Guiding Hearts

Guiding Hearts Grace taught me this. Healing confirmed it. Loving self creates positive change. My Mission is to leave people feeling SAFE in everything I do.

When we meet ourselves with compassion instead of criticism, real transformation begins—softly, steadily, and in ways that truly last. My goal when working with clients is to help them find a clear path to reducing symptoms and function better on a day-to-day basis. We work together to address the many conditions that coexist with anxiety and depression, while developing a plan of action that meets the goals we establish together. My other training is in abuse, domestic violence, youth, family, community based counselling, addictions & recovery and couples. My Promise to each of my clients and what they need most is:

CLARITY * KNOWLEDGE * COMMITMENT

Clarity is getting clear on the internal triggers and patterns of behaviour

Knowledge when it comes to treatment plans and techniques that have been proven to work when it comes to anxiety & depression. Commitment in showing up and working through the internal process of breaking those patterns and getting to the root cause.

This is for the solopreneurs who are tired of being told to push harder, niche faster, and silence the parts of themselv...
02/07/2026

This is for the solopreneurs who are tired of being told to push harder, niche faster, and silence the parts of themselves that actually keep them alive.

I’m choosing something different.

I’m building slowly, in a way that keeps me well.
I’m doing the work I love.
And I’m letting that be enough.

If you’re here tonight and feeling the same, you’re not alone.

Put one hand on your chest.
Take a breath.
And stay for the conversation. 🤍

One thing I’ve learned since June 1st is this: being a solo entrepreneur can quietly pull you into survival mode.There’s...
02/06/2026

One thing I’ve learned since June 1st is this: being a solo entrepreneur can quietly pull you into survival mode.

There’s this constant internal dialogue:
I’ve got to do this. I’ve got to do that. I’ve got to make sure the bills are paid.

And before you know it, your nervous system is no longer planning — it’s reacting.
Fight. Flight. Urgency.

Yes, you may be able to see glimpses of your future self. You can sense things coming together. But you’re still living here — in the now — and the gap between where you are and where you’re going can create panic.

So how do we shift that?

The first step is awareness.

Awareness of when we slip into panic mode.
Awareness of the “I need it now” energy.
Awareness of how easily survival takes over in a world that constantly tells us everything should happen immediately.

But not everything arrives when we want it — or even when we think we need it.

That’s often where the lesson lives.

Survival mode usually isn’t just about the present moment.
It’s shaped by the past.

Many of us learned early how to do things alone. We learned to be strong because we had to be. We didn’t always feel supported — emotionally, financially, or relationally — and that experience leaves an imprint on the nervous system.

Over time, survival becomes familiar.
Beliefs form.
Stories settle in.

Sometimes those beliefs came from what we were told — repeatedly — by family, authority figures, or early relationships. And eventually we accept them as truth, even when they’re not.

You’re on your own.
You have to push harder.
Support isn’t coming.
You can’t slow down.

These are not facts.
They are learned beliefs.

And part of healing — and part of sustainable entrepreneurship — is learning to challenge those core beliefs from where we stand today, not from where we were wounded.

This isn’t about forcing positivity.
It’s about gently asking:

Is this belief still true?
Does it serve who I am now?
Or is it an old survival script running on autopilot?

When we slow down enough to notice, we create choice.
And choice is where regulation, steadiness, and real change begin.

About dual relationships in counsellingIn professional counselling, we follow strict ethical guidelines around something...
02/04/2026

About dual relationships in counselling

In professional counselling, we follow strict ethical guidelines around something called dual relationships. This means a counsellor cannot ethically provide therapy to family members, close friends, or people they have another personal relationship with. When someone is both a friend and a therapist, the roles become blurred, and neither relationship can be held safely or clearly.

It’s one thing to listen and care as a friend. It’s another thing to offer professional counselling, assessment, or guidance. When those two roles overlap, it can create harm, confusion, and ethical risk for everyone involved.

So if I’m not acting in my formal counsellor role, I’m simply being a human being who cares. That boundary protects the relationship, the person, and the integrity of the counselling profession.

Rooted and Radiant by Pine and Posture available online for chair yoga.
02/02/2026

Rooted and Radiant by Pine and Posture available online for chair yoga.

Today I noticed Tim Hortons is supporting the Special Olympics with their donuts, and it made me think of someone very s...
01/31/2026

Today I noticed Tim Hortons is supporting the Special Olympics with their donuts, and it made me think of someone very special to me.

My nephew Josh Engel is a gold medalist with Team Alberta in golf. He has won gold multiple times, and just took another gold this past summer.

We were lucky enough to attend the National Special Olympics in Vancouver a few years ago, and watching him compete was one of the proudest moments of my life.

Josh is not only a talented golfer, he is kind, determined, and full of heart. I love him so much, and I am endlessly proud of him.

Today feels like a perfect day to celebrate athletes like Josh and everything the Special Olympics stands for. 💙

I recently learned something that gave me language for something I’ve felt my whole life.Some people don’t move through ...
01/30/2026

I recently learned something that gave me language for something I’ve felt my whole life.

