12/22/2025
Maybe we don’t become good parents.
Maybe we unbecome everything we were taught we had to be.
Because so much of what society drilled into us never actually served our children:
the perfectionism,
the pressure to perform,
the fear of judgment,
the belief that authority requires distance,
the idea that love must look a certain way to be “right.”
We inherited rules about parenting that weren’t built for connection —
they were built for control, image, convenience, and compliance.
And somewhere along the way, many of us confused that with “good” parenting.
But when we start peeling those layers off —
the shoulds,
the expectations,
the old narratives about what strong, strict, or successful parenting looks like —
we find something truer underneath.
We find ourselves.
And the more we return to who we actually are —
not who we were taught to be —
the more naturally we show up for our children.
With softness when it’s needed.
With boundaries that make sense.
With presence instead of performance.
With connection instead of control.
Our children never needed the version of us that the world tried to shape.
They needed the version that exists beneath all that noise:
the one who feels,
who questions,
who learns,
who repairs,
who grows right beside them.
Maybe we don’t “become” good parents at all.
Maybe we simply let go of who we aren’t —
and who we ARE is exactly what our children needed all along. ❤️
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