01/25/2022
Jasmine and Aliyah, may you live forever in paradise in each other’s arms. You deserved a full life, and not cut short.
Domestic violence is an issue not discussed enough. As an advocate for mental health, empowerment and physical health for young girls, this is a issue that won’t go away unless we talk more about it and shine light on violence against women and girls.
Here’s the thing DV is not a cut and dry issue, here’s some facts about DV…and this is just the bare minimum of what it is.
-Lots of DV victims have no idea they’re living in a DV situation until they receive help or education.
-Lots of DV victims won’t come forward for years because it’s full of shame, guilt, stigma, embarrassment, feeling alone.
-DV victims need love and support, full of empathy, never ever “SHOULD” all over a DV victim. They know how wrong it feels, and it’s much more complicated then “she should just leave”
-if you suspect you or a loved one is in a DV situation learn as much as you can about the cycle of abuse.
-it comes in many forms which makes it confusing, not just physical abuse. This includes but also involves so much more; verbal abuse, emotional abuse, put downs, breaking things and/or punching things to intimidate, financial abuse, control, jealousy, gas lighting, use of your vulnerabilities against you.
-The first 90 days a DV victims leaves the situation is the most dangerous.
-DV victims who have suffered years of abuse will say they love their abuser and will worry about their well being. They will feel pulled back, and in most cases go back because of trauma bonding.
- There is help through the YWCA Canada
Thank you Nancy Hixt - Crime Beat for bringing light to violence against women, the more we talk about it the more education available and the less stigma and shame victims will feel.
Rest in paradise you two beautiful souls, and may we learn from your story so we can help other women and children who suffer violence against them.