Aware Psychology

15/05/2024

This is a growing interest of mine and will soon become what I offer in addition to individual therapy. Sound is a universal medium of connection and particular sound frequencies have been proven to heal hence the rising of this modality to large groups…
We, the people, are aching for connection to self and this is one, of many, pathways that can expedite that reality. And so it shall be ❤️

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16/06/2023

I love this message 💗

GOD, THIS IS BEAUTIFUL! TAKE THE TIME TO READ IT ❤️
As someone who writes often, I naturally appreciate epic writing when I see it. About two years ago, I came across this written piece of art by John Roedel and it moved me deeply, so I had to share it with all of you! Not only are these words true theatre, they also act as sound advice ❤️

my brain and
heart divorced

a decade ago

over who was
to blame about
how big of a mess
I have become

eventually,
they couldn't be
in the same room
with each other

now my head and heart
share custody of me

I stay with my brain
during the week

and my heart
gets me on weekends

they never speak to one another

- instead, they give me
the same note to pass
to each other every week

and their notes they
send to one another always
says the same thing:

"This is all your fault"

on Sundays
my heart complains
about how my
head has let me down
in the past

and on Wednesday
my head lists all
of the times my
heart has screwed
things up for me
in the future

they blame each
other for the
state of my life

there's been a lot
of yelling - and crying

so,

lately, I've been
spending a lot of
time with my gut

who serves as my
unofficial therapist

most nights, I sneak out of the
window in my ribcage

and slide down my spine
and collapse on my
gut's plush leather chair
that's always open for me

~ and I just sit sit sit sit
until the sun comes up

last evening,
my gut asked me
if I was having a hard
time being caught
between my heart
and my head

I nodded

I said I didn't know
if I could live with
either of them anymore

"my heart is always sad about
something that happened yesterday
while my head is always worried
about something that may happen tomorrow,"
I lamented

my gut squeezed my hand

"I just can't live with
my mistakes of the past
or my anxiety about the future,"
I sighed

my gut smiled and said:

"in that case,
you should
go stay with your
lungs for a while,"

I was confused
- the look on my face gave it away

"if you are exhausted about
your heart's obsession with
the fixed past and your mind's focus
on the uncertain future

your lungs are the perfect place for you

there is no yesterday in your lungs
there is no tomorrow there either

there is only now
there is only inhale
there is only exhale
there is only this moment

there is only breath

and in that breath
you can rest while your
heart and head work
their relationship out."

this morning,
while my brain
was busy reading
tea leaves

and while my
heart was staring
at old photographs

I packed a little
bag and walked
to the door of
my lungs

before I could even knock
she opened the door
with a smile and as
a gust of air embraced me
she said

"what took you so long?"

~ John Roedel (johnroedel.com)

12/06/2023

This is what I am cultivating… what about you?

WHEN SILENCE MEETS SILENCE

There is a field … out beyond social convention, beyond social chit-chat, beyond social niceties. I’ll meet you there.

There is a field … beyond the dream of separation, beyond the matrix of the world, beyond the need to appease an imaginary aloneness. I’ll meet you there.

It’s an open space, a timeless space, in which a true meeting can take place. It’s the spaciousness of our minds, the openness of our hearts. It’s unpolluted by the narratives that run you ragged, unencumbered by your past ghosts, untethered by your future dreams.

In this field, I have no need to share with you my suffering, I have no need to foist upon you my hopes or my fears, I have no need to “be friends”. In this field, I meet you in cleanliness, without expectation or agenda. I meet you in the unclouded moment, in the unbroken presence. All else is a dream … and I have no desire to burden you with my imagination.

My friend, there is no hole in me that needs to be filled with social niceties. There is no place in me that needs to find connection … because there are not two, but one. In this wholeness, there is no divide, no bridge to cross to reach you, no ladder we need to climb to get a clearer view.

You too can meet me here. You too can meet your father, your sister, your child, your friend, your enemy … here. You too can meet yourself here. All it takes is the willingness to listen … to listen to the silence that fills the spaceless space, the timeless moment. To listen to the silence in you.

