08/28/2025
Feeling at rock bottom?
This thoughtful piece from The School of Life dives into the emotional weight of feeling overwhelmed. It emphasizes how many of us try hard to appear “normal,” even when struggling inside. It shows that reaching out isn't a sign of weakness, but a courageous and vulnerable act that can foster deeper connections and healing.
Here’s a gentle and honest template you could adapt, grounded in the video’s insights:
Dear [Name],
I’m writing this because I’m going through something difficult right now and I’m finding it hard to manage on my own. It’s been overwhelming, and I’ve spent a lot of energy trying to seem okay—maybe too much.
I know it’s not easy to say this, but I need help. I’m not expecting anyone to fix things for me, I just need someone who is willing to listen and be with me while I find my way through this.
I really value your presence in my life, and I hope that, if you are able, you could sit with me. Just to talk, or even just to be together in silence. Knowing I’m not alone would mean the world.
Thank you for being part of my life and for your understanding, patience, or anything you’re able to offer.
With gratitude,
[Your name]
Why This Works
Openness + Authenticity: Begins with heartfelt honesty, breaking the “I’m okay” facade.
Clarity in the Ask: No assumptions—just a request for presence and companionship.
No Pressure for Solutions: Emphasizes that the goal is connection, not fixing.
Inviting Empathy: Honours the other person by valuing their willingness to support.
Alternative Phrasings (if written as a note or text)
Option 1:
I’ve been feeling stuck and overwhelmed lately. It’s tough to admit, but I could really use a friend right now. Could you just hang with me—whether that’s talking or sitting quietly?
Option 2:
I’m in a really dark place and struggling to keep it together. You don’t have to say anything wise—just being there with me would help more than you know.
Option 3:
This is hard to say out loud, but I’m not okay. I’m reaching out because I trust you. Even if it’s just a short message back or a cup of coffee together, it would mean a lot.
Tips to Keep in Mind
Keep it simple: Let your genuine feelings lead. No need for precise language or big explanations.
Feel the fear: Remember, as the video says, admitting vulnerability is brave and necessary.
Anticipate kindness: You’d be surprised how often people respond with care—even when we fear judgment.
In case of a mental health crisis or emergency involving yourself or someone else and you feel like you have no one to turn to:
Call the Mobile Mental Health Crisis Team at (902) 429-8167 or 1-888-429-8167, toll-free. This service is available 24 hours a day, 7 days a week.
Canada Wide Crisis Line 1-833-456-4566
Wellness Together Canada (Mental Health) 1-866-585-0445
Hope For Wellness Help Line (First Nations, Inuit, & Métis Peoples) 1-855-242-3310
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