07/12/2025
Childless doulas.
Sometimes people ask me if I have babies of my own and are surprised to hear that I don’t. It is a decision that my husband and I made a long time ago, partially due to my questionable fertility, mostly because of other reasons.
Not having children doesn’t make me a worse doula. Yes, I lack personal experience with raising my own babies and being in the trenches of parenthood, for sure. But I gain more flexibility and freedom to care for my clients and their little ones (and possibly less bias).
Not being a mom will likely be something I will always grieve just a tiny bit. I’m sad that I will never have a relationship with my own child, similar to the one I have with my parents. But, even though I don’t love my “doula babies” as much as their parents do, I still care for them very much. I’m grateful to have a job that allows me to hold the babies, but even more so, to hold their parents. To be there when clients are struggling, to remind them of their strength, to listen. To create space for them to feel safe and supported.
Not having kids as a doula can be hard sometimes, but it’s also beautiful. Every time I get to watch someone birth their baby, I feel awe and respect for their strength. I don’t know what it feels like to grow a human in my body and bring it to the world, but I know how to hold space for those who do.
If you’re looking for a birth doula in the Waterloo Region and the surrounding area, let’s connect! I would love to work with you.