InShift

12/19/2025

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12/19/2025

A child internalizes parental tension and redirects it into self-doubt. 🤔💭

12/18/2025

We need to teach our kids that everyone has strengths and weaknesses —
not as a limitation,
but as a reminder that being human isn’t a competition.

They’re not supposed to be good at everything.
None of us are.

Some things will come naturally.
Some things will take practice.
Some things will never be their lane — and that’s okay.

But many of us grew up believing the opposite.
We learned to measure our worth by how easily we could excel.
We learned to hide the parts that felt hard.
We learned to fear being seen as anything less than “capable.”

And if we’re not intentional, our children can absorb that same quiet pressure.

Kids sometimes feel it deeply when something doesn’t come easily.
They compare themselves.
They slump.
They decide they’re “not good enough” long before they’ve even had time to grow.

That’s why they need to hear — repeatedly — that struggling doesn’t mean something is wrong with them.
It means they’re learning.
It means they’re stretching.
It means they’re being human.

When they learn to accept their limitations with compassion instead of shame,
they stop defining themselves by the areas where they struggle
and start leaning into the things that make them feel alive.

Because confidence doesn’t come from being good at everything.
It comes from knowing who they are —
strengths, weaknesses, and everything in between —
and recognising that every part of them is still worthy.

So teach them to celebrate their strengths,
and meet their weaknesses with patience.

Both belong.
Both matter.
Both are part of becoming who they’re meant to be. ❤️

Quote Credit: .in.there.mama ❣️

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12/17/2025

12/16/2025

A quote that we posted, “Your willingness to come back and repair matters more than getting it right the first time” went viral.

On this week’s episode of the Empowered to Connect Podcast, we dig into why rupture shows up so often in our families and why it’s completely normal.

Rupture happens because we get tired, distracted, overwhelmed, or just out of sync. In our homes, we’re our most unfiltered, exhausted, and real selves, and that means disconnection is bound to happen.

But repair is where trust grows, safety forms, and connection deepens. Our kids don’t need perfect parents; they need repairing parents.

And honestly? We’re all learning how to come back together, one moment at a time.

12/14/2025

It’s easy to assume everyone else has a map while you’re stumbling your way forward. But most of us are navigating life with equal parts courage and confusion. Give yourself credit for showing up—you’re doing far better than you think.

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12/14/2025

Once you understand that your child is deserving of grace and compassion, you start to realize, ever so slowly, that you are also deserving of the same grace and compassion, from yourself.

The journey of Responsive Parenting can take a little detour at times. As we start to understand and empathize with our child’s behaviour, we sometimes end up just shifting the blame from our child to ourselves. What happens is, we develop empathy and compassion for our child but our inner child hasn’t received the same thing. So when we feel triggered by our child, we shift the blame to ourselves.

What can happen overtime, is you start to have an awareness of how differently you treat your child and yourself. In the past, when I made a mistake I became so self-critical, it sometimes led to self-harm. At some point I just realized that I’m talking to myself in a way I would never talk to anyone else. I realized that my internal voice was escalating my dysregulation.

Slowly I started to talk to myself like I would if I was talking to a friend, other parent or even my children, at times, of that’s what it felt like I needed…. I stopped having panic attacks and I can’t remember the last time I hurt myself. I was literally beating myself up I was so filled with shame and self-loathing. This is something I have struggled with my whole life and the answer, the only cure that has ever worked was this unconditional self-love and compassion. Loving myself the way I do my children.

This is from my latest book Love Grows. Available NOW 👇👇👇

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Title: Love Grows: A Collection of Works By J. Milburn

12/14/2025

Not everyone had a parent.

Some of us
just had adults
with trauma
and authority.

they provided rules,
not safety.
control,
not guidance.

they demanded respect
without offering care.
obedience
without understanding.

we grew up managing moods,
walking on eggshells,
learning survival
instead of security.

that wasn’t parenting.
that was power
mixed with unresolved pain.

and healing means
unlearning the belief
that love feels like fear.

it means reparenting yourself
with patience,
consistency,
and compassion
you never received.

naming it isn’t betrayal.
it’s clarity.