Some people don’t move through the world as a fixed identity.
They move through it as a mirror.

We don’t create the emotional weather in a room.
We notice it.

We feel when something is off before anyone can explain why.
We name tension that everyone else is stepping around.
And often, we get blamed for it.

Not because we caused it
but because we revealed it.

In families, workplaces, and relationships, there is usually one person who carries the emotional awareness. The one who notices the subtle shifts. The one who speaks what’s happening out loud. The one who gets called “too sensitive,” “dramatic,” or “the problem.”

But mirrors don’t create cracks.
They show them.

Over time, I’ve learned that this kind of sensitivity isn’t a weakness. It’s a form of consciousness. It’s what allows people to feel seen, understood, and finally named in their own experience.

I don’t create the storm.
I notice it.
I name it.
And when it finally rains, people realize I was never the thunder.

If you’ve always felt like you “see too much,” you’re not broken.
You might just be wired to notice what others avoid.

And that…
is the beginning of healing 🕯️

For me, the Homecoming Circle is a return to what matters most.It is coming back to my core value, to something far bigg...
01/29/2026

For me, the Homecoming Circle is a return to what matters most.
It is coming back to my core value, to something far bigger than I can fully imagine. It is coming back to my voice, my presence, and the quiet joy of what is, while gently releasing what was.

The Homecoming Circle is a place where we gather to sit and reflect, to hold and be held, to feel and to know, to express and to live. It is a space where our stories, our experiences, and our wisdom are welcomed without needing to be fixed. Here, we honor what we have walked through and allow it to shape who we are becoming.

This is not a place to perform or pretend.
It is a place to come home.

Hey, I’ve got a few session openings this week if you or someone you know needs support. No pressure, just thought I’d r...
01/29/2026

Hey, I’ve got a few session openings this week if you or someone you know needs support. No pressure, just thought I’d reach out.

Gaslighting in Families, Friendships, and WorkplacesOne of the most damaging dynamics in any relationship is not conflic...
01/29/2026

Gaslighting in Families, Friendships, and Workplaces

One of the most damaging dynamics in any relationship is not conflict.
It is denial of reality.

Gaslighting happens when someone says something, does something, or creates an impact and then later denies it ever happened.
Not because it didn’t.
But because acknowledging it would require accountability.

In families, this often looks like:
“I never said that.”
“You’re too sensitive.”
“That’s not how it happened.”

In friendships:
“You’re reading into it.”
“You misunderstood.”
“Why are you making drama?”

In workplaces:
“That wasn’t my intention.”
“You took it the wrong way.”
“That’s not what I meant.”

What all of these do is the same thing.
They shift attention away from what was said or done and place it onto the person who was affected.

Over time, this creates:
• Confusion
• Self doubt
• Chronic anxiety
• Emotional exhaustion
• Breakdown of trust

When your reality keeps getting erased, your nervous system stays on high alert.
It never knows what is safe, true, or stable.

This is why environments with gaslighting feel chaotic.
Not because people are emotional.
But because truth is unstable.

Healthy relationships don’t require perfect communication.
They require something much simpler and much rarer.

“I may not have meant to hurt you, but I can see that I did.”

That sentence ends chaos.
Because it anchors reality.

If you are someone who has been told over and over that what you remember, feel, or experienced is wrong, you are not broken.
You were placed inside a system that refused to be honest.

Clarity is not cruelty.
Naming what happened is not conflict.
It is the beginning of stability.

And you deserve relationships that don’t make you doubt your own mind. 🕊️

We need our mothers.We fight with them.We cry with them.We hug with them.Sometimes we craft with them.Mothers often beco...
01/28/2026

We need our mothers.
We fight with them.
We cry with them.
We hug with them.
Sometimes we craft with them.

Mothers often become the center of the family’s gravity.
The matriarch.
The one who remembers, holds, smooths, gathers.

And yet… when she’s gone, families often drift.
Not because of a lack of love,
but because connection was carried by one woman’s hands.

A system that depends on a single person to hold everyone together
is not a healthy system.
It’s a fragile one.

Honoring mothers doesn’t mean asking them to be the glue forever.
It means learning how to connect, care, and stay in relationship
without asking one woman to carry it all.

Gratitude and truth can exist in the same breath.

Clear boundaries are not a lack of care.They are what make care sustainable.In my work, sessions are structured, time-li...
01/28/2026

Clear boundaries are not a lack of care.
They are what make care sustainable.

In my work, sessions are structured, time-limited, and intentional. This isn’t about being rigid. It’s about creating safety, clarity, and respect for everyone involved.

When boundaries are clear:
• clients know what to expect
• work stays focused and effective
• emotional labor stays contained
• burnout is prevented

Good care needs good structure.
And good structure is an act of integrity.

If you’re looking for support that is grounded, trauma-informed, and ethically held, you’re in the right place. -informed

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