Fibromyalgia NOW WHAT

12/21/2025

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21st day of 30 Days of Kindness…LIGHT A CANDLE!

Lighting a candle has always carried deep meaning across time and settings. In a church, a candle represents prayer, faith, and the presence of something greater than ourselves—each flame a quiet offering of hope, remembrance, or gratitude. In an emergency, lighting a candle becomes a symbol of survival and guidance, a small but powerful light that says, “I am still here.” In the home, a candle brings comfort, peace, and intention, marking moments of reflection and connection.

After my grandmother passed, my mom would light a candle every Sunday and let it burn all day in her remembrance, a ritual of love that never needed words. Now, on the anniversary of my mom’s passing, I light a candle for her—continuing the circle, honoring the love that carries on, and reminding myself that even in loss, light remains.

12/20/2025

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20th day of 30 Days of Kindness…GIVE SOMEONE PATIENCE!

Giving someone patience means choosing understanding over reaction. It’s recognizing that not everyone is moving, thinking, or responding at the same pace—and that sometimes there’s a reason you can’t see.

With a child, it might look like pausing when they struggle to explain themselves, offering calm reassurance instead of rushing or correcting them. With an adult, it may mean allowing extra time for words to come, for decisions to be made, or for tasks to be completed without pressure or frustration.

For those living with brain fog, especially with conditions like fibromyalgia, thoughts can feel tangled, memory can be slow, and communication can take real effort. Patience creates safety—it says, “You’re allowed to be where you are.”

Share this with your family members so they can better understand that brain fog isn’t laziness or lack of care; it’s a real experience, and patience is one of the greatest kindnesses you can offer.

PATIENCE
P – Pause before reacting
A – Allow space for others
T – Take a breath
I – Invite understanding
E – Extend compassion
N – Notice without judgment
C – Choose kindness
E – Ease into the moment

12/19/2025

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19 day of 30 Days of Kindness…COMPLIMENT YOUR REFLECTION!

Complimenting your reflection, especially on the hard days, can be a powerful and gentle practice for those living with fibromyalgia. When you look at yourself with kindness instead of criticism, your nervous system softens, stress hormones decrease, and your body feels safer—this matters deeply when pain and fatigue are constant companions. Speaking something loving to yourself, even when you don’t fully believe it yet, helps rewire the mind away from survival mode and into self-compassion, which can lessen flare intensity over time.

The video I’m sharing makes me smile—a bear coming out of a cave, looking grumpy, hair everywhere, clearly not ready for the world. Does that reflect you some days? On those mornings, that’s exactly when the compliment matters most. Even a tired, grumpy bear deserves kindness… and so do you.

12/18/2025

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Day 18 of 30 Days of Kindness…LET SOMEONE HAVE THE LAST WORD!

Letting someone have the last word means choosing peace over control. It’s the quiet decision to step back from needing to be right, to be heard one more time, or to defend yourself when your heart already knows the truth. It’s an act of humility and self-trust, allowing the conversation to end without force or resistance.

When you let someone have the last word, you protect your energy, honor your boundaries, and recognize that not every thought needs to be spoken for you to remain whole.

This one is hard for me, but with practice—and sometimes right in the middle of a sentence, when I notice what I’m doing—I can pause, stop, and choose a different way.

12/17/2025

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17th day of 30 Days of Kindness…SHARE AN UPLIFTING POST!

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12/16/2025

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16th day of 30 Days of Kindness…SAY SOMETHING KIND TO YOUR BODY!

Saying something kind to your body is a powerful act of self-care. Today, I am choosing to be kind to my liver. The liver works tirelessly for us every day—filtering toxins, supporting digestion, balancing hormones, regulating blood sugar, and helping keep our energy steady. Emotionally, the liver is often associated with stored anger, frustration, and resentment, making kindness toward it even more meaningful.

If you place the palm of your hand gently over your liver and imagine white, healing light flowing from your hand into this vital organ, then quietly say, “Thank you. I love you,” you create a moment of deep connection and gratitude.

The liver also supports the gallbladder, digestive system, immune system, and overall metabolic health. Simple, loving choices help too—drinking plenty of water, enjoying green tea or dandelion tea, and nourishing yourself with care. When we speak kindly to our bodies, they listen.

