08/30/2025
The Gift of Lining Up Rocks
Today I watched something beautiful unfold in the sandbox. A beautiful childsat quietly, carefully lining up their rocks in the sand. To an outside eye, this might look like “just” repetitive play; something many adults might be tempted to stop or redirect. But instead, we chose to lean in and help them.
And that choice made all the difference.
Respecting Their Way of Learning
For autistic children, structured or repetitive play isn’t meaningless, it’s purposeful. Lining up rocks brought them joy, calm, and predictability. By honoring that, we showed them: Your way of exploring the world is important. We value it, and we value you.
Building Trust and Connection
When we joined them, they knew they weren’t going to be stopped or corrected. That created safety. Trust. A sense that we were on their team. And because of that trust, something magical happened…
The Spark of Spontaneous Communication
As they searched for “the right rock,” we celebrated with genuine excitement when they found it. Our enthusiasm was contagious. They began spontaneously imitating the words we were saying, repeating them, experimenting with them, playing with their sounds.
The rocks became more than rocks ... they became opportunities for language.
Singing, Sharing, and Purposeful Play
We sang together, turning their play into a joyful rhythm of words and songs. What started as lining up stones blossomed into purposeful play filled with connection, laughter, and growth. By the end, they had added lots of new words to their vocabulary, not through drills or forced lessons, but through an activity they loved, supported by people who believed in them.
Why This Matters
When we choose to support rather than stop, we open the door to trust, learning, and communication. What may look like “just lining up rocks” is actually a bridge... a way to connect, to learn, to share joy.
And today, that bridge was built one rock at a time.