03/18/2026
My husband and I watched the Louis Theroux Manosphere documentary and I’ve been sitting with my thoughts.
Here’s where I landed.
Men being proud of who they are, embracing their masculinity, wanting to provide for or protect their families?
That has never been the problem ✨️
What worries me is how some of these messages are packaged — and what they’re built on.
I work with a lot of men in my practice who are genuinely struggling with who they’re supposed to be in today’s world. They’re navigating mixed messages about masculinity, value, and worth.
Rigid gender roles hurt men too. When we reduce masculinity to dominance, stoicism, and financial success, we leave very little room for the full human being underneath.
Showing up as a man isn’t just about providing financially 💰
It’s about being emotionally present — with your partner, your children, and the people you love.
That isn’t weakness. That’s the work. 🤝
And here’s the part I keep coming back to:
If your sense of worth as a man requires someone else to be worth less… that’s not strength. That’s a wound.
Young men searching for identity deserve better answers than that.
Real self-esteem doesn’t come from domination.
It comes from self-knowledge, healing, and loving your people well.
That’s the masculinity worth celebrating. 💙
💬 Did you watch it? I’m curious what others thought.
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