When two silences meet, there is a field of love. I’ll meet you there.

- Amoda Maa

08/06/2023

Even if we never “get results” we may need to hear the sound of our own voice saying what we think and feel and what we know to be true. We speak because that is the ground we want to stand on even if the other person will never get it, offer validation, or feel genuine remorse. We speak because both our speech and our silence reflect who we are and the person we can become-—and both speech and silence may require great courage depending on the particular situation we find ourselves in and what we hope to accomplish.

25/05/2023

I have always loved this quote; it’s meaning invites a space for connection to be seen and heard 😍

❤️

22/05/2023

Self-Compassion Phrases | To remember, and incorporate in any moment 🙏🏽

• May I accept myself as I am
• May I be kind to myself, unconditionally
• May I have courage
• May I remember that we are all human
• May I know that others struggle along with me
• May I give myself the compassion I need
• May I care for myself
• May I cherish myself
• May I have peace of mind

For more information, and resources on self-compassion – please visit self-compassion.org ✨

21/02/2023

John’s heartfelt human works are a Godsend 🥰

At any time you can ask yourself: At which threshold am I now standing? At this time in my life, what am I leaving? Where am I about to enter? What is preventing me from crossing my next threshold? What gift would enable me to do it? A threshold is not a simple boundary; it is a frontier that divides two different territories, rhythms, and atmospheres. Indeed, it is a lovely testimony to the fullness and integrity of an experience or a stage of life that it intensifies toward the end into a real frontier that cannot be crossed without the heart being passionately engaged and woken up. At this threshold a great complexity of emotion comes alive: confusion, fear, excitement, sadness, hope. This is one of the reasons such vital crossings were always clothed in ritual. It is wise in your own life to be able to recognize and acknowledge the key thresholds: to take your time; to feel all the varieties of presence that accrue there; to listen inward with complete attention until you hear the inner voice calling you forward. The time has come to cross.

JOHN O'DONOHUE

Excerpt from his books: To Bless the Space Between Us (US) / Benedictus (Europe)
Ordering Info: https://johnodonohue.com/store

Connemara Cottage Gate, Ireland
Photo: © Ann Cahill

21/02/2023

Happiness is a journey not a destination. The story below lights up this process 🥰 much love

Finding Happiness ... 🌟

"A beautiful woman in an expensive dress came to her psychiatrist, saying that she was depressed and her life was meaningless.

'I'm going to ask Mary here to tell you how she found happiness. All I want you to do is listen to her'

The psychiatrist called the old lady who cleaned the office floors and asked her to share her story with his client.

So the old lady put down her broom, sat on a chair and told her story...

'My husband died of cancer. 3 Months later my only son was killed by a car.. I had nobody.. I had nothing left.. I couldn’t sleep, I couldn't eat, I never smiled at anyone. I even thought of taking my own life.

Then one evening, a little kitten followed me home from work. Somehow I felt sorry for that kitten. It was cold outside, so I decided to let the kitten in. I got it some milk, and the kitten licked the plate clean.

Then it rubbed against my leg and, for the first time in months, I smiled.

Then I stopped to think ... If helping a little kitten could make me smile, may be doing something for people could make me happy.
So the next day I baked some biscuits and took them to a neighbour who was sick in bed.

Every day I tried to do something nice for someone. It made me so happy to see them happy.

Today I don't know of anybody, who sleeps better than I do. I have found happiness by giving it to others.'

When she heard that, the rich lady cried. She had everything money could buy, but she had lost the things money cannot buy.

*The beauty of life does not depend [only] on how happy you are, but [also] on how happy others can be because of you.

Happiness is not a destination. It's a journey. Happiness is not tomorrow, its now.
Happiness is not a dependency, its a decision. Happiness is who you are, not what you have."

🖋️~Unknown~
(Edit * brackets added)

🎨 Artist : Jungsuk Lee