Nervous System Specialist, Trauma Informed, formerly Shifting Light Studio, dedicated to Nervous System Regulation and Generational Trauma healing.
The Space for all Cycle and Curse Breakers who are looking to regulate their nervous system's.
04/17/2026
The cost of "I'll just do it."
“I’ll just do it.”
Seems harmless, right?
But over time—
It becomes the pattern.
You do.
They wait.
You handle it.
They don’t have to.
And slowly…
They stop trying.
Not because they’re incapable—
But because they’ve learned
someone else will always step in.
→ Independence isn’t taught.
It’s practiced.
04/16/2026
Control disguised as Care.
This one’s uncomfortable—
But important.
Sometimes what looks like care…
Is actually control.
Not harsh, not intentional—
but protective.
We step in because it’s faster.
Because it’s easier.
Because we know how.
But in doing that,
we take away their chance to struggle,
problem-solve,
and grow.
→ Support doesn’t mean taking over.
It means stepping back just enough
for them to step forward.
04/15/2026
😭 I'm not crying you're crying 😭
But seriously, I probably did make Joe Trevors of DENNER Media cry before, or want to rage quit 🤔 🤣 All jokes aside, they are incredible and I'm so deeply grateful for all the work that put into these.
They wouldn't be real and here without you!
Having them actually in Hand was a super emotional moment and I'm so grateful to my Sister from a different Mr Julie for giving me that gift today. Pretty sure I wasn't fully understanding that they are real thing until they landed in my hands 😭😭
04/15/2026
You're not just tired - You're carrying too much.
You’re not just tired.
You’re over-functioning.
There’s a difference.
Because this isn’t just about doing a lot—
It’s about doing what isn’t yours to carry.
Managing everything.
Thinking for everyone.
Fixing before anything even falls apart.
And while it looks like love—
It’s actually unsustainable.
For you.
And for them.
→ You were never meant to carry it all.
04/14/2026
You’re not broken.
You’re bracing.
And you’ve probably been bracing for so long…
you don’t even remember what it feels like to be fully at ease in your own body.
That’s not a mindset problem.
That’s a nervous system that never got to finish the stress cycle.
So no—more affirmations aren’t going to fix it.
And pushing through? That just teaches your body it’s still not safe.
This is where bodywork comes in.
Not as a luxury.
Not as a “treat.”
But as a way back into your body.
A way to show your system—through sensation, not words—
that it can soften. That it can let go. That it can exhale.
Because healing doesn’t happen when you force it.
It happens when your body finally feels safe enough to stop fighting.
This is the work.
Not bypassing.
Not numbing.
Not pretending you’re okay.
But slowly, consistently…
coming back into yourself.
And letting your nervous system learn something new:
“I’m safe now.”
If your body has been asking for this…
this is your invitation.
✨
04/14/2026
Over-functioning creates under-confidence.
When we constantly step in,
step up,
and take over—
Our kids don’t feel supported.
They feel like they can’t.
Even if that’s not our intention.
Because confidence isn’t built
by being taken care of all the time—
It’s built by doing,
trying,
figuring it out.
When we over-function,
we unintentionally send the message:
“I’ve got this… because you don’t.”
→ And that lands deeper than we realize.
04/13/2026
The truth no one says...
No one talks about this part—
But over-functioning as a mother
isn’t just exhausting you…
It’s shaping your kids.
When you do everything,
hold everything,
fix everything—
They don’t learn capability.
They learn dependency.
Not because you’re doing anything wrong—
But because they don’t get the chance
to experience themselves doing it.
→ The goal isn’t to do everything for them.
It’s to let them become who they’re capable of being.
04/12/2026
People think nervous system regulation is breathwork, meditation, journaling…
And sure — those things can help.
But if you’re still:
running on caffeine,
skipping meals,
not sleeping,
overthinking everything,
overgiving,
and calling it “doing the work”…
That’s not regulation.
That’s survival with better branding.
Real nervous system regulation isn’t aesthetic.
It’s not a morning routine you check off before diving back into chaos.
It looks like:
boundaries that actually hold,
eating like your body matters,
going to bed instead of pushing through,
moving in ways that support you,
choosing safety over familiarity,
and not abandoning yourself to keep the peace.
It’s not about coping better.
It’s about your body finally feeling safe enough to stop bracing.
If you’ve been doing all the “right things” and still feel wired, exhausted, or shut down…
Yeah.