12/15/2025

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15th day of 30 Days of Kindness…FORGIVE YOURSELF!

Forgive yourself. Growing up, it’s hard to even understand what that truly means. For me, forgiving myself began with taking responsibility—accepting that maybe, just maybe, I needed to look inward and ask why the same situations or problems kept repeating in my life. When you start to see where you may have sabotaged yourself, or even someone else, that is where real change begins.

It meant sitting quietly, reflecting, having honest conversations with myself, with God, with my mom, with my siblings, my husband, my kids, my grandkids and with trusted friends. All of this helps, but only if you are willing to tell the truth. Forgiveness isn’t about blame; it’s about understanding, compassion, and choosing to move forward with a lighter heart.

Asking yourself for forgiveness can feel incredibly hard, yet it becomes surprisingly easy once you are ready.

12/14/2025

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14th day of 30 Days of Kindness…LEAVE A POSITIVE NOTE!

I’m going to my granddaughter’s gymnastics meet today, and I’ll be leaving this note on two cars. If you’re not heading out today, you can still share the kindness by sending your positive note to someone online.

12/13/2025

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13th day of 30 Days of Kindness…GIVE A WARM HUG!

A true, conscious hug is its own kind of healing—one that asks you to slow down, close your eyes, and fully feel the moment. When you wrap your arms over someone’s shoulders, especially your children or younger siblings, you’re silently saying, I’ve got you. You’re safe with me. I’m here. Let the hug last as long as it naturally wants to, without rushing or pulling away too soon. Just breathe together. Notice how the energy shifts, how the nervous system softens, how love becomes something you can actually feel instead of just say.

I’ve practiced this for years, ever since learning it during a conscious breathing weekend, and it truly changes the quality of connection. Sometimes I even gently guide the other person’s arms so they rest over my shoulders or place mine over theirs before pulling them close. It’s a simple gesture, but it communicates protection, presence, and deep love in a way words never could.

And if it’s your husband, wife, or a close friend you’re hugging, simply choose whatever arm position feels natural and comfortable, then allow the hug to unfold in the same slow, present, heart-centered way—lingering until it feels complete, just like the ones above.

12/12/2025

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12th day of 30 Days of Kindness…DO ONE SMALL TASK!

No matter how heavy your body feels or how cloudy your mind is, the first step is simple: get up and do one small thing. It doesn’t have to be monumental—just one task you’ve been putting off, one thing that keeps lingering in the back of your mind. Maybe it’s sending an email, washing the dishes, or starting that little project you’ve been dreaming about. Take a deep breath, push past the resistance, and do it.

That single action, no matter how tiny, creates momentum. It reminds you that even when everything inside you resists, you still have the power to move forward. One small step is all it takes to begin breaking the cycle of procrastination and reclaiming your energy.

12/11/2025

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11th day of 30 Days of Kindness…SAY THANK YOU!

I am deeply thankful for every experience life has given me. Every emotion—joy, heartbreak, confusion, anger, and love—has taught me to dig inward and truly connect with my intimate self (into-me-see). I’ve learned what it means to listen with my heart instead of my mind, and it’s from that place that I now make most of my decisions.

Leaning into myself hasn’t always been easy; facing the truth of my own loops and patterns can be uncomfortable. But it has also been freeing, healing, and empowering. I love my life, and all is well.

12/10/2025

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10th day of 30 Days of Kindness…SMILE AT SOMEONE, or yourself!

And in that moment, you don’t have to worry about a thing… every little thing is going to be alright.

When you smile at someone, something beautiful happens—both inside of you and inside of them. Your own smile triggers the release of endorphins, those natural “feel-good” chemicals that gently lift your mood and calm your nervous system.

And when you practice this often, you’ll notice that almost everyone smiles back. That’s because the human brain is wired with mirror neurons that naturally mimic the expressions we see, which means your smile helps them release endorphins too. It’s a simple act with a powerful ripple.

And I love the meaning behind SMILE: Start My Internal Love Engine—because that’s exactly what happens. One small expression of kindness can start a chain reaction of warmth, connection, and joy.