02/16/2026
Unravelling a Life Tangled up in Grief
Grief has been described as being tossed around on a stormy sea, uncertain which wave will hit next, trying to stop oneself from going under. At some point, whether propelled by exhaustion or by the need to change, there comes a realization that life as it is, needs unravelling.
It begins with the acknowledgment that grief can be and often is grueling. Painful and unfamiliar emotions enter the life of a griever and these cannot be bypassed. To deny grief only delays the process of coming to terms with the loss. It needs mentioning here that mourning is a normal and natural human response to loss.
Thankfully, there are steps that can be taken towards recovery. Alone-time can be utilized to initiate and practice simple small steps such as reestablishing routines and habits such as: making the bed, indulging in a morning cup of coffee, grocery shopping or other household chores. Choosing to engage in these activities with a different mindset helps highlight appreciation for the positives the bereft still has, rather than replaying what has been lost.
This journey is best travelled with support. Reaching out to a caring family member or friend, or to someone who has experienced a similar loss often is helpful. Recounting special memories is the stuff that leads to acknowledgement of this loss and healing. Sometimes professional help may be needed to navigate the rough seas imposed by grief.
Sticking to the basics: rewarding the physical body with good food, healthy drinks, rest, water and some exercise supports mental and emotional wellbeing and recovery. As personal goals are reached, the griever often finds themselves in state of acceptance and from there a renewed sense of purpose can be achieved.
Bertha Brannen
Grief Recovery Specialist
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