11/29/2025
If we have to tear people down to feel moral, we’ve already lost our way.
I want to address something I’ve been seeing more often in our community spaces, posts that mock, shame, or dehumanize people because of their appearance, gender expression, neurotype, or identity.
I’m speaking up because leadership, in families, in communities, in organizations, requires clarity, not silence.
So let me be clear:
A community rooted in cruelty is not a strong community.
A community that dehumanizes its members is not a safe community.
And a community that mistakes mockery for morality loses its humanity in the process.
We are adults.
We can do better than attacking people for being different.
Human diversity, neurological, gender-based, cultural, physical, is not a threat to society.
But spreading fear, calling people “insane,” “demonic,” or “mentally ill,” and using identity as a weapon is a threat to wellbeing, safety, and cohesion.
This kind of language doesn’t protect anyone.
It doesn’t uplift anyone.
It creates division, stigma, and harm, and it tells vulnerable people they do not belong.
That is not the community I want to live in.
And I will not sit quietly while people are reduced to caricatures or punchlines.
As someone who works with neurodivergent individuals, families, and people navigating complex identities, I see every day how transformative respect and safety can be, and how destructive shame and ridicule are.
So here is the standard I choose to uphold, publicly and consistently:
• We treat people like human beings, not objects of mockery.
• We disagree without demeaning.
• We protect the dignity of those who are different, not target them.
• And we lead with compassion, not fear.
Cruelty has no place in a healthy community.
