Sarah Harrison-Cragg, MSW, RSW

12/25/2025

We love both roles. Truly.
Holding space for clients is sacred work.
Creating magic at home is so very meaningful.

But the shift between the two isn’t seamless.
It’s a nervous system pivot..
from containing trauma to cultivating wonder, from steady presence to festive joy, often with little to no pause in between.

The love is real.
The work is heavy.
And the fact that you show up for so many roles, so fully and so often, is deeply valued… and it’s also okay to take a pause when you need one.

12/22/2025

Growing Around Grief is a model created by grief counselor Dr. Lois Tonkin. Tonkin came up with the model after speaking to a client about the death of their child. The woman told Tonkin that at first grief filled every part of her life. She drew a picture with a circle to represent her life and shading to indicate her grief. It was all-consuming.⁠
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She had thought that as time went by the grief would shrink and become a much smaller part of her life. But what happened was different. The grief stayed just as big, but her life grew around it. There were times where she felt the grief as intensely as when her child first died. But there were other times where she felt she lived her life in the space outside the circle.⁠
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This view of grief does not tell someone that their grief will go away in time. You will never be "over it." It acknowledges that there will be some days where you feel grief as strongly as you did when the person first died. But there will also be days when you are able to move on with other parts of your life.⁠
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The "growing around grief" model shows how we can still grieve the loss of our loved one while carrying on with our own lives. It shows that we can grow a new life which includes the loss.⁠

🎨 Art by creative.clinical.psychologist on Instagram
✍️ Words by Cruse Bereavement Support

11/30/2025

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11/04/2025

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10/19/2025

When breast cancer strikes, normal life shifts to include doctors' appointments, surgery, and—depending on the type of cancer you have—port placement, chemo, side-effects, hospitalization, radiation, and medication.

But even after someone rings the victory bell, and you're officially "done," the reality is, many cancer survivors are embarking on a new perilous journey.

This is because the treatment process itself can leave you with symptoms of PTSD, particularly when those around you minimize or dismiss the pain of the treatment process or give you the message that everything will go back to normal, afterward.

Therapist Anna Lock shares how she came to recognize her own post-cancer PTSD and provide others with support and validation.

Read full article here: https://bit.ly/4hw4R8J

10/11/2025

The secret to reducing childhood anxiety is actually quite simple: just let kids do more stuff on their own, says Lenore Skenazy, cofounder and president of Let Grow, an organization dedicated to normalizing childhood independence. In conversation with TED’s Whitney Pennington Rodgers, Skenazy dis...

10/11/2025

Activities that benefit you, even if you never get any better.

10/11/2025

Choose your kids. Always. ❤️

That doesn’t mean condoning everything they say or do, or devoting every waking moment to their service.

It simply means choosing them — and what lies in their best interest — in every possible moment.

Sometimes that looks like modelling good self-care and nurturing other relationships, like your partnership. You’re still choosing them when you show what healthy relationships look like — and when you give them a happy parent in a peaceful home.

Sometimes it means being “the bad guy” instead of “the coolest.” Choosing to lead them. To make the hard calls, to tell them the truths no one else will — for their benefit.

Sometimes it means living through the heartbreak of watching them leave the nest — to study, to work, to build lives and loves that belong to them. Letting them make the choices they need to make.

Choosing our kids doesn’t mean we stop choosing anyone or anything else.

I was once told that when someone new to love enters your life, you don’t take away love from others to give it to them — your love multiplies to make enough.

In the same way, when someone makes your life better by being in it, it doesn’t mean your life wasn’t already full before they came. Your heart was whole then, and it expands again now.

So yes — choose your kids. Choose to love them, guide them, uplift them, teach them, celebrate with them, and learn from them. Choose it all.

Because they need you to be in their corner — and you likely need(ed) the same from your parents, too.

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09/10/2025

09/08/2025

In the beginning, our children need us to hold them steady — to be the arms that carry, the presence that protects, the safe place that doesn’t move when everything else feels uncertain.

But as they grow, what they need shifts.

They don’t need us to shield them from every wave. They need us to show them how to navigate. To step back just enough so they can feel their own strength, while knowing we’re still close enough to turn to.

That’s the quiet evolution of parenthood: we don’t stop being their home. We stop being the walls that hold them in, and start becoming the light that helps them find their way back.

Because home isn’t a place they outgrow. It’s a presence they carry — one that steadies them when they’re small, and guides them when they’re grown.

We don’t raise them to need us forever. We raise them to move through life knowing we are with them, even when we’re not beside them. ❤️

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09/08/2025

09/07/2025

I heard something today that felt like someone quietly rearranged the furniture in my soul.

Gabor Maté, in a conversation with Mel Robbins on her podcast, said:
“No two children grow up in the same home. Even with the same parents.”

And he’s right.
By the time each child is born, the people raising them have already changed.
A father may be softer now, or more guarded.
A mother may be freer, or more worn.
The marriage may be blooming… or quietly cracking.
Money might be scarce, or finally enough to breathe.

And then there’s *us*—the children.
We come with different hearts, different fears, different ways of hearing the same words.
One child feels loved in the quiet; another feels abandoned in it.
One thrives under structure; another wilts.
The same hug, the same house, the same parents—yet completely different worlds.

It made me think about the stories we carry.
How we assume we all lived the same childhood because we shared a roof.
But we didn’t.

We were each raised by a different version of our parents… a version shaped by time, by trials, by joy, by fatigue.

And maybe part of growing up - truly growing up - is making peace with this.
To forgive the versions of our parents who couldn’t give more.
To honor the versions who somehow gave anyway.
And to understand that the love was real, even when it looked nothing alike.

Because you see, love isn’t static.
It’s a living thing, it's changing, faltering and blooming; just like the people who give it.

Here’s my video reflection and excerpts of the interview: https://youtube.com/shorts/l3NUPuoX5AM