22/10/2025
🩵Card of the Day🩵
When you're grieving you may find yourself more easily upset and reminded of past trauma. Being triggered can catch you off guard, and you may not even realize it's happened until after the fact. If someone says or does something innocently that makes you suddenly have a strong and negative emotional or physical reaction (like sweating, shaking, or becoming jumpy), or you feel yourself suddenly scared or angry in an over-the-top way, protect yourself. Politely excuse yourself from the table, politely wrap up the phone call, or politely let someone know that what they said or did really bothered you.
Often when we're triggered an old wound is reactivated, so make time for emotional processing and self-soothing. When old wounds resurface they can be seeking more healing. Try to see some triggering moments as an opportunity to do just that-heal.
If you know in advance that a situation-like a wedding, baby shower, work meeting, movie, or medical procedure-might be triggering, get extra support. Sometimes avoiding a triggering person or situation is the answer, and other times facing it with compassionate, mindful tools might be the better choice.
Soften triggers by witnessing and observing the world instead of taking everything to heart, and by meeting yourself with unconditional love when triggered. Witness and observe yourself when triggered, and notice what makes you feel soothed, such as: talking to a counselor, working with mindfulness techniques like meditation or breathwork, having a heart-to-heart with a friend, journaling, praying, setting boundaries with others, getting comforting physical touch, being around a pet, repeating a calming mantra, holding a comforting object, or listening to soothing music. Investigate new healing modalities for old wounds. Communicate to others about which subjects and activities might be too upsetting for you now. Buffer yourself against anything or anyone that is unnecessarily stressful, unsettling, and disturbing, Avoid movies, music, news stories, or books dealing with subjects that rub up against your raw and tender spots. Meet yourself with soft energy.🩵