That’s the work.
04/12/2026
Letting go of guilt changes EVERYTHING.
Imagine showing up for your kids—
without the constant voice
telling you it’s not enough.
Without the pressure.
The overthinking.
The weight.
That’s what happens
when you start letting go of guilt.
You become:
more present
more patient
more yourself
And your kids feel that shift immediately.
Not because you’re doing more—
But because you’re finally there.
Fully.
→ Today, try this:
Show up without judging yourself while you do it.
04/11/2026
You're not missing as much as you think you are.
Guilt will convince you
that every missed moment
is something you’ve taken from your child.
But that’s not how it works.
Your kids don’t need you everywhere.
They need to feel you.
Your support.
Your consistency.
Your love.
That’s what stays.
Not whether you made every game
or every event.
Guilt distorts reality.
Connection defines it.
→ Today, remind yourself:
I am showing up in ways that matter.
04/10/2026
At this point, “I’m fine” just means:
• overtired
• overstimulated
• slightly feral
• one minor inconvenience away from losing it
…but still showing up for everyone anyway 🙃
Cool cool cool.
Listen — you don’t need to earn rest.
You need it because you’re a human being with a nervous system that’s been “on” for way too long.
I’ve got a few spots left this month.
Come decompress before your body starts making the decisions for you.
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So I've debated on how deep to go into “Who I Am” for months…to the point of just not doing it and dragging my feet in putting myself out there. That, however, will not help anyone - myself included, so here goes!
I was raised in a dysfunctional family (this is putting it lightly and I'll be going into that deeper in my blogs as time unfolds so keep your eyes open and ear to the ground), filled with generational pain, drug and alcohol abuse, and a general lack of Faith in the Divine/God/Source or whatever resonates most with you if any of it.
The highlights of the generational dysfunction include having children far earlier than society deems natural, marrying too young and an over-all case of pure self-loathing that manifested in a broken marriage, physical and emotional violence, and a seemingly deep-seated addictive personality to anything that would numb the pain of existence (money, s*x, alcohol, drugs, and dangerous living).
The pattern would seem to be being broken in one area only to pop up in another place and time with the same general outcome; mother's suffering from anxiety and depression, father's displaced from the lives of children and back to trying to numb the pain all over again!
It seemed like a never-ending circle of hopelessness and anguish that just wouldn't go away! Then trauma hit my oldest daughter and I decided enough was enough… I REFUSED to watch my children ”suffer” the same living experience I had (I had believed that the cycle had already been broken… boy, was I wrong!). I realized the only way to break the pattern was to actually do something different, take different steps than had ever been taken before and to stop pretending that the problems didn't stem from ME first and foremost. That was the hardest thing for me, realizing that each and every decision I made (sh*t-past or not) had brought us to that pivotal moment in our lives. To say that my oldest had finally decided that she was done living the life she had been given is putting it lightly… She helped blow the lid off the entire facade and has brought much needed healing to our family unit 💞
Sometimes our lives have to completely collapse around us before we can see the light… Before we can go inside and start healing the past pain, trauma and dis-ease in our lives. Often we are so blinded to the ‘truth’ that the glass ceiling must fall before we are even able to start looking at where it all came from and what started it all. This isn't blaming our past for the life we live nor is it blaming our parents or our ancestors because I firmly believe we ALL do the very best with what we know and until we know better nothing really changes… Once we know better we do better! Each generation does better than the generation before because we all want to be a better version of what we lived.
Life as I knew it fell down around me almost two years ago and the changes I've seen in myself, my children and those around have been incredible… I won't pretend it's been easy because it hasn't HOWEVER I will promise you it's worth it! There is nothing more empowering than taking the reins in your own life, taking ownership where ownership is due and learning another way live…
If you've had past trauma, family dysfunction, drug/alcohol abuse, anxiety or depression, are feeling stuck in your life, are in physical pain or suffering from any Mental Health concerns or are just done with living a life of pain of any kind then reach out, Reiki has truly saved my life in so many ways, in all ways actually!
There's not a day that goes by that in not thanking the universe for bringing in my beautiful teachers, mentors and all the AMAZING people I've met these past two years… I no longer “live” my past but have learned to love it (most days anyway and the days I'm not loving it, I'm learning to love myself for where I am instead) and all of the lessons it's given me.
Brighter days are possible for All of us and I would be honored and grateful to help you help yourself 💞
