Nervous System Specialist, Trauma Informed, Heart Centered, Sacred Healing Space, dedicated to Nervous System Regulation and Generational Trauma healing.
The Space for all Cycle and Curse Breakers who are looking to regulate their nervous system's.
02/17/2026
✨️✨️✨️✨️Southside booking is NO LONGER available for Online booking ✨️✨️✨️✨️
To book Southside I MUST know you already and you have to reach out to me personally to book it. There must also be a current intake form on the system with email/phone number/address and consent given for treatment.
Availability does show up but that's all. Message Candace Raynes for Southside booking going forward.
Thank you for understanding 💜
✨ FEBRUARY AVAILABILITY ✨
Nervous System Support • Therapeutic Bodywork • Energy Healing
I’ve made a few schedule changes this month (hello Tuesday mornings 👋🏼) and opened some extra spots.
February Availability:
📍 Smythe St
• Fri Feb 20 - 1115, 1230, 145
• Mon Feb 23 - 1230, 145, 3, 415
• Tues Feb 24 - 945, 10, 1215
📍 Canada St
• Tues Feb 17 – 4:15
• Wed Feb 18 – 3:45, 5:00
• Tues Feb 24 – 2:30, 3:45, 5:00
• Wed Feb 25 – 12:00, 1:15, 2:30
• Fri Feb 27 – 1:15, 3:45, 5:00
If your body has been running in survival mode…
If you’re functional but exhausted…
If rest hasn’t actually felt restful in a long time —
This work is for you.
My sessions are designed to downshift your nervous system through the body, not push it harder. We work with safety, breath, tissue, and subtle energy to help your system remember how to settle, soften, and repair.
People often leave feeling: • grounded instead of braced
• calmer without being numb
• present in their body again
• able to sleep, breathe, and feel more clearly
If you’ve been carrying too much for too long, this is your invitation to lay it down — safely.
DM me to book or ask questions.
✨️Like maybe ask insurance coverage and if your plan covers you ✨️
Your body doesn’t need fixing — it needs support. 🤍
02/17/2026
✨ Day 2 – Shame as Over-Responsibility
How it shows up:
Someone’s tone shifts… and your body reacts before your mind does.
You scan for what you did wrong.
You soften yourself.
You over-explain.
You try to fix the mood.
You carry emotions that were never yours.
Because somewhere along the way your nervous system learned:
“If they’re upset, I’m not safe.”
That’s not love.
That’s survival.
Responsibility is shared. Emotional caretaking is not love — it’s survival energy.
Practice:
Pause before jumping in to fix someone’s feelings.
Ask: “Is this mine to carry?”
🌀 Body Prompt:
Notice your body in that moment.
Tight chest?
Dropped stomach?
Rounded shoulders?
Place one hand on your chest, one on your belly.
Take one slow breath.
Let your shoulders move back slightly.
Say quietly:
“I am allowed to let others have their feelings.”
Stay there for a few breaths.
Shared responsibility feels different in the body.
02/16/2026
New Name, New Website, Better Aligned
I have been quietly working away creating a new landing pad that feels more me again. Shifting Light Studio was the very 1st name I chose all those years ago when I first began this journey and it has officially served it's purpose now.
I have been re-becoming, re-imagining and re-designing the way I move through this world and this new name and website will hopefully feel as "right" to you as it does to me!
It's still me Candace Raynes just a lot more aligned!
You all get a free meditation for the hassle and keep your eyes open for more online contect to come!!
Check out Woman UnWound and let me know what you think!
Stop Bracing. Start Feeling. Most women I work with appear calm on the outside - but their bodies are carrying tension, worry, and protection on the inside. I help women slow down, reconnect, and teach their bodies it’s safe to soften. About Me Woman UnWound Offerings Body UnWound Hands-on bodywor...
02/16/2026
✨ Day 1 — Shame as Self-Silencing
There’s a kind of shame that doesn’t scream.
It whispers.
It shows up when you almost say something… and then don’t.
When you feel hurt but convince yourself,
“It’s not a big deal.”
When you need support but decide,
“I’ll just handle it.”
When you shrink your truth because you don’t want to be “too much.”
As women — especially as moms — we get very good at this.
We read the room.
We regulate everyone else.
We keep the peace.
And slowly… we disappear.
But here’s what I see every week in my sessions:
When a woman silences herself, her body doesn’t.
The tight jaw.
