Trauma Informed, Heart Centered, Sacred Healing Space, dedicated to Nervous System Regulation and Generational Trauma healing.
The Healing Studio for all Cycle and Curse Breakers.
12/26/2025
✨ Day 5 — The Holder: The Emotional Anchor
This is the strong one.
The steady one.
The one the lineage leans on.
Born from generations of women who survived by tightening their shoulders and carrying the weight quietly.
Energetically, they absorb. They stabilize. They contain.
You learned to hold everything because no one ever held you.
You are allowed to unravel. You deserve softness too.
12/25/2025
✨ Day 4 — The Runner: The One Called by Freedom
The runner carries past-life echoes of entrapment, betrayal, or karmic bonds that ended painfully.
Unconsciously, they flee the moment things get real.
Energetically, their soul says: “Not again. Not like last time.”
You’re not running from the person—you’re running from the memory.
Freedom and connection can coexist. Love doesn’t recreate past harm when consciousness is present.
12/24/2025
Co-parenting with someone you’re still trying to heal from is incredibly hard.
Not because you don’t want peace.
Not because you’re unwilling to compromise.
But because every interaction asks your nervous system to do something it’s still learning how to do: stay regulated while old wounds are being touched.
You can be calm and still feel shaken.
Clear and still feel exhausted.
Boundaried and still grieve what should have been easier.
There’s a special kind of strength required to:
• advocate for your child
• stay factual when you want to scream
• hold boundaries without becoming hardened
• choose regulation over reaction again and again
And here’s the part no one tells you:
Doing this doesn’t mean you’re healed yet — it means you’re healing.
Healing doesn’t erase triggers overnight.
It teaches you how to move through them without abandoning yourself.
If this season feels heavy, you’re not failing.
You’re doing something incredibly advanced:
breaking cycles while still inside the relationship that created them.
To the women navigating co-parenting while rebuilding their nervous systems —
I see you.
Your steadiness matters.
Your boundaries matter.
And your body deserves care too.
You are not weak for finding this hard.
You are strong for staying present anyway. 🤍
12/24/2025
✨ Day 3 — The Fixer: The Healer of the Lineage
This role is inherited by the child who became the adult too soon.
The one who soothed parents, held siblings together, and carried emotional loads that weren’t theirs.
Energetically, they surge forward with solutions, believing peace is their responsibility.
You weren’t meant to save anyone. That wasn’t your sacred task—it was your survival strategy.
You get to rest. You get to receive. Healing isn’t yours to perform for others.
12/23/2025
✨ Day 2 — The Avoidant One: The Protector of Space
This role is shaped in families where emotions were too big, too explosive, or too ignored.
Closeness felt risky, so distance became survival.
Energetically, they pull back to regulate.
Their body confuses intimacy with threat.
You learned to hold yourself because no one else knew how to. That doesn’t make you cold; it makes you adaptive.
Connection doesn’t erase your autonomy. You can stay with someone without losing yourself.
12/22/2025
✨ The Roles We Play & The Lessons They Teach Us ✨
We don’t wake up one day and choose our patterns.
We inherit them.
We absorb them.
We adapt to survive.
Somewhere along the way, we learned who we had to be to stay connected.
Who we had to become to feel safe.
Who we had to perform in order to belong.
This series is an invitation to gently look at the roles you’ve carried—
not with shame,
but with compassion.
These roles once protected you.
And now… they may be asking to be witnessed, softened, and released.
You are not broken.
You are patterned.
And patterns can be unwound.
Welcome to The Roles We Play & The Lessons They Teach Us.
Let’s begin. 🤍
12/22/2025
The Roles We Play & The Lessons They Teach Us
✨ Day 1 — The Anxious One: The Seeker of Safety
This role is born from lineage where love felt inconsistent.
Mothers who were overwhelmed, fathers who were emotionally distant, homes where connection wasn’t dependable.
Energetically, this person reaches forward.
Their body scans for danger.
Their heart aches for closeness.
You are not too much. You were just taught to chase love instead of stand in it.
Safety is created within, not negotiated through someone else’s presence.
