02/12/2026
Supporting Children and Yourself after a Gun Violence Tragedy đ«
Resources from sandyhookpromise.org
Reminders:
Children are often deeply impacted, and many times silently shaken, when they hear stories of children their own age getting shot or other acts of violence in their schools and communities. Whether itâs back-to-school anxieties, or a constant, uneasy feeling of grief or fear, we can help children cope and be the light they need through those darker days. Words always matter, and whether youâre a parent, caregiver, educator, or out-of-school time professional, you may not always get it right. Thatâs okay.
Start with these tips to create a brave space for children. Through action and service, empathy and grace, we will always find the words and our way together.
How to Talk to Children:
Meet the Child Where They Are. Everyone processes tragedy differently, and itâs fair to assume a childâs process will not mirror your own. Be open, honest, consider whatâs age-appropriate, and above all elseâŠ
Listen. What do they understand about the tragedy? They may have many questions, but let your conversations unfold calmly, slowly, and let them set the pace.
Be Thoughtful in Your Response. Your journey to heal and process is unique to you but be mindful that your children look to you as a guide. This is a teachable moment. Be open, sensitive, calm, and age-appropriate in what you speak about with them. They will embrace this energy and learn to navigate challenge and tragedy with similar traits.
Encourage Their Expression. Tell them itâs perfectly healthy and okay to be upset, scared, frustrated, and worried. If they like to draw or write, have them do so about those feelings (or anything that feels good to them).
Maintain Structure and Routine. During times of uncertainty, structure and routine can help children navigate their emotions. Prioritizing activities and routines that are comforting provide feelings of safety.
Be Their Space for Comfort and Confidence. Children yearn to feel safe and protected. Assure them that in the event of an emergency, they will have you and specific other trusted adults in their lives to lean on every step of the way.
Allow Them Their Own Space Too. Children may need more attention, but if they show signs (or ask for) their own quiet time, give it freely. They will benefit from returning to a regular routine (eating, playing, sleeping), but be mindful of this unique time and space to cope.
Follow Their Lead. Children will often use body-language cues or change the topic as a way of expressing that they need a break. It is okay if they donât want to talk about it or need time to sit with it.
Keep In Mind:
While you try to help children wrap their minds around something so incomprehensible, you, too, are dealing with complicated feelings. Keep these ideas top of mind as you create an intention to move forward.
Processing Your Own Feelings and Self-Care:
Take Media Breaks. You may naturally want to stay informed, but the 24/7 news cycle can weigh heavy on our mental health. Images and storytelling can be stressful, so breaks are essential to focus on activities that lift you.
Talk to Other Trusted Adults. You are not alone. Whether you are a parent, caregiver, educator, or neighbour, we are all connected in community. Sharing your feelings and leaning on each other for advice for coping and how to talk to children can dramatically improve your own outlook.
Empowerment Through Engagement. Horrific events can leave you with a sense of hopelessness or lack of control. You, and perhaps your older children, can reclaim your empowerment by taking action. Writing a letter to the editor or a legislator, hosting a community conversation, or being an upstander can restore your confidence in creating positive change.
Resources and Support:
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