The sore throat.
The locked shoulders.
The nervous system that won’t settle.
Shame doesn’t just live in your thoughts.
It lives in your tissues.
It lives in the breath you don’t take.
It lives in the words you don’t say.
And your body keeps score.
The reframe isn’t “be louder.”
It’s this:
✨ Your voice isn’t a disruption.
It’s information.
It’s intelligence.
It’s a doorway back to yourself.
When you speak something true — even gently — your nervous system recalibrates.
Your body softens.
Your energy shifts.
That’s the work I care about.
Not performance.
Not pushing.
Not overpowering.
Just helping your body feel safe enough…
to tell the truth.
Today’s Practice:
Say one thing you would normally soften, hide, or swallow.
It doesn’t have to be dramatic.
It can be as simple as:
“I’m actually tired.”
“I need help with that.”
“That didn’t sit right with me.”
Let your body feel what it’s like
to stay with yourself.
That’s where healing starts.
02/15/2026
Day 7 — Safety Is the Real Goal
I used to think healing meant being calm all the time.
Never triggered.
Never overwhelmed.
Never reactive.
But that’s not healing.
That’s suppression dressed up as spirituality.
Healing, for me, has become this:
Can my body return to safety?
Not avoid discomfort.
Not bypass emotion.
But move through it and come back home.
My body doesn’t need perfection.
It needs repair.
It needs moments where I notice,
“I’m dysregulated,” and instead of judging it, I respond.
A hand on my chest.
A slower breath.
A pause before reacting.
Safety isn’t a permanent state.
It’s a relationship.
And the more I practice returning, the faster my body trusts me.
As a mother.
As a woman.
As a human inside this nervous system.
I don’t need to be unshakeable.
I need to know I can come back.
Body practice:
Think of one small moment today where you felt even 5% more settled.
Pause and let your body remember it for 20 seconds.
Question:
What if healing isn’t about never leaving safety —
but learning you can always return?
02/14/2026
Day 6 — I Stopped Trying to Be the Strong One
I wore “strong” like armor.
The capable one.
The dependable one.
The one who could hold it all.
And I could.
But my body was paying for it.
Tight jaw.
Shallow breath.
Shoulders that never really dropped.
I thought strength meant endurance.
Pushing through.
Not needing.
But my body doesn’t experience that as strength.
It experiences that as survival.
Real strength — the kind my body understands —
is letting my shoulders soften.
Is saying “I’m tired” before I’m resentful.
Is asking for help before I’m drowning.
It’s allowing myself to be supported instead of always being the support.
As a mom, that one was hard.
Because someone always needs something.
But I started noticing something:
When I softened, my kids softened.
When I regulated, the room regulated.
When I stopped performing strength, my nervous system finally exhaled.
Strength isn’t gripping.
It’s staying open.
Body practice:
Unclench your jaw.
Drop your tongue from the roof of your mouth.
Take one slow breath and let your shoulders fall on the exhale.
Question:
Where in your life are you performing strength instead of feeling safe?
02/13/2026
Day 5 — The Body Was the Missing Piece All Along
I didn’t heal by fixing myself.
I healed by finally including myself — my body included.
For years, I tried to mindset my way through everything.
Be stronger. Be calmer. Be better.
I thought if I could just think differently, I would feel different.
But my body was still bracing.
Still holding.
Still waiting for me to notice.
The body doesn’t respond to pressure.
It doesn’t respond to productivity.
It doesn’t respond to being told to “just relax.”
It responds to safety.
To consistency.
To gentleness.
To being listened to without being rushed.
As a busy mom, I didn’t need more practices to stack onto my day.
I didn’t need another routine to succeed at.
I needed my body to trust that I wasn’t going to override it anymore.
That I wasn’t going to push through the exhaustion.
That I wasn’t going to silence the tightness in my chest.
That I wasn’t going to abandon it the second someone else needed me.
Healing didn’t get deeper when I did more.
It got deeper when I stayed.
When I let my body matter.
When I stopped treating it like the last thing on the list.
And something shifted.
Not dramatically.
Not overnight.
But steadily.
My body softened because it finally felt included.
Body practice:
Place a hand where your body wants it.
Stay for one full minute.
No agenda.
Question:
What would change if your body felt like it mattered as much as everyone else?
02/12/2026
Day 4 — I Had to Let Go to Feel Aligned Again
Alignment didn’t come from “finding myself.”
