through stress, activation, and emotion — and choose your response, rather than being run by reaction.

✨ To feel anger or fear without shutting down.
✨ To experience overwhelm and still stay connected to yourself.
✨ To come back to safety and ease when your body is ready — not when you force it.

That’s real regulation.

Because life isn’t calm all the time — and it isn’t meant to be.
A regulated nervous system is one that adapts. It flexes. It feels.
And most importantly — it chooses.

👉 You choose how to respond.
👉 You choose what you need.
👉 You choose when to rest, speak up, move, or soften.

And at the centre of it all — you create your baseline in ventral vagal:
💛 Connection
💛 Safety
💛 Feeling content in your body and with the world

This becomes your home base. The place your nervous system knows how to return to again and again.

It’s not about controlling your state — it’s about creating enough inner safety to trust yourself in all of them.

This is the heart of healing.
This is nervous system wisdom.
This is where freedom lives.

20/08/2025

✨ Your Body Can’t Tell the Difference ✨

At a body-survival level, your system doesn’t know the difference between running from a tiger… and rushing from school drop-off to work to errands.

The constant go-go-go signals danger to your nervous system.
And when your body hears “danger,” it responds the only way it knows how — by shifting into survival mode.

⚡ Faster heart rate
⚡ Shallow breathing
⚡ Tense muscles
⚡ Hyper-alert mind

If this becomes your everyday rhythm, your body starts to believe this state is normal. Survival mode becomes your new baseline — which means you’re living in fight/flight even when there’s no actual threat.

But here’s the truth: your body was never designed to live in constant urgency.
It was designed to rise to a challenge and then return to safety.

🌿 The first step? Noticing when you’re rushing.
Becoming aware of how often you’re moving, eating, driving, or even thinking in a hurry. Awareness is the doorway to change.

✨ Then, practice slowing down. It doesn’t always mean taking a full day off — it can be as simple as pausing for a few deep breaths, eating without multitasking, or stepping outside to feel the sun on your skin.

Safety lives in these moments of pause. It’s in the slowing down that your nervous system exhales, your breath deepens, and your body remembers:
“I’m not in danger anymore.”

05/08/2025

In my healing work, I see certain beliefs come up again and again—not just in the mind, but deeply stored in the body.

These beliefs often form in childhood or during times when emotional needs weren’t met with safety or support.
They once helped protect you—but over time, they can shape your life in ways that keep you feeling stuck, small, or disconnected.

Here are some of the most common I see:

🌿 “I’m not safe.”
If your environment felt unpredictable or unsafe growing up, your nervous system may still be on alert. You might find it hard to relax, trust, or feel at ease—even when life is stable now.

🌿 “I’m not enough.”
Rooted in criticism, comparison, or conditional love. You may constantly strive, please, or prove yourself—yet never feel like it’s truly enough.

🌿 “My needs don’t matter” / “I’m too much.”
If your emotions were shamed or ignored, you may now stay quiet, suppress needs, or feel guilty for expressing yourself or taking up space.

🌿 “If I rest, I’ll fall behind (or something bad will happen).”
When life required constant effort to feel safe, rest can feel threatening. You might push through exhaustion or feel uneasy slowing down.

🌿 “Love has to be earned.”
If love came through being ‘good,’ helpful, or high achieving, you may feel unworthy unless you’re constantly doing something to earn connection.

🌿 “There’s something wrong with me.”
Often rooted in invalidation or feeling misunderstood. It can show up as shame, isolation, or believing healing isn’t possible for you.

🌿 “I can’t trust others.”
If connection once brought pain or betrayal, you might long for closeness—but also fear it deeply, keeping others at a safe distance.

🌿 “It’s not safe to feel.”
When emotions were met with rejection or overwhelm, your body may have learned to numb or avoid feelings altogether.

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These beliefs are not your fault.
They’re adaptations—your body’s way of protecting you in the past.

And now, with safety, awareness and support, they can begin to shift.
Your system can learn that it’s safe to soften.
To connect.
To be.

02/08/2025

Why PMS Feels So Emotional: It’s Not Just Hormones — It’s Old Wounds Rising

📌 Save this for your next luteal phase
👭 This one’s for the ladies.

So many of my clients tell me how much they struggle during PMS — like they’ve taken 10 steps back in their healing.
And I want you to know: you’re not alone.
You’re not broken.
You’re just finally feeling what you’ve been holding in all month.

Let’s break it down:

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💥 What’s Really Happening in PMS?

👉 In your luteal phase (the 10–14 days before your period), estrogen & progesterone drop
👉 That means less serotonin + less GABA = less calm + more sensitivity
👉 Your nervous system becomes more reactive = less capacity to suppress

That’s why the tears, the rage, the overwhelm come out of nowhere — or so it seems.

What’s really happening?
The part of you that’s held it all in all month… finally speaks.

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🧠 Why Do Old Wounds Come Up?

Because your emotional “filters” are lowered.

The wound that’s been whispering “I’m not safe.”
“I’m not heard.”
“I don’t matter.”
…now starts yelling.

These are the parts of you that weren’t allowed to feel, speak, or express as a child.
And now, when your body is raw and honest — they rise.

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🔄 It’s Not a Breakdown — It’s an Invitation

Instead of shaming yourself or trying to “fix it”… what if you listened?

What if you met that angry, tired, unseen part of you and said:
“I hear you. I see you. You don’t have to hold this alone anymore.”

This is how we heal.
This is reparenting.
This is nervous system repair.
This is cyclical wisdom.

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🌙 Gentle Support Tools for PMS Wound Work:

• Magnesium, B6, saffron (mood + calm)
• Somatic release (shaking, stomping, breath)
• Boundaries that honour your needs too
• Inner child journaling — ask: “What do you need from me today?”
• Say no more often. You don’t have to earn rest.

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✨ You’re not crazy.
You’re not too much.
You’re just finally feeling what your body has been carrying.

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