Paramount Psychology and Counselling

12/13/2025

Identity isn’t built by outcomes.
It’s built by effort.
Keep going!

12/12/2025

Live life now.

12/11/2025

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12/11/2025

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12/10/2025

Learn-do-repeat is a a great formula.  We also need to add in evaluate over time, because we often need yo tweak, adjust, and pivot and when life happens.

Feeling lost means you need new knowledge. Feeling ready means you need focused action. Feeling stuck means you need steady repetition. Every stage of growth has a different requirement. Once you understand which one you’re in, progress becomes clearer. Transformation is math: learn, do, repeat—until momentum finally builds.

12/10/2025

You are allowed to stop.
To soften.
To sink back into the quiet and let the world move without you for a while.

As Brené Brown reminds us, “It takes courage to say yes to rest and play in a culture where exhaustion is seen as a status symbol.”
And even more courage to believe that rest is not something you earn—
but something you are worthy of simply because you exist.

So pause.
Unclench your jaw.
Let the weight slip off your shoulders.
This stillness is not laziness;
it is an act of self-respect—
a reclaiming of your humanity in a world that never stops asking for more.

12/09/2025

Find the people that show up, tell you the truth and love you in the mess of life. They are out there, I promise.

12/08/2025

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12/08/2025

Going along to get along may have kept your ancestors alive, but won’t keep you alive in spirit. Stop blending in. Start living your life.
Therapy can help you learn how.

12/07/2025

While  to love and be loved is the most human of yearnings, it’s prison when your worthiness and happiness hinge on it.

Love is the trickiest kind of freedom. Margaret Atwood, whose work often probes the complex architecture of human desire, offers a stark invitation: to let go of the yearning to be loved, and in doing so, find a kind of liberation. It’s a tough pill to swallow, especially in a culture that equates love with validation, self-worth, and even survival. But Atwood’s voice, sharp and unflinching, asks us to reconsider what it means to be truly free.

Margaret Atwood’s poetry, with its mix of wit and wisdom, often circles around the illusions we cling to in the hope of security. The desire to be loved isn’t just a longing; it’s a kind of tether that binds us to others’ approval, to the fragile architecture of relationship dynamics. When you recognize this, it’s easier to see why giving it up might feel like losing a part of yourself. But what if it’s not loss but gain? What if freedom lies in stepping outside the endless cycle of needing to be wanted?

This idea resonates with the work of philosopher and psychoanalyst Julia Kristeva, who explores how identity is shaped through both connection and separation. Kristeva’s notion of the “subject in process” suggests that we’re always becoming, never fixed by others’ love or rejection. In this sense, Atwood’s call to relinquish the desire to be loved aligns with a deeper psychological truth: our sense of self isn’t dependent on external affirmation. It’s an ongoing, often messy journey inward.

Similarly, the contemporary writer Maggie Nelson, whose work blurs memoir, theory, and poetry, wrestles with love’s paradoxes. Nelson doesn’t shy away from the vulnerability that love demands, but she also acknowledges the ways it can entrap. Her writing suggests that freedom doesn’t come from escaping love altogether but from refusing to let it define or confine us. It’s a subtle distinction but a crucial one.

Margaret Atwood’s insight isn’t about cynicism or detachment. It’s about reclaiming agency in a world that constantly tells us our value depends on being loved by others. There’s a quiet power in recognizing that the last illusion might be the very thing we hold onto most tightly. And in that recognition, there’s a kind of peace. It’s not the absence of love but the presence of self-possession, a freedom that doesn’t ask for permission or proof.

In a time when social media amplifies the hunger for likes, shares, and validation, Margaret Atwood’s words feel more urgent. They remind us that the deepest freedom might come not from being loved but from loving ourselves enough to release the need for it. It’s a radical act, and maybe the most necessary one we can undertake.

12/06/2025

I don’t do it for them,
not for the eyes watching,
not for the doubters.
I do it for me,
for the part of me that was silenced
for the part that’s too scared to try,
I do it for the part of me that still believes
when I think I can’t keep going.

12/05/2025

Pretending it doesn’t hurt is just denial dressed up as strength. Healing begins the moment you tell yourself the truth.❤️‍🩹