09/11/2025
They didn’t need to say a word…
Their body already told the story.
Their eyes whispered it.
Their patterns revealed it.
1️⃣ They explain themselves over and over, not for attention,
but because they were taught love needed proof,
and feelings had to be justified to be accepted.
2️⃣ They spiral when you go quiet, not from control,
but because silence once meant danger,
and distance still feels like abandonment.
3️⃣ They ask to be reassured “Do you still love me?”
Because they grew up with unpredictable affection,
where love came and went without warning.
4️⃣ They feel guilty for wanting closeness.
Because as a child, needing comfort made them “too much,”
so now they hide their longing behind independence.
5️⃣ They check in constantly, “Are we okay?”
Because they learned early that safety meant anticipating moods,
not expressing their own.
6️⃣ They overanalyze every tone, every text
because their nervous system became fluent in the unsaid.
7️⃣ They hold on, even when it hurts
because part of them still believes love must be proven to be kept.
This isn’t “clingy.”
It’s conditioning.
It’s trauma wisdom.
It’s the body remembering what it took to survive.
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