03/25/2026
Let’s be honest. Healing chronic pain and illness is F***ing Messy.
You might have bought into the lie that healing would be quick and neat. “I’ll just learn to respond to my symptom with calmness and ease, process my emotions and trauma a few times, live life more fully with a sense of safety, and my pain or symptom will reduce day by day until it is completely gone.”
Well for 99% of people that just NOT how the healing process looks..
You likely will get better at responding to your symptom with less fear and fixation, be doing great brain retraining work, and then get a horrible rebound of worry and obsession about your body causing your symptom to flare.
You will be getting good at attending to emotions and feeling safe with them, and then have a week of anxiety, distress, or despair that feels too overwhelming tolerate.
You will start to process trauma, and then realize this is incredibly hard and terrifying.
And you will begin living with less perfectionism, people pleasing, and control, and then unconsciously start to use these coping mechanisms again.
Please know everything I have just listed is a normal part of the healing process. Healing is hard and messy, and you are not doing anything wrong.
Stay consistent and lean into the messiness of healing. You got this!