Sheldon Walker, Psychologist

10/03/2022

Happy Autumn!

10/03/2022

Happy October!

10/01/2022

05/25/2020

For a top notch article on dealing with managing couple conflict go to
https://bit.ly//2WrEXLq
VERY useful from the Gottman folks of course.

In the aftermath of a fight or regrettable incident, you can use the following format to increase understanding between you and your partner.

03/16/2019

Go Easy

New Australian research by lead author Dr. Emma Miller from Flinders University in Adelaide notes that along with other factors, such as lack of exercise, the risk of breast cancer increases with even a single alcoholic drink a day, especially in women over 45. Dr. Miller believes that this information is being activelay suppressed by the alcohol industry.

02/25/2019

Small Gestures Can Be Powerful

In a study published in the Journal of Social and Personal Relationships by S. Heshmati and Z. Oravec, it was found that people feel loved in the following four scenarios:

* when someone shows compassion toward them in difficult times
* when a child snuggles up to them
* When their pets are happy to see them
* when someone tells them “I love you“

None of these behaviours need necessarily be associated with romantic partners; people can feel loved in a wide range of setting.

02/04/2019

Here are a few suggestions adapted from John Gottman for couples where one member travels a lot:
If you have a spouse/partner who travels for work:

1. While your spouse/partner is away, make a point to to talk to each other EVERY DAY! Busy or in the mood, doesn’t matter.
2. Separate update conversations (the kids, the bills, the household maintenance) from connection conversations (how’s it going, how are you feeling, I miss you!).
3. Schedule a date time to eat a meal together over FaceTime or using other connecting technologies.
4. Before the traveling partner departs, hide love or humorous notes in his/ her suitcase.

01/15/2019

If you are struggling with anxiety or boredom keep in mind that doing volunteer work or service to others can be a great mood booster and has been found to be good for overall mental health.

11/03/2018

Don’t be surprised or alarmed that world political and current events can be quite distressing. They clearly are and I think it’s better to be tuned in and vigilant rather than live in denial over the upheaval in our culture these days. One hopes and dreams that truth and civility will rescue us all.