10/17/2025
Love this!
This is a tale as old as time. Our need and ability to fantasize is something that helps us regulate when we experience stress and uncertainty. It’s a creative way to ignore reality and pivot to a place of potential. And potential is filled with beautiful outcomes. We can feel inspired and motivated to cling to the frayed edges of something tattered and flimsy when we create a story board of Cinderella or any other similar rags to riches narrative. Potential can be useful when you’re feeling confident and empowered. Potential is resourceful when you’re safe and not being abused and simply building a relationship with someone who respects you. But potential becomes weaponized when you are connected to an immature, abusive person. They will ensure you are wired solidly to a false, temporary version they created during your introduction to them, and then the campaign of inconsistency and confusion begins. You will learn to abandon reality because potential is the world with the romanticized ending. Stay awake, be present and be aware of PATTERNS not MOMENTS! Everyone can have a moment of decency and feigned kindness. But abusers depend on you being more focused on that then what is more important, that it always shares space with pain. That’s not love. That’s not healthy. That’s the foundation of abuse. ❤️🙏🏼
