Our Healing Connection

05/27/2022

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Me encantaron estas afirmaciones y se las comparto!
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01/02/2022

Being thankful/grateful with our partners is very important, not just for the person we are thankful towards, but also for ourselves! 💖

My husband squeezes the toothpaste out of the tube like a child. It's a strange thing. It must be a habit he never outgrew.

But I leave my coffee mugs and water glasses all over the house like a teenager.

Sometimes he spits his toothpaste on the bathroom mirror.

I also leave cupboards open.

He's really bad at folding laundry.

I leave my books and notebooks strewn about.

But after thirteen years of marriage, we understand that these things are not worth nagging the other person about. We don't need to mention them or cause a fuss. So, I clean up his toothpaste and he picks up all of my glasses and puts them in the dishwasher.

And we thank each other for the things we DO appreciate.

Like my husband locking the doors and turning off all the lights every night before bed.

Or taking out the garbage.

And he thanks me (in front of the kids, thank you) for cooking dinner or signing them up for their activities.

To be a good teammate doesn't mean perfection. It means accepting one another's flaws for what they are—humans being human.

Humans doing their best to love one another.

Humans making mistakes--daily.

Humans messing up and then cleaning up.

What I've learned in marriage is that an imperfect marriage can also be a pretty extraordinary one.

Not despite its flaws--but because of them.

For more, join Angela Anagnost-Repke, Writer.

12/15/2021

It is very important to know your limits and respect them… because not everyone will!

12/08/2021

If you or someone you know has been assaulted and is considering reporting it to the police, do it! There are supports available to you and it can help you with your healing process!

If you are still unsure and need to discuss options you can contact HRP Victim Services anonymously if you’re more comfortable in doing it that way 💖

Last Thursday I was the victim of a minor assault. I’m sharing my experience because my incredibly low expectations of our system almost kept me quiet, but my experience has actually been very affirming and I think it’s worth relaying.

While I was waiting in line at a coffee shop, a man behind me put his hand on my back and said ‘Don’t move’. He pushed my phone into my back pocket, groping my backside. I told him to get his hands off me, that he had no business touching me or any other stranger without consent. I grabbed my order and hightailed it out of there: my daughter was waiting for me in the car. The only details I remember about him are his red-rimmed eyes and the way he made me feel : vulnerable, violated, and angry as hell.

At first, I had no intentions of reporting the incident because my expectations were:
👉🏽no one would take me seriously
👉🏽I would hear phrases like ‘this stuff happens all the time’ and ‘there’s not much we can do’ 🤢
👉🏽that the assaulter would remain unknown
👉🏽people might think I was making a big deal about something minor (so many people dealing with so much worse)
👉🏽this would go to the bottom of the pile
👉🏽I had no concrete evidence or description

But with encouragement from loved ones, I decided to follow through with a report. The restaurant was packed with teenagers at the time of the incident, and part of me felt I owed it to them. I bet this guy has done this before. He will probably do it again.

Since reporting:
✅ The person at HRP who took my call thanked for me for reporting and said ‘we like to catch these guys’
✅ The officer who came to my door to take a statement was respectful, empathetic and accommodating
✅ The owner of the coffee shop was apologetic, and went through his video surveillance. He was able to confirm my experience and identify the assaulter
✅ I was contacted by a sexual assault caseworker from HRP and informed of the supports that are available to me (up to $2000 in counselling services, for instance). She gave me her cell number.
✅no one has minimized my experience
✅reporting has actually left me feeling supported, validated and empowered.