02/02/2026
When conflict is framed as character flaws, “you’re too sensitive,” “you always shut down,” “you never listen” , repair feels impossible.
But when couples learn to see conflict as parts interacting, blame softens and curiosity can enter the room.
You don’t need a relationship without conflict.
You need language for what’s happening underneath it.
That’s where real repair begins — not by winning the argument, but by understanding the nervous systems involved.
During your next disagreement, try asking: Which parts are showing up for each of us right now?