04/24/2026
Grief and Storytelling
Grief is still an uncomfortable topic for many within our North American society. People often prefer to avoid the topic and will offer solutions to the griever to distract them from experiencing difficult emotions. Grievers also shut down a dialogue on this topic whenever advice does not fully acknowledge their feelings.
Storytelling is a great tool to open up a conversation that addresses loss. It offers a different approach from the above, which is often an easier way for the both griever and the support person to talk about an emotional and difficult subject. Stories have connected people to one another throughout time and allow past actions to be the initiating point to delve into tough conversation which otherwise might not occur. The human experience includes both easy and difficult situations and being able to use tactics which assist within difficult circumstances is beneficial to all.
Having a conversation about a loved one who has died encompasses more than just painful emotions. Storytelling gives a voice to what the heart needs to share. It also involves memory and recalling the life that was shared with someone special. Trusting relationships and connections further develop within conversations, leading to a calming of the mind. A broader understanding surrounding the loss is even possible, including unresolved issues which are uncovered during storytelling.
Providing only opinions on how to process grief is typically not helpful. Helping grievers adjust to their world which has turned upside down can be more easily facilitated through story.
“Tell me about your loved one” is a great place to start. Then be sure to listen carefully for comments that may be clues to the challenges they currently face.
Bertha Brannen
Grief Recovery Specialist
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