12/05/2025
This comes up a lot when families have older parents.
Why bother having a service, even though it was preplanned and was the wishes of my Mother?
When someone we love reaches a beautiful age, 90, 95, 97, it can be easy to think, “Why have a service? It was expected. There aren’t many of us left.”
But a service isn’t about the size of the crowd.
It’s about honouring a life that shaped yours.
When a loved one has preplanned their arrangements, it’s often because they wanted to lift the burden from their family and ensure their wishes were respected.
They imagined a moment, no matter how small, where their story would be acknowledged, their love remembered, and their life marked with dignity.
A service, even a simple and intimate one, gives us a place to pause.
To reflect.
To say, “She mattered.”
Whether it’s two people or twenty, the value is the same:
It creates space for meaning, closure, and gratitude for the life that touched yours.
Honouring someone’s preplanned wishes isn’t just about tradition,
it’s a final gift of respect to the person who gave so much.