It came from subtraction.
Not a new routine.
Not a better planner.
Not becoming more disciplined.
It came from less.
Less rushing my mornings.
Less explaining my boundaries.
Less overextending just to prove I’m capable.
Less carrying emotional weight that was never mine to hold.
As a mom, letting go felt dangerous at first.
Because we’re praised for how much we can carry.
How much we can handle.
How much we can sacrifice.
But my body doesn’t care about praise.
It cares about safety.
And it was exhausted from holding everything together.
There was a version of me that believed being strong meant absorbing it all.
The tension.
The mental load.
The unspoken expectations.
The subtle guilt.
But healing asked something different.
It asked me to put things down.
To stop performing resilience.
To stop over-functioning.
To stop managing everyone else’s comfort at the expense of my own nervous system.
And the wild part?
Nothing fell apart.
The more responsibility I released — the invisible kind especially —
the more my body softened.
My shoulders dropped.
My jaw unclenched.
My breath deepened.
Underneath the tension…
I was still there.
Not burnt out.
Not bitter.
Just buried.
Letting go wasn’t selfish.
It was survival.
And eventually, it became alignment.
Body practice:
Ask your body: What’s one thing I don’t need to carry today?
Notice the answer without arguing.
Question:
What have you been holding that your body is quietly asking you to put down?
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So I've debated on how deep to go into “Who I Am” for months…to the point of just not doing it and dragging my feet in putting myself out there. That, however, will not help anyone - myself included, so here goes!
I was raised in a dysfunctional family (this is putting it lightly and I'll be going into that deeper in my blogs as time unfolds so keep your eyes open and ear to the ground), filled with generational pain, drug and alcohol abuse, and a general lack of Faith in the Divine/God/Source or whatever resonates most with you if any of it.
The highlights of the generational dysfunction include having children far earlier than society deems natural, marrying too young and an over-all case of pure self-loathing that manifested in a broken marriage, physical and emotional violence, and a seemingly deep-seated addictive personality to anything that would numb the pain of existence (money, s*x, alcohol, drugs, and dangerous living).
The pattern would seem to be being broken in one area only to pop up in another place and time with the same general outcome; mother's suffering from anxiety and depression, father's displaced from the lives of children and back to trying to numb the pain all over again!
It seemed like a never-ending circle of hopelessness and anguish that just wouldn't go away! Then trauma hit my oldest daughter and I decided enough was enough… I REFUSED to watch my children ”suffer” the same living experience I had (I had believed that the cycle had already been broken… boy, was I wrong!). I realized the only way to break the pattern was to actually do something different, take different steps than had ever been taken before and to stop pretending that the problems didn't stem from ME first and foremost. That was the hardest thing for me, realizing that each and every decision I made (sh*t-past or not) had brought us to that pivotal moment in our lives. To say that my oldest had finally decided that she was done living the life she had been given is putting it lightly… She helped blow the lid off the entire facade and has brought much needed healing to our family unit 💞
Sometimes our lives have to completely collapse around us before we can see the light… Before we can go inside and start healing the past pain, trauma and dis-ease in our lives. Often we are so blinded to the ‘truth’ that the glass ceiling must fall before we are even able to start looking at where it all came from and what started it all. This isn't blaming our past for the life we live nor is it blaming our parents or our ancestors because I firmly believe we ALL do the very best with what we know and until we know better nothing really changes… Once we know better we do better! Each generation does better than the generation before because we all want to be a better version of what we lived.
Life as I knew it fell down around me almost two years ago and the changes I've seen in myself, my children and those around have been incredible… I won't pretend it's been easy because it hasn't HOWEVER I will promise you it's worth it! There is nothing more empowering than taking the reins in your own life, taking ownership where ownership is due and learning another way live…
If you've had past trauma, family dysfunction, drug/alcohol abuse, anxiety or depression, are feeling stuck in your life, are in physical pain or suffering from any Mental Health concerns or are just done with living a life of pain of any kind then reach out, Reiki has truly saved my life in so many ways, in all ways actually!
There's not a day that goes by that in not thanking the universe for bringing in my beautiful teachers, mentors and all the AMAZING people I've met these past two years… I no longer “live” my past but have learned to love it (most days anyway and the days I'm not loving it, I'm learning to love myself for where I am instead) and all of the lessons it's given me.
Brighter days are possible for All of us and I would be honored and grateful to help you help yourself 💞
