BSB Counselling

12/15/2025

Sometimes the hardest part of relationships isn’t what is happening — it’s what might be quietly crossing a line.

Boundaries aren’t about control or mistrust. They’re about protecting what matters most. Healthy boundaries create safety, clarity, and trust — and they help committed relationships thrive, not just survive.

One helpful way to think about relationship boundaries comes from Shirley P. Glass in Not “Just Friends”. She uses a simple but powerful metaphor:

Where are the walls, and where are the windows?

In healthy, committed relationships:

-Walls protect the couple from outside emotional or relational intrusions

-Windows allow openness, transparency, and connection within the relationship

Problems often begin when:

-Walls come down with someone outside the relationship.

-Windows close with the person we’re committed to.

This doesn’t start with betrayal — it usually starts with small shifts: private conversations, emotional reliance, or blurred lines that feel harmless at first.

A useful litmus test for fidelity is asking:

-Would I feel comfortable if my partner saw or knew about this interaction?

-Am I moving toward or away from my partner right now?

Strong relationships aren’t built on avoiding people — they’re built on clear boundaries, intentional connection, and honest conversations.

If you’ve noticed tension, uncertainty, or unspoken worries in your relationship, support can help bring clarity and alignment.

Visit bsbcounselling.ca to reach out for a free consultation.

12/08/2025

Grief is not just something we “get through.” It’s something we learn how to carry — and how we carry it matters, especially during the Christmas season.

When families take time to acknowledge loss, create rituals, and talk openly about what hurts, they pass on important lessons: that grief is allowed, connection can remain, and strength can grow through care rather than avoidance. During the holidays, traditions and expectations can intensify the pain of what — or who — is missing, making these conversations even more important.

Rituals of loss don’t have to be big or formal. They can be as simple as a shared memory, a quiet moment of reflection, or allowing space for mixed emotions alongside joy. Treated with the same intention we give to celebrations, these moments become part of a healthy emotional legacy.

If this season feels heavier than expected and you could use extra support, you don’t have to navigate it alone. Visit bsbcounselling.ca to reach out for a free consultation.

11/20/2025

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11/17/2025

✨ “The pain of grief is a sign of having given and received love.” — Alan D. Wolfelt ✨

Grief is one of the hardest parts of being human… and yet, it’s also one of the clearest signs that we’ve loved deeply and allowed ourselves to be loved in return.

Too often, we shame ourselves for feeling the weight of grief.

We tell ourselves we should “be stronger,” “move on,” or “hold it together.”

But the truth is this:

Grief isn’t a weakness — it’s evidence of courage.

It shows you were willing to show up, to be vulnerable, to invest yourself fully in a relationship that mattered.

If you’re grieving today, take a moment to honour that pain.

Not with shame… but with pride.
Pride in your capacity to love.
Pride in your ability to rise to the occasion when someone needed you.
Pride in the vulnerability it took to open your heart in the first place.

Grief hurts because love mattered.

And you don’t have to walk through it alone.

If you’re navigating loss — whether recent or from years ago — support is available.

Visit bsbcounselling.ca to reach out for a free consultation.

11/11/2025

Today on Remembrance Day, I take a moment to remember the men and women I had the privilege of working with during my time with Veterans Affairs. Through this experience, I became deeply acquainted with the weight of their sacrifices — the courage, the loss, and the resilience that came with serving their country.

Today, we remember them — and all those who never came home from wars and conflicts, from decades past to more recent missions such as Iraq and Afghanistan.

Lest we forget. 🍁

If you’re a Veteran or currently connected with Veterans Affairs Canada, know that support is available. I can direct bill to Medavie Blue Cross to make accessing counselling as seamless as possible. Visit bsbcounselling.ca to book your free consultation.

11/07/2025

Caring Dads: A New Beginning Starts Here

Are you ready to build stronger, healthier relationships with your children?

Our 17-week closed group begins this January 2026, offering fathers a safe, supportive space to:
- End abusive, controlling, or neglectful behaviours
- Learn how to parent with empathy, respect, and accountability
- Reconnect with what it means to be a caring dad

This isn’t just a program, it’s a path to healing, growth, and lasting change.

Closed group format ensures privacy and consistency
Hosted locally | Starts January | Limited spots available

Fatherhood isn’t about perfection, it’s about showing up, growing, and choosing change.

11/06/2025

“Intentional families find a way to use meals to feed their souls along with their bodies.” — William J. Doherty

Life’s busy. Work, sports, bedtime routines — it all adds up. But making space for even just one meal together can rebuild connection and set the tone for the whole week.

Let's start the conversation together today on how to get started at bsbcounselling.janeapp.com.

09/10/2025

World Su***de Prevention Day – Sept 10

Take a moment to remember: there is help, there is hope. You are not alone.

📞 Call or text 9-8-8 anytime for immediate support.

For ongoing support, feel free to reach for a free consult: bsbcounselling.ca

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08/27/2025

✈️ On a recent flight, I was reminded of an important truth. In every safety demo, the crew reminds us to put on our own oxygen mask first before helping others. Why? Because we can’t take care of anyone else if we aren’t taking care of ourselves first.

The same is true in life—prioritizing your own mental and emotional wellbeing isn’t selfish, it’s essential. When you care for yourself, you’re able to show up as your best for your family, your relationships, and your work.

👉 Take the first step today and start small—maybe a 10-minute walk, or finally grabbing that coffee with a friend you’ve been putting off. Those small acts of care can make a big difference.

Book your free consultation at bsbcounselling.janeapp.com

08/22/2025

07/31/2025

🌞 Hot Weather, Hot Tempers? You’re Not Alone.

When the heat cranks up, so do our stress levels. If you’ve been feeling more tired, irritable, or just not yourself lately—it might be the heat messing with more than just your comfort.

Here’s what helps me:

-Drink more water (yep, more than you think)

-Get outside early before it gets unbearable

-Be kind to yourself—everything feels harder in the heat

If you're feeling off, it's okay. Let’s talk.
Book a free consult at bsbcounselling.ca and we’ll figure it out together (PS. We've got AC).

Stay cool,
– Brenden, BSB Counselling