02/02/2026
âTake up space!â - My latest life advice⌠straight from the pool.
Iâve started swimming laps again after a long break.
Swimming has held me through some big moments in my life - my divorce, intense work stress, and rebuilding my life.
Itâs always been where I think less, and exhale more (well, you know what I mean).
This week I had a lane to myself (luxury đ
). I was so excited.
Yet it took me twenty minutes to swim down the middle.
When I did, it felt incredible - no keeping track of anyone else or adjusting my speed, just smooth rhythm and room to move. It felt spacious. Free. Almost indulgent.
But after every lap, when my mind was on something else, I went back to the left again.
Autopilot. Old pattern. Body memory kicking in.
Because I had learnt:
â
Left side = good pool etiquette, polite, the right thing to do.
â Middle = selfish, arrogant, rude
Then part of me started speaking up:
âWhy arenât you in the middle? No one else is here. Take up space!â
I started wondering:
đ Where else in my life am I still swimming on the left?
đ Where am I containing myself instead of being spacious?
đ Where am I over-accommodating?
And then I thought, I really should tap on this.
And then I thought ⌠this is a good analogy!!
So many of our patterns started as something good. Kind. Considerate. Safe. Smart.
But years later⌠they can quietly become the things that keep us small, contained, restricted.
The deep ingrained patterns held by the body will always override our mind, until we change these patterns at the body-level.
This is the work we do in âEnough of Not Good Enoughâ - my 5 week nervous system based program to help women change the patterns that stop them from taking up space in their own life (lane!).
The March intake opens this week!
(More detail in link in comments if youâre interested)