01/04/2026
5 Things Anxious People Need in Order to Find Peace
These are very valuable for healing anxiety
1. Being Present
Those with anxiety think about the past, ruminating about what has happened. The mind uses lots of energy to go over what ifs, embarrassments and regrets.
They will also worry about what could happen in the future. Imagining unwanted outcomes is common with anxiety. These past and future thoughts are about things 'not happening' now.
We can train our mind to be in the present moment. What does this look like? Being present to the needs of your body, like rest and safety. To be present in your relationships. Being present appreciating a smile, the beauty of nature and animals.
2. Truth
Anxiety distorts truth. An example of this is thinking about something that is not happening and then blowing it up to the extreme negative. I got rejected, must mean I’m a terrible person and not worthy enough.
The reality may be the person left their phone at home or had a genuine reason for not getting back to us. In this example of rejection, there is zero correlation with our self-worth. Separate the story anxiety makes up, from the truth and you will be free.
Seek out the truth or as close to the truth as possible. Investigate, in order to find out what is real. Form your conclusions about life based on facts, whilst simultaneously disconnecting from the anxious false imagination.
3. Blessings
Everybody has been through difficult times. It is easy enough to label something as terrible however this misses out on the healing power of gratitude. No matter what has occurred there are blessings to be found in relationship difficulties, financial struggles and even grief.
Is there a difference between being grateful once per year vs once per day? Yes, about 365X the healing benefit. Just as anxiety can be habitual, so too can gratitude become an automatic response for your body/mind system, thus changing your mind and brain chemistry.
The trick is to focus on gratitude consistently. Spend time reflecting on your blessings. Write down every single advantage and blessing in your situation, until your heart is open, your body light and there are tears of appreciation.
4. Physical Relaxation
When physically rested we are more likely to be emotionally settled. Body affects mind and vice versa. Although meditation is not a new recommendation it is highly valuable to clear the mind, improve sleep and recover energy. Incorporate meditation and hypnotherapy as part of your lifestyle.
Whilst meditating you can steady your breathing which calms your nervous system. Meditation gives you the opportunity to take advantage of my first 3 recommendations too. Be present, think about what is definitely true (disengage from the false) and count your blessings.
Meditation does not need to be just sitting still. You can use it as an opportunity to heal your thoughts. What can anxiety say when you are present, being realistic and grateful? Nothing. Anxiety is quiet now.
"Being present, truth and gratitude are healing - the opposite of being anxious."
5. Expressing Yourself
Anxiety that is hidden sticks around whereas expressing our feelings creates a healing opportunity. Choose a trusted person or professional to ‘unpack’ your thoughts. There are several potential benefits to speaking your mind leading to anxiety reduction.
• When you tell people, they have a greater chance to support you.
• Being understood can be a great relief.
• Talking things through can help you realise a new perspective.
• Talking things through can lead to solutions from other people we wouldn’t have thought of ourselves.
• Expressing your feelings lightens your load and releases physical tension.
• An expression of joy, desire, gratitude, despair, anger and sadness is cathartic – healing.
• You will have zero anxiety about people finding out what you are going through after you tell them.
• Expressing truth means hidden anxiety no longer controls you, you are owning it.
