09/03/2026
A Note To Singles....
Most marriages dont fail after marriage. NO. Most marriages fail years before marriage, at dating stage and at Courtship stage. Here is How it happens:
1. Most singles dont thoroughly prepare for choice of marriage through Prayer and Hearing from God.
Rather, most trust their own judgment and approval which is too limited. Still it is another thing to Ask God for marriage Partner and another thing to hear him.
Learn to listen and wait for the leading of God.
If you want the best marriage, then start on your knees.
Dont Just Pray to God for a spouse, include all scriptures related to marriage in your prayers because God said His word shall never return to Him empty but shall accomplish what He declared.
God created You and God knows the person most suited for you in marriage.
Start In God!!
2. Ingonring "Red Flags".
They cheated on you multiple times even during Courtship (a time of marriage preparation) but still you proceeded with marriage.
I believe that every couple facing serious problems or going through divorce today ignored red flags i.e the abuse, the sleeping aroung, the name calling, hoping marriage would change them. Marriage does not change you but reveals the real you.
3. Soul-Ties:
Sleeping with someone before marriage creates a bond commonly known as a soul tie.
A soul tie means that you have fragments of life of the person you sleep with. You inherit part of their emotions, their curses, their blessings, their mindset, all through s*x.
Thats why some people struggle to let go of a wrong or abusive relationship because part of the spirit of the person they sleep with lives within them.
A Soul-tie can lead you into the wrong marriage because everytime you have s*x a tie is strengthened.
4. Lack of Marriage Training or Counselling:
I often say, people who get into marriage without counselling is "like being hired for a role you are not qualified for because you lack the basics even advanced skills of that role." Marriage is no different.
Still, others think they know all about marriage and they dont need any advice.
The rules of marriage are totally and completely different from the rules of dating. You can succeed in dating but fail miserably in marriage.
FACT: Most of our Clients enrolled for Conflict Resolution Counselling or those most of those currently going through divorce skipped marital counselling stage.
If you take a short cut, nature will force you to go back to the stage of learning you skipped and that can include your loss of marriage.
Pre-Marital Counselling is important.
©️ The Kopano Counselling Center & Marriage Academy (2026).
