10/27/2025
Happy Monday everyone!
What a beautiful sunny day here in Clinton!🌤️
On the path of life we will all cause harm and have harm brought upon us. This is nature and cannot be avoided.
What can come into question is what constitutes real harm. It cannot be summarized and defined in every circumstance because reality is relative. If someone ends a marriage because they are unhappy it will cause harm to the other, however to remain somewhere we aren’t happy is to cause harm to ourselves. One may even say that to stay in that unhappy union is to cause harm to the other whether they wish to see it or not.
Are we selfish if we honour our own needs and truth?
Are we victimizing someone by simply setting boundaries and caring about our own peace?
In my humble opinion, the answer is no. It’s our birthright to change and to manifest a life that reflects that change.
There are those who cannot see when they are being victimized, as there are those who can but do not want to admit it.
There are those who will always imagine they are being victimized because the idea they are responsible for their own experience is too much to accept.
There are those who constantly victimize others but cannot see it. And those who can see it and do not care.
We could go on and on…
However there’s something which stands true no matter which category we fall into. If we are always the victim it means we aren’t taking responsibility for our own lives and if we aren’t doing that we are hurting those around us who love us.
Either through blaming them, not making changes or growing and healing within ourselves. Our unwillingness to practise the reflection needed for this and to do the work necessary to own the circumstances of our lives hurts those around us.
It also waters down what it means to be truly victimized.
We are all responsible for our own lives, happiness, healing, evolution, and sense of wholeness.
This is not to imply that we cannot support or walk with another through difficult and happy times. However if someone around you claims you are victimizing them by practising self love and setting boundaries it’s time to evaluate what’s really going on.
It’s quite possible you are the real victim in the story. And for those who don’t identify as that it can mean some contemplation is necessary.
Enjoy this beautiful day and remember how much you matter.
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