10/28/2025
What I avoid controls me.
I’ve noticed how the things I avoid, whether it’s a tough conversation, a big decision, or even just admitting I’m wrong, somehow end up taking up more space in my mind than they deserve.
I’ve used avoidance as a strategy to protect myself.
It felt safe in the moment, like a shield against discomfort, failure, or judgment.
And sure, it worked for a little while. I stayed small, stayed "safe," tucked inside my comfort zone.
The relief was real, but it was also temporary.
But here’s what I’ve learned the hard way: what protected me also trapped me.
The longer I avoided something, the heavier it became.
Fear grew.
Doubt festered.
Problems piled up.
In the big picture, avoidance didn’t make things easier, it made them harder.
So now I’m trying to face things, even in small steps.
When I’m scared of failure, I try anyway.
When I’m avoiding a tough talk, I start with one sentence.
When I’m procrastinating on a goal, I commit to just 5 minutes.
And every time I do, I remember:
courage is always available.
It’s not some distant, unattainable thing, it’s right here, waiting.
All we need to do is reach for it. 💜
