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02/23/2026

This is important self-care. ♥️ ~ Nanea

02/22/2026

Believe it or not, the human brain is wired to fight more than it is to make peace. We are designed to either become defensive or retreat to keep ourselves safe when the conversation gets tough. Using the following tips should help your brain stay calmer and engaged. difficult conversation

1. Sit facing each other. When we sit side by side, we end up giving each other a lot of darting sideways looks which your brain registers as threats. This could involuntarily escalate the tone of the conversation. Consequently, it is best to avoid discussing big issues in the car or on walks.

2 . Stop trying to reconstruct the event that led to a disagreement. Who did what is not as important as understanding what was the real issue at hand.

3 . Take the time to ask yourself what you really need from the other person. Talk about your needs and how having them fulfilled will impact you and your satisfaction level with the relationship. Be ready to listen to the other party’s needs as well.

4. When you notice the other person is reacting negatively (agitated or withdrawn) to the conversation, slow things down. Remind them that you are on the same side and that you want to sort it out in a manner that makes both of you happy. If you are not in that frame of mind yourself, call a time out, “I don’t think I am in a good place right now, can we pick this up in a couple of hours when I have calmed myself down?”

5. Your brain is also wired to watch eyes and mouths very closely as a means of detecting danger. As a result, a smile can often relax a tensed atmosphere.

Next time you need to prepare for a difficult conversation, take a deep breath and think though what it will take to ease the tension and relieve the pressure from both of you.

Manon Dulude, Ph.D., RP, PCC
Registered Psychotherapist and Certified Executive Coach
Over 35 years of experience in human development
In-person therapy in Halton Hills
Virtual sessions across Ontario
📞 905-703-0003
🌐 www.manondulude.com

02/21/2026

The True Costs of Hopelessness
by Robyne Hanley-Dafoe Ed.D.

The pace and weight of the world can feel like a lot right now. For some, it’s becoming harder to hold onto hope as uncertainty, fear, and a deep sense of sadness take root. There seems to be a growing tension between what we wish for and what we believe is possible, leaving people feeling heavy, discouraged, and unsure about what the future holds.

Even as we remain more connected than ever, many people feel alone. Mental health challenges are rising. Confidence in systems meant to support us has weakened. Job insecurity, burnout, political polarization, widening inequality, and growing climate anxiety weigh heavily on individuals, families, and communities.

Hopelessness is not a passive state. It is an active process of erosion. In my latest book, I Hope So: How to Choose Hope Even When It’s Hard, I explore, among other things, the effects of hopelessness on individuals, families, organizations, and society as a whole.

When people lose hope, the consequences are profound. We stop imagining a brighter future. We stop recognizing our own strengths, talents, gifts, and potential. Goals feel out of reach, effort feels pointless, and the belief that our actions matter slowly fades away. Apathy and cynicism creep in. Physical, mental, and emotional well-being begin to suffer. People begin to believe that the way things are now is the way they will always be.

Continued at https://www.psychologytoday.com/ca/blog/everyday-resilience/202601/the-true-costs-of-hopelessness

02/19/2026

"He Just Loves His Screen Time"
Ragnar Purje Ph.D.

We arrived at a small café for a pleasant afternoon lunch with a group of friends. When we arrived, everyone was seated and chatting. There was a toddler in a pram between his parents. The toddler was absorbed by looking at a device attached to the pram.

Even before we sat down, there were welcoming smiles, and delightful conversations immediately flowed; lots of laughter and banter filled the air as we decided what to order. The toddler did not look up.

The parents were delightfully attentive. The toddler was clearly content and happy, looking and tapping at the screen.

“He just loves his screen time," said one of the parents. "When he’s tapping, he’s happy. The only time he’s unhappy is when he’s not playing games with his cartoon friends. It’s great to see how happy he is.” We were all happy at this gathering. A great time was had by one and all.

Continued at https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/recovery-from-brain-injury/202602/he-just-loves-his-screen-time

02/16/2026

Cultivating Internal Hope Through Practical Action

Hope is frequently viewed as an external quality that depends on favourable circumstances. However, hope is a feeling that must be cultivated from within. Relying on external factors for positivity can be difficult when current realities are challenging.

To maintain a sense of buoyancy, it is effective to balance a long-term vision with short-term actions. By looking several years into the future, you can establish a clear direction. Once that vision is set, the process involves identifying small, manageable steps to take on a daily basis. Breaking a significant goal into achievable tasks provides visible evidence of progress, which sustains internal momentum.

