Dr. Gloria Lee, 530-4445 Lougheed Highway, Burnaby, BC (2025)

11/23/2025

You can love someone deeply and still feel anxious, restless, or unseen.

At first, the intensity feels intoxicating. The closeness feels like safety. But slowly, it begins to take more from you than it gives. You start walking on eggshells to keep the peace. You give and give and give until there’s barely anything left for you.

That isn’t love. That’s co-dependency disguised as connection. It’s love in survival mode. A nervous system trying to stay close at any cost.

Secure attachment feels calm. It’s not as dramatic, but it’s steady. You can breathe in it. You can disagree and still feel connected. You can say no without fearing you’ll lose the relationship.

This kind of love doesn’t demand that you abandon yourself to be chosen. It asks that you stay whole, and still reach for someone else. It’s the difference between needing someone to regulate your pain and choosing someone to share your peace.

If you’ve ever felt caught in that push and pull, craving closeness but losing yourself in the process, know that healing is possible. Comment ENRICH to learn more about my Relationship Reboot Retreat, a 2-day immersive designed to help you move from anxious or avoidant patterns into real, secure connection.

11/22/2025

In healthy relationships, love doesn’t ask you to shrink yourself. It invites you to grow in ways you never thought you could.

Partnership means learning how to hold two truths at once, your needs and your partner’s. Your dreams and theirs. Your individuality and your togetherness. The most connected couples aren’t those who think alike, but those who think together.

Every time you choose “we” over “me,” you strengthen the bond that holds you both. You stop keeping score and start building something shared. Love becomes less about compromise and more about collaboration.

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11/20/2025

When you sense your partner pulling away, your whole body reacts before your mind can make sense of it. Your chest tightens. Your thoughts start spinning. You text, call, ask questions, anything to close the gap. You’re not trying to be controlling. You’re trying to feel safe.

But when you chase, it often pushes your partner further away. Not because you care too much, but because your nervous system is scared. Somewhere in your past, love might have felt inconsistent, something you had to earn through effort, proving, or overgiving. So when closeness fades, it doesn’t just feel uncomfortable. It feels dangerous.

The truth is, you can’t chase safety into existence. You have to learn how to create it inside yourself first. That means pausing before you reach out in panic, taking a slow breath, and reminding yourself: “I’m not losing connection. I’m feeling scared.” Then you respond to the feeling, not the fear.

Love can’t thrive in urgency. It grows in calm. When you regulate your own system, you make space for real connection, the kind that lasts.

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11/18/2025

We grow up thinking that love is about finding the right person. The one who finally makes everything feel easy, safe, and complete. But real love isn’t about finding the right partner. It’s about becoming the right partners for each other.

In marriage, you will meet each other’s pain. The wounds you both carry from childhood, the places where love once felt conditional, or where you had to earn your safety, will surface in the smallest moments. When your partner pulls away, when you feel unheard, when you argue about something that feels trivial but cuts deep.

That’s where the real work begins. Because love isn’t about fixing each other’s wounds, it’s about learning how to hold them differently. It’s offering safety where there used to be shame. Understanding where there used to be frustration. Repair where there used to be rejection.

When two people can do that for each other, something incredible happens. The relationship stops being a mirror of old pain and becomes the place where healing begins. That’s what transforms marriage from survival into transformation.

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11/17/2025

When all you’ve known is emotional chaos, peace doesn’t feel peaceful. It feels empty. If your body learned that love equals intensity, inconsistency, or adrenaline, calm can feel like something’s missing.

That’s why so many people mistake secure love for boredom. They’re not bored; they’re unlearning survival. The quiet feels wrong because it doesn’t match what their nervous system was trained to expect. But healthy love isn’t about highs and lows. It’s about safety, steadiness, and being able to exhale without waiting for the next storm.

If you find yourself restless in a relationship that’s kind, patient, and stable, pause before you assume the spark is gone. Sometimes, you’re not falling out of love. You’re just healing into it.

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11/15/2025

Most people don’t realize how much unspoken expectations create disconnection in a relationship. You think your partner should just know what you need, but they can’t meet needs that haven’t been expressed. What feels like neglect to you often feels like confusion to them.

When you say, “You never help around the house,” your partner hears criticism. When you say, “It would mean a lot if you could handle dinner tonight,” they hear a clear, actionable request. One closes the heart. The other opens it.

Healthy communication isn’t about being perfect with your words, it’s about being intentional with your tone. Requests build connection because they show trust: trust that your partner wants to meet your needs, and that they can respond with care when given the chance.

This week, notice the difference between complaining and asking. One creates defensiveness. The other creates teamwork.

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11/12/2025

You can love someone deeply and still feel completely disconnected. Emotional distance rarely happens all at once, it builds slowly, through countless small moments when we stop reaching for each other. When it feels easier to stay quiet than to share what’s really on our minds. When our conversations shift from connection to coordination, from “How are you?” to “Did you pay the bill?”

It’s not that the love disappeared. It’s that the space between you grew. Emotional disconnection is the slow drift from “us” to “me,” the invisible wall that forms when self-protection replaces vulnerability. The silence can feel like peace, but often it’s just loneliness wearing calm as a disguise.

The good news is, this isn’t the end of your relationship, it’s an invitation. Disconnection is a signal that your relationship is ready to evolve. Connection isn’t something you either have or don’t; it’s something you build intentionally. It begins in small moments, a longer hug, a pause before reacting, a genuine question asked with curiosity instead of defense.

You don’t need to go back to how things were. You can create something better, something grounded in safety, honesty, and repair. Love doesn’t vanish; it just waits for your willingness to return to it.

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Save this post as a reminder that disconnection doesn’t mean it’s over, sometimes, it’s the beginning of a new way of loving.

10/31/2025

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Women aren’t walking away because they’re asking for too much. They just know what they deserve.

Real partnership means both people carry emotional weight, initiate connection, and choose growth. When only one person does the emotional and mental labor, that’s not marriage. That’s a job.

What has your experience been like with this phenomenon? Share in the comments.

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10/25/2025

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You’re exhausted from pretending, aren’t you? Keeping up appearances while your actual marriage flatlines. Scared to tell anyone because disappointing your parents or being gossiped about feels worse than suffering in silence.

So you assume this is just what marriage becomes after kids, after years, after life gets real.

Two roommates efficiently running a household, bonding only over kid logistics, living parallel lives that never intersect except at dinner parties where you perform “happy couple.”

This isn’t just your story. Often, it’s your parents’ story that you’re unconsciously repeating. And unless someone breaks the pattern, it’ll be your children’s story too.

The retreat I’m hosting is for people who are ready to stop this generational cycle. To finally have a marriage that feels as good as it looks.

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Early registration ends tomorrow. Only a few spots left because I’m keeping it intimate.

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10/14/2025

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Your apology means nothing if your behavior stays the same.

I see this constantly. Good people who apologize and then do the exact same thing next week. Meanwhile, their partner is drowning. Carrying everything alone. Profoundly lonely with someone who’s right there.

Small betrayals of trust are often more damaging than big ones. Daily unreliability? Daily defensiveness? Daily broken promises? That’s a slow poison that kills relationships just as dead.

Your partner doesn’t need another apology. They need proof. They need to see you follow through, own mistakes without defensiveness, and choose their trust over your comfort every single day.

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10/11/2025

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The irony of control? The tighter you grip, the more disconnected you become.

Real intimacy requires risk. Risk of being your true self to ask for what you need instead of covertly controlling your partner.

Your anxiety isn’t the problem. It’s information about what needs attention inside you.

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