12/21/2025
✨ 7 Days of the Invisible Wounds — and How We Heal Them Together ✨
Day 7 — The Wound That Isn’t Yours
The inherited wound.
The grief that passes through generations.
The fear that never belonged to you.
This wound sits everywhere — bones, fascia, breath, energy.
How I help you break it:
Reiki clears the ancestral residue your body has been carrying.
Bodywork releases the physical memory of old trauma.
Your nervous system learns a new way — one your lineage never had access to.
You become the cycle breaker… not by force, but by restoration.
12/20/2025
✨ 7 Days of the Invisible Wounds — and How We Heal Them Together ✨
Day 6 — The Wound of Self-Abandonment
People-pleasing. Over-caring.
Loving others harder than they ever loved you.
It shows up in the lower back, pelvis, and the nervous system constantly scanning for everyone else’s needs but your own.
How my work helps:
In session, I bring you back into your own body.
You learn to feel you again.
We restore your center, your boundaries, your sense of self.
Your body gets to experience what it feels like when you finally choose you.
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So I've debated on how deep to go into “Who I Am” for months…to the point of just not doing it and dragging my feet in putting myself out there. That, however, will not help anyone - myself included, so here goes!
I was raised in a dysfunctional family (this is putting it lightly and I'll be going into that deeper in my blogs as time unfolds so keep your eyes open and ear to the ground), filled with generational pain, drug and alcohol abuse, and a general lack of Faith in the Divine/God/Source or whatever resonates most with you if any of it.
The highlights of the generational dysfunction include having children far earlier than society deems natural, marrying too young and an over-all case of pure self-loathing that manifested in a broken marriage, physical and emotional violence, and a seemingly deep-seated addictive personality to anything that would numb the pain of existence (money, s*x, alcohol, drugs, and dangerous living).
The pattern would seem to be being broken in one area only to pop up in another place and time with the same general outcome; mother's suffering from anxiety and depression, father's displaced from the lives of children and back to trying to numb the pain all over again!
It seemed like a never-ending circle of hopelessness and anguish that just wouldn't go away! Then trauma hit my oldest daughter and I decided enough was enough… I REFUSED to watch my children ”suffer” the same living experience I had (I had believed that the cycle had already been broken… boy, was I wrong!). I realized the only way to break the pattern was to actually do something different, take different steps than had ever been taken before and to stop pretending that the problems didn't stem from ME first and foremost. That was the hardest thing for me, realizing that each and every decision I made (sh*t-past or not) had brought us to that pivotal moment in our lives. To say that my oldest had finally decided that she was done living the life she had been given is putting it lightly… She helped blow the lid off the entire facade and has brought much needed healing to our family unit 💞
Sometimes our lives have to completely collapse around us before we can see the light… Before we can go inside and start healing the past pain, trauma and dis-ease in our lives. Often we are so blinded to the ‘truth’ that the glass ceiling must fall before we are even able to start looking at where it all came from and what started it all. This isn't blaming our past for the life we live nor is it blaming our parents or our ancestors because I firmly believe we ALL do the very best with what we know and until we know better nothing really changes… Once we know better we do better! Each generation does better than the generation before because we all want to be a better version of what we lived.
Life as I knew it fell down around me almost two years ago and the changes I've seen in myself, my children and those around have been incredible… I won't pretend it's been easy because it hasn't HOWEVER I will promise you it's worth it! There is nothing more empowering than taking the reins in your own life, taking ownership where ownership is due and learning another way live…
If you've had past trauma, family dysfunction, drug/alcohol abuse, anxiety or depression, are feeling stuck in your life, are in physical pain or suffering from any Mental Health concerns or are just done with living a life of pain of any kind then reach out, Reiki has truly saved my life in so many ways, in all ways actually!
There's not a day that goes by that in not thanking the universe for bringing in my beautiful teachers, mentors and all the AMAZING people I've met these past two years… I no longer “live” my past but have learned to love it (most days anyway and the days I'm not loving it, I'm learning to love myself for where I am instead) and all of the lessons it's given me.
Brighter days are possible for All of us and I would be honored and grateful to help you help yourself 💞
