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I am Wena your Trauma Informed Holistic Coach. I work with high achieving individuals to look at root causes and create healed outcomes.

12/10/2025

What Are Spiritual Agreements / Contracts?

Spiritual agreements (or soul contracts) are energetic commitments your soul makes before incarnation. They’re not punishments or “destiny,” but learning experiences designed to help you grow, heal, and evolve.

12/05/2025

Overwhelm isn’t a sign that you’re weak — it’s a sign that your nervous system is carrying more than it has capacity for.

When your brain has been in long-term stress mode, it starts treating everyday tasks like emergencies. Something as small as an email notification can trigger the same physiological reaction as a bigger problem.

This is because the stress response system becomes hypersensitive over time. Your brain isn’t trying to sabotage you — it's trying to protect you from more “load.”

When overwhelm hits:

Your prefrontal cortex (logical thinking) goes offline

Your emotional processing slows

Your body goes into manage-the-moment mode

This is why it’s hard to think, decide, or stay calm.

The real solution isn’t to push harder.
It’s to rebuild your nervous system capacity — slowly, safely, consistently.

If overwhelm has become your “normal,” you’re not alone. I help high achievers rebuild internal safety so they can function from clarity again.

12/03/2025

A Lesson in Presence

One evening, after a long day, I settled in for some quiet time. But just as I did my son came down with a last-minute project due in two days. My initial response? A rush of logical, ego-driven thoughts: When is it due? How long has he had to work on it? But I could see his frustration growing.

In that moment, a gentle inner voice reminded me to pause and truly check in with him. We shifted gears, worked together, and in about an hour, we made great progress on his project. The lesson? Sometimes our plans shift, and that’s okay. It’s in those unexpected moments that we find deeper connection and understanding.
*we actually had a good time working together*

So here’s to embracing the unexpected, responding with compassion, and finding the beauty in the unplanned.

11/28/2025

Emotional shutdown is a freeze response, not a flaw.
It happens when your nervous system decides that feeling is too overwhelming, too risky, or too exhausting.

Common reasons your system defaults to shutdown:

You grew up needing to stay calm to stay safe

You were punished or shamed for expressing emotions

You learned to handle everything alone

You move through life in high-functioning stress

Shutdown may look like:

Numbness

Going quiet

Avoiding conversations

Feeling disconnected

Being unable to cry even when you want to

Your brain is trying to preserve energy and reduce perceived danger.

Healing doesn’t start with forcing yourself to “open up.”
It starts with creating a sense of internal safety so your emotions no longer feel like threats.

If you feel shut down, your body is communicating — not failing. I can help you understand the message.

11/27/2025

I wanted to share a little story about this plant because it holds a really special place in my heart.

Years ago, Jeff’s grandma tried to give it to me. At the time, I said no. I didn’t think I needed a plant, and honestly I didn’t know how to care for them properly back then. Two days later, she unexpectedly passed away.

When we went to her place, the plant was sitting outside by itself. Something about it felt like a sign. So I took it home. It wasn’t flowering then, but it was this lush, green, alive plant with so much presence.

And then… it started the long journey of being under my care.
A care that, truthfully, wasn’t great. I didn’t know what I was doing. I underwatered, forgot about it 😔 you name it. But despite all of that, this plant just… lived. It stayed strong, even when wilted and inly holding on by a couple (literally) leaves. It was like the plant that refused to die even when it probably should have.

Fast forward almost ten years. It started to get healthier. I started to nurish it, water it. I had no idea it was even capable of flowering. And then one day, completely out of nowhere, it bloomed. These stunning, vibrant flowers 🤯 as if it had been holding its breath for a decade and finally decided it was time to show itself.

Now it blossoms every year around Christmas, and sometimes even twice a year. Every time it blooms feels like a little miracle. A quiet reminder.

And the deeper I reflect on it, the more I realize:

Sometimes we are growing even when it looks like nothing is happening.
Sometimes we are building strength in seasons that feel dull, stagnant, or forgotten.
And sometimes, after years of simply surviving… we finally bloom.
Not on a schedule. Not when others expect it. But in our own perfect timing.

This plant has taught me something about resilience, patients & beauty.
It reminds me that healing and growth don’t always look pretty. And even when the conditions aren’t perfect, life finds a way.

So if you’re in a season where it feels like you’re just “getting by,” maybe you’re actually gathering the energy for a bloom you can’t even see coming yet.
And when it arrives just like this plant it will be worth the wait. ✨

11/24/2025

It’s incredibly common to feel lost or disconnected even when life looks “fine” from the outside. This isn’t a personal failure, it’s often a nervous system response, not a character flaw. When we’ve spent years in survival mode, perfectionism, or in go-go-go energy, the body stays in hyper-vigilance long after the threat has passed.

So “Why do I feel this way?”
Because your system finally has the space to feel what it never had the safety to process.

Finding yourself again isn’t about becoming someone new, it’s about reconnecting with the parts of you that had to go quiet in order for you to function, succeed, or protect yourself. Through awareness, regulation, and compassionate curiosity, you begin to hear your inner voice again.

You don’t need to fix yourself.
You need to meet yourself gently, honestly, and without judgment.

11/21/2025

The belief “I’m not doing enough” rarely comes from the present moment.
It comes from old internal narratives shaped by early experiences.

The human brain forms self-worth through two things:

1. What we were taught about ourselves

2. What we had to do to feel accepted or safe

So if you learned that love, approval, or peace came from being good, helpful, productive, or perfect — your brain wires itself to equate worth with performance.

This creates:
Chronic pressure
Self-criticism
Comparing yourself to others

Feeling behind even when you're ahead

Achieving goals but not feeling fulfilled

“Not enough-ness” is not truth.
It is a conditioned belief.

Healing is the process of rewriting the meaning you attach to effort, success, and self-worth

If you’re tired of chasing “enough,” it’s possible to create a new internal story — one rooted in grounded worth.

🦋💜

11/19/2025

If you feel like having an evening of quiet, reflection and healing... come join us! We still have a couole spot ls left for this Friday 😊

11/18/2025

Twenty-three plus years ago, Jeff and I were just two young kids who met at Zellers - no idea what life had in store for us, no clue how far that first spark would carry us. It was simple back then… easy. The kind of young love that started in the small moments, the smiles, the random conversations, and the feeling that somehow, we were forming a path.

Over the years, that young love evolved. It stretched, deepened, and grew with us. We changed, and so did our lives careers, moves, challenges, celebrations, kids and all the unexpected chapters that come with building a life together. And through it all, that same spark stayed. It matured, but it never faded.

So when we heard Zellers had launched a new store, it only felt right to go check it out, almost like visiting an old memory that had put on a new outfit, but the name… the name was still the same.

In a funny way, it mirrored us.
We’re not the same two young people who met all those years ago, but the heart of who we are foundational is still the same.

Twenty-three years later, and the story that started at Zellers is still unfolding - new chapters, new memories, same foundation.

Still us.

11/14/2025

This time of year always brings me back to myself — where I’ve grown, what I’ve healed, and what I’m still learning to let go of.

If you’re craving reflection, connection, and soul-centered conversation, you’re invited to my November circle. We’re closing this chapter together, with intention. 🤍

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