12/29/2025
I Literally Cried When My Therapist Said:
“There are parents who would rather watch their adult child walk out of their life completely than face the truth about how damaging their behavior has been. Losing you hurts them less than admitting they were the ones who caused the pain.”
It hit me all at once—the grief, the relief, the validation I didn’t know I’d been starving for. Because for so long, I believed that if I just explained myself better, loved harder, stayed quieter, or became easier to deal with, things would change. I thought accountability would eventually win. I thought truth mattered more than comfort.
However, some people consistently choose comfort over truth.
That sentence helped me understand something that years of trying never did: walking away wasn’t a failure on my part. It wasn’t cruelty. It wasn’t giving up. It was the natural consequence of loving myself in a space where love was conditional and denial was safer than growth.
There is a particular kind of pain that comes from realizing the people who were supposed to protect
