20/12/2025
Wishing everyone a Merry Christmas and a peaceful holiday season đ
Whether youâre surrounded by loved ones, spending it quietly, or somewhere in between, I hope there are moments of rest, gentleness, and care for you.
For many people, this time of year can also be emotionally complex. Family dynamics, conflict, grief, loneliness, financial pressure, health challenges, or simply the intensity of expectations can make the holidays feel heavy rather than joyful. If thatâs you, youâre not doing the season âwrong.â
A few gentle supports drawn from DBT and IFS that may help:
⢠Name whatâs happening internally (IFS): You might notice different âpartsâ showing up. A part that wants connection, a part that feels hurt or angry, and a part that just wants to escape. Try acknowledging them with curiosity rather than judgment. âIt makes sense you feel this way.â
⢠Lower the temperature during conflict (DBT): If emotions rise, step away if possible. Cold water on your face, slow breathing, or grounding through your senses can help settle your nervous system before responding.
⢠Choose effectiveness over being right (DBT): Ask yourself, âWhat outcome do I actually want here?â Sometimes preserving peace or your energy matters more than winning an argument.
⢠Offer self-compassion to the lonely or sad parts (IFS): Loneliness doesnât mean youâre unlovable or failing. It often means a part of you is longing for connection. Gentle self-talk, soothing routines, or symbolic connection (music, writing, nature) can help that part feel less alone.
⢠Give yourself permission to opt out: Boundaries are not selfish. Shorter visits, breaks, or quiet time can be acts of care.
If the holidays are hard, youâre not weak or broken. Youâre human. Be kind to yourself this season đ¤
Please note:
Possibilities is closed from 21/12/2025 to 19/01/2026. If you have contacted me during this period, I will ensure that I attend to your email, DM or text when I am back in the office.