If your internal resources are depleted, seek guidance from mentors or those who have successfully navigated hardship. Learning from the stories of individuals who have built resilience through adversity can provide the inspiration necessary to reach toward your desired goals.

Manon Dulude, Ph.D., RP, PCC
Registered Psychotherapist and Certified Executive Coach
Over 35 years of experience in human development
In-person therapy in Halton Hills
Virtual sessions across Ontario

📞 905-703-0003
🌐 www.manondulude.com

02/10/2026

Conflict is Like a Load of Laundry
by Manon Dulude Ph.D.

Just like laundry, conflict involves a multi-step process; handling, sorting, ironing things out, folding, and putting them away. conflict

1. Sort out the issue: Many clients will state that they never come to any resolutions in their conflicts. As a result, they find themselves revisiting the same difficult conversations or situations repeatedly. When you address a conflict, it is important to clearly state the problem, and your concerns. Stay focused on one issue. Don’t try to resolve all your issues at once.

2. Handle with care. Take time to listen to each other’s perspective and feelings about the issue. Be kind on your relationship, it is key to creating an effective solution.

3. Once you have washed things up…. Put them away, don’t throw them back in the hamper. In conflict resolution, there is a need to address the issue and let it go. If you keep resurrecting all your old issues, it is either that they were not fully addressed or you are holding a grudge. In those cases, it is helpful to look at your overall attitude toward conflict.

4. From time to time there is a stubborn stain and you need to rewash. From time to time, we need to revisit an issue. New information may have surfaced, or it may require several conversations to fully hear everyone’s point of view and come to an agreeable conclusion.

5. Do a little at a time, don’t let it pile up. Addressing conflicts as they arise is more productive. People who hold back have the tendency to explode and appear irrational in their concerns. Addressing each issue as it comes up allows you to stay focused on that particular problem. It makes it easier to come up with constructive conversation and solutions.

6. It is inevitable. There will be more! Conflict is part of life. It is not a bad thing. However, it is very important that you look at your role in each conflict. Are you always competing to win, avoiding by thinking the problem will go away, or compromising and giving up what is important to you?

7. There are dozens of detergents… Explore new choices. Conflicts often arise from people thinking and feeling they have no choices. When you are involved in a conflict, don’t stay married to your ideas. Try brainstorming new possibilities. It is amazing to see how, a collaborative solution process can create new options for all involved. (Step outside the “Laundry” Box, as you move forward)

8. A little starch gives a backbone to your shirt. Having clear personal boundaries always helps. Be clear with what you need to have and protect. Also consider how you might be willing to be flexible with certain issues.

9. From time to time, you need a professional dry clean. A little professional help can go a long way in understanding how to tackle conflict differently.

02/09/2026

Weaponized Incompetence Isn’t Just “Doing It Wrong”
by Laura Danger

Weaponized Incompetence is doing a bad job on purpose.

It’s often dismissed as someone simply being bad at a task, but it rests on a social truth: most people are reluctant to hold someone accountable for work they appear unable to do. It feels cruel to insist someone keep attempting something they “can’t” do—or to hold them to a standard they claim they cannot meet.

Weaponized incompetence exploits that reluctance. It misattributes strategic failure as a skill deficit or honest mistake, allowing the offending party to avoid responsibility, discourage future requests, or exert control. In this dynamic, the offending party is framed as the victim, while their frustrated partner is recast as unreasonable, demanding, or a “nag.”

Over time, it becomes a pattern with real emotional, cognitive, and relational consequences.

Continued at https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/no-more-mediocre/202601/weaponized-incompetence-isnt-just-doing-it-wrong

02/04/2026

The Power of Externalising Your Inner Narrative

Therapy is often most effective when it allows you to vocalise the thoughts and beliefs that occupy your inner world. When you speak about what you are ruminating on, those concerns often lose their overwhelming power.

Bringing your internal dialogue into the external world enables you to:

▪️Hear yourself from a fresh perspective.
▪️Establish a necessary distance from persistent thoughts.
▪️Challenge and transform deep-seated beliefs that no longer serve you.

By processing past negative experiences in a supportive environment, you can reduce their ongoing influence on your emotional nervous system. Your history is a part of your story, but it does not have to define who you are today or who you will become.

Manon Dulude, Ph.D., RP, PCC
In-person therapy in Halton Hills
Virtual sessions across Ontario
905-703-0003
www.manondulude.com