09/09/2025
‘So many people come into healing with an image of what it “should” look like-calm, steady, and always moving forward.
But here’s the truth: those unrealistic expectations can actually set you back. When healing doesn’t match the picture in your head, it’s easy to feel dejected-like nothing is working, or like you’re back at square one.
But activations or painful emotions coming back aren’t signs you’ve gone backward. Healing happens little by little. You work through one piece, and when your system is ready, another piece rises to the surface.
That’s not regression-it’s your body giving you access to the next layer of healing.
Progress isn’t measured by never being activated again. It’s measured by what happens after. Over time, the same emotions and trauma responses lose intensity, last shorter, and don’t unravel you in the same way.
That’s the real arc of healing. Each time something resurfaces, your brain rewires. You recover faster. You learn something new. You grow stronger.
That’s neuroplasticity at work-the science of how the brain can change.
If you’re experiencing any of this, it’s not a red flag. It’s a green light that your system is finally healing.’
- Frank Anderson
