The Spunky Counsellor

05/07/2025

Coming out later in life can feel like a truth bomb you didn’t see coming, even if it’s been quietly ticking inside for years. After countless convos with clients and fellow practitioners, many of whom asked me to write about this.

I finally did 🥰

Not from a high horse, but from lived experience. I’ve been there, and I’ve had the honour of walking beside others through it too. Whether you’re 28, 48, or 68, this blog is for anyone who’s wondered: “Is it too late to come out?”

Spoiler: it’s not. You’re not broken. You’re not behind. You’re right on time.

It’s your time to shine! Let’s talk about what it really means to start living as your full self, no matter when it happens.

Coming out later in life can be messy, healing, and real. You’re not broken or behind, just right on time. Here's what that journey can look like.

04/22/2025

Do you know someone who's thinking about starting hormone therapy and wondering how to prepare for their hormone readiness assessment? If so, this blog post might be just the thing to pass along.
As a transgender Vancouver therapist with both lived experience as a q***r, trans person and years of professional experience supporting LGBTQIA2S+ and neurodivergent youth and adults, I wrote this guide straight from the heart, packed with practical tips to help folks feel grounded and affirmed as they prepare for this big step.
Whether it’s their first time hearing about an HRA or they’ve been prepping for a while, this post is here to help transgender folx feel informed, affirmed, and less alone. Navigating gender journeys should never be a solo mission.
Please share it with someone who could use a little support and reminder that their path is valid, and that help exists, right here in Vancouver—and beyond. 🌈💛

Get ready for your hormone readiness assessment with these practical tips from a transgender Vancouver therapist. Feel confident, supported, and informed.

03/24/2025

Here goes the last and final installment to the q***r and Christian series blogpost... Finding a place where you truly belong is life-changing. In my latest blog post, I share my journey of discovering community as a q***r person—how it shaped my confidence, my faith, and my work as a counsellor. Whether you’re questioning where you fit in or searching for support, you’re not alone. Belonging takes time, but it’s worth it. Read on to explore how finding your people can help you embrace your most authentic self. 🌈

Finding community as a q***r person can be life-changing. Discover how belonging shapes confidence, faith, and self-acceptance in my latest blog post

03/04/2025

Here goes the fourth installment to my q***r and christian series.

Society has a narrative that dictates the expected behaviors and roles we are “supposed” to assume to be happy and successful.

Well, being q***r means not swallowing these social norms whole...

It's not always easy, though, that's why sometimes we need to hide ourselves to protect our safety and guarantee our sanity.

Though the thing is, that’s not how life should be. Hiding your beautiful, authentic self doesn’t serve you in the long run. And I’m going to share with you how finding myself can teach you how to be yourself.

Finding myself meant giving up a lot of what I thought I knew. And being ok with it. It takes work, but it's a big part of acceptance

02/18/2025

Wooooo 7 weeks. This is gotta be record breaking time of a hiatus from writing something for me... Before I head out for my trip to Indo recently, I was on the roll with publishing an article every 2-3 weeks.. Gotta say that this break has been incredible and much needed for me..

Fiuh.

Now that I'm back and can see things with a fresh(er) perspective, I'm jumping back on my "q***r and spiritual" article train...

Chosen family is about finding the people who truly see, accept, and support you. In this post, I share my journey of belonging, how I found my own chosen family, and why it's so vital for q***r individuals. If you're searching for your people, *wink wink* this is for you 🙃

Ever wondered what it means to have a chosen family? Read more as we explore how important it is for q***r youth to find their chosen family

01/04/2025

Ever wondered if it is possible for you to be q***r and have a faith? Explore how spirituality and identity can coexist, find belonging, and embrace your authentic self with hope and courage

Can you be q***r and have a faith? Explore how spirituality and identity can coexist, find belonging, and embrace your authentic self with hope and courage

12/10/2024

I met someone recently who shared that reading my articles felt like a breath of fresh air. As someone who greatly value connection and relate-ability, it felt like a huge compliment having someone said that they see their story in my writings..

This inspired me to come up with a series of articles on being q***r and christian. At glance, the two seemed very contradictory, though the more I explore, the more I realized that it is very possible to be both.

Confidently.

Peacefully.

Unapologetically.

Sweet thank you to Vivien Allen of Charisma Creative as my co-conspirator in turning the fluid idea into read-able format!

Learn from my personal journey and find answers to the age-old question: How do I come out? Get guidance and support in your own journey

11/26/2024

Alright, I’ve sat on this for a while, but I feel like it’s time to finally talk about gender identity as seasons. Yes, IT’S TIME…

With the change in seasons, one topic I’ve seen repeatedly is the notion of gender identity as seasons. While this is a newer term in my repertoire, it's not a foreign concept to me by any means.

Read and find out more!

[Sweet shout out to my steadfast collaborator, Vivien DA of Charisma Creative, who helped put my thoughts into reality]

Did you know that gender identity as seasons isn't actually as new as you think? Read and find out more!

11/05/2024

All these while, I am actively writing, and it became my creative outlet.. There's been time when I wondered if it's any good, if people somewhere out there in the unievrse read or benefit from these...
SO... (dun dun dun)
It felt like one of the huge-st win of the year when I met with people who told me that they been following along my content and resonated with what I've put out to the world

What they shared almost lit up the fire in me to... share more of my drafts to the world.. Here goes some informational content that I wrote a while back after listening in to a weekly mentorship call hosted by Transcare BC.

As someone who's super passionate about gender identity and self exploration, I am driven to make anything gender affirming care related be made most accesible.

Wondering about the cost for testosterone replacement therapy? Learn about pricing options, coverage, and ways to navigate your journey to masculinity.

09/17/2024

Some of you know that anything gender identity related is my jam...
And totally something that gets me on fire 🔥

One (important) fact that some of you brought to my attention is that.. I haven't talked a whole lot about my offering, that's very near and dear to my heart!

Tadaaaa....

Other than one-on-one counselling, I do also offer Hormone Readiness Assessment...

It's a 90-min ish meeting where we get to chat about where you are in your gender identity journey and where you'd like to be!

09/16/2024

Sometimes we need a good kick in the boot to realize what needs to get done.. Haha, gender identity (or technically, anything personal identity exploration related) is like my jam of a topic to tackle.. And this past couple of week alone, a couple of peeps made me realize that I haven't talked much about the fact that I also do offer hormone readiness assessment for folx considering doing hormone therapy.. So, Imma share about what hormone therapy for transgender and nonbinary folx, and when you shall consider going this route. Yipee happy reading.

Gender therapist Vancouver shares about what is hormone therapy for transgender and nonbinary. And when to consider accessing

04/02/2024

This article is another collaborative piece that's a very long time coming. It took me a while to piece things together and the process of completing this reminded me that we all thrive in community. I realized that it would be a huge undertaking to cover a massive topic, gender identity, so beyond grateful that with the support of a word magician, Vivien of Charisma Creative , together we articulated the general points in this topic that's very close to my heart. This publication also marks a great shift of me as a writer, coz I technically like producing shorter form content, though for this, I strongly feel that it's better to provide folks with a one-stop shop on the basic of gender and therapy.

A gender therapist can be your sounding board for anything related to gender identity. Here's a deep dive on what to look for in a gender therapist