Dragonfly Therapeutics of Calgary

11/06/2025

A narcissist's mindset:
That didn’t happen. And if it did happen, it really wasn’t that bad. And if it was bad, it’s still not a big deal. And if it is a big deal, it’s definitely not my fault. And if it somehow is my fault, I didn’t mean it. And if I did mean it, well, you made me do it. And if you didn’t make me do it, then someone else is to blame. And if no one else is to blame, then clearly, you’re overreacting. And if you’re not overreacting, then the world around us is just too sensitive. And if the world isn’t sensitive, then obviously, I’ve been misunderstood this whole time.

Every situation is rewritten in their favor. Every wrong is minimized, denied, or shifted. They remember things the way they want them to have happened, not the way they actually did. They can make you question your own memory, your own perception, your own sense of reality. Every argument ends with you feeling guilty, even when you know you did nothing wrong. Every tear you shed is somehow proof that you are the problem, not them.

Their empathy is selective—when it benefits them, it appears. When it requires responsibility, it disappears. They can show kindness, charm, and even vulnerability, but it’s always calculated, a tool to reset the narrative or to pull you back into their orbit. Their apologies are empty, half-hearted, or manipulative, designed to confuse you, calm you, or make you feel indebted.

Living with a narcissist is like walking in a house of mirrors—everything reflects back at you distorted. You start to doubt yourself, your instincts, your worth. You wonder if you’re too sensitive, too dramatic, too difficult, when the truth is that they are avoiding accountability, avoiding reflection, and avoiding the very thing that makes them human: the ability to admit, accept, and change.

And the worst part is how consistent it is. This pattern repeats endlessly: denial, minimization, blame-shifting, gaslighting. There is no closure, no fairness, only the constant, unrelenting rewriting of reality to suit their needs. You begin to understand that in their world, nothing is ever truly their fault—and every conflict is just another opportunity for them to prove it.

10/31/2025

Absolutely ❤❤

10/27/2025

“Cutting off family is going to hurt your kids.”

No. You know what’s going to hurt my kids? Having a mother who stays silent when people mistreat them. Having a mother who teaches them to tolerate pain because “it’s family.” Having a mother who keeps toxic cycles alive just to keep the peace.

What hurts children is being forced to love people who hurt them. What hurts them is watching their mother betray her own instincts for the sake of tradition.

I will not teach my kids that blood is a free pass for bad behavior. I will not teach them that keeping quiet is the same thing as keeping peace. I will not hand them trauma wrapped in the word family.

I can’t protect them from every wound life will bring, but I’ll be damned if I let the ones I can prevent come from their own bloodline.

10/20/2025

Movement Matters❤️

10/19/2025

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If there's an abuser in your friend group and you choose to stay out of it and not "pick sides," then you picked a side. Silence is not neutrality. Inaction is a choice. By refusing to confront or even acknowledge the harm, you are creating an environment where abuse is quietly tolerated, where cruelty can thrive unchecked. You are fostering a space where someone feels safe to manipulate, intimidate, or hurt others without fear of consequence. Every time you look the other way, every time you shrug or laugh off red flags, you are sending a message—loud and clear: “You are welcome to hurt people here.”

This doesn’t just affect the person being targeted—it erodes the moral fabric of the entire group. It signals to others that they, too, can ignore wrongdoing, that their silence is acceptable. The weight of your inaction may seem small in a single moment, but over time, it compounds. Patterns of abuse continue, trust is shattered, and the group itself becomes a breeding ground for pain and betrayal. True courage isn’t about being popular or avoiding conflict; it’s about standing for what’s right, even when it’s uncomfortable, even when it risks making waves. True loyalty isn’t protecting the abuser—it’s protecting humanity within your circle, defending those who cannot defend themselves, and refusing to let harm go unchallenged.

Choosing silence may feel safe, but safety at the expense of others is a lie. Choosing silence is a choice—and that choice has consequences that ripple far beyond the moment.
“Andy Burg”

10/09/2025

Yes, yes, yes spot on!

What keeps us happy and healthy as we go through life? If you could invest in just one thing that would help you and your family thrive, where would you put your time and energy? These questions might seem simple, but their answers hold profound implications for how we live our lives and raise our c...

10/09/2025

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Kate Middleton says that cellphones are "fragmenting our focus” and fueling an “epidemic of disconnection” in a new essay posted on the website for her Centre for Early Childhood on Thursday, October 9

10/02/2025

Huge shout out to Energy Equine Airdrie, Dr. Wennekamp and vet tech Emma. They were outstanding with exceptional care of one of our equine therapists, Ben. Thank you for what you do 🩺⚕️🩻❤️

09/04/2025

My contribution to The Plaid Horse Magazine 🖊️📚🐴😊

By Stephanie Robson MSW, RCSW, CPT, TITC-CT I have heard over the last number of years the comment, “horses are like mirrors.” Quite simply, I disagree. As someone who was first introduced to horses at the age of four, has ridden horses for decades, and, after an 18-year career in mental health,...

08/29/2025

Purpose, control, and social support can be difference-makers.