In Loving Memory of Josiah Ryan

12/18/2025

“You’re only as happy as your least happy child”

12/15/2025

The weight of the world seems unbearable lately

12/05/2025

SURVIVING THE HOLIDAYS - Insights from Ros

With good reason, holiday seasons are often among the most difficult of times for people who have experienced the death of someone loved. Holidays are intended to be times of joy, family togetherness and thankfulness. Yet, after a death, holidays often underscore the absence of the loved one and bring feelings of loss, sadness, and emptiness. While there are no simple guidelines to follow that will make it easier to cope with the grief you may experience during the holiday season, perhaps the following suggestions will make this more bearable.

1. Realize that the anticipation of pain during the holidays is always worse than the actual day.

2. Be aware and tolerant of your inability to function at optimum levels during the holidays. Feelings may leave you fatigued with low energy. Don’t set unrealistic expectations for yourself. Break plans and tasks into smaller, more manageable chunks, goals you can achieve.

3. Acknowledge and accept your feelings. Sadness and tears are normal and do not ruin the holiday for you and others. At the same time, don’t feel guilty if you find yourself enjoying some of the festivities. You are not betraying your loved one. Be easy on yourself and let emotions happen.

4. Decide with your family what is important to make the holidays meaningful and bearable. Re-evaluate priorities and re-examine family traditions. Ask yourself: Do I really enjoy doing this, or am I doing it just to be doing it in the spirit of tradition? Would Christmas be Christmas without it?

5. Don’t be afraid of change. Realize that doing things differently this year does not make it a permanent change. Create new traditions; alter old customs slightly so that they don’t highlight the absence of the loved one.

· have holiday dinners at different times from past years.
· open presents on Christmas Eve instead of Christmas morning.
· let children take over decorating and cookie baking.
· prepare different holiday dishes.
· celebrate holidays at another family member’s home.

6. Plan ahead. Schedules often help in not being caught off-guard which may result in fear, panic and anxiety. Be flexible in making schedules and plans and allow for changes. Make shopping lists so that on a “good” day you can get a lot done and feel productive. If getting out to shop is the problem right now, do your shopping by mail order or catalogue, or ask friends to help you out.

7. Embrace your treasure of memories. Memories bring sadness, but they also bring the warmth of remembrance. They are an important part of your life and should not be ignored. Include your loved one in conversations; reminisce about past holidays you shared together. This is part of the grief process necessary for healing to occur. It does not stop just because it is a holiday. In fact, the holidays usually intensify it. Give yourself permission to have joy when you can and grieve when you have the need.

8 Re-think the meaning of the holidays. Explore your faith and belief systems. If these have been an important part of your life, use them to draw hope and strength.

9 Remember and honor your loved one with a memorial.

*place a special ornament on your Christmas tree.
*Plant a tree in your yard.
*have a memorial candle to be lit during the holiday season
*make a donation to a favorite charity in memory of your loved one.

10 Do something for someone else. Although you may feel deprived because of your loss, reaching out to another can bring you some measure of fulfillment.

*invite a guest who may be alone to share your festivities.
*give food to a need family.
*volunteer to fix toys for needy children, drive a route for Meals on Wheels during the holidays.
*visit a nursing home.

These holidays will be different, and your reaction to them may be surprising. The important thing to remember is to do what is most comfortable for you and your family. There are no right or wrong answers; no absolute rules. Everyone handles grief differently, what works for some may not work for others. Just try to love yourself, give yourself permission to experience your feelings, and allow yourself to be embraced by surrounding yourself with caring, compassionate people.

12/03/2025

11/24/2025

This time of year can get so loud that it’s easy to forget what actually matters. It’s not the gifts or the pressure to make everything perfect. It’s the people you get to sit beside. That’s what you’ll remember years from now.

11/15/2025

It’s easy to overlook the effect you have on others when you’re just focused on getting through your own day. But you stay with people more than you realise. Someone out there still smiles at a joke you once made. Someone still remembers a kind word you offered at the right time. Someone felt less alone because you listened. You’ve brightened people’s days in moments you may not even recall. You’re not invisible, and you’re not forgettable. You matter in ways you might never fully know.

11/11/2025

Never forgotten 🙏🏻

11/02/2025

Día de los Mu***os, or Day of the Dead, offers a gentle space for our grief, a time to honor and celebrate the lives of those we hold close, even as we miss their physical presence. Today, we gather not in sorrow, but in remembrance, weaving together our memories, tears, and laughter into a tapestry of love that endures beyond loss.

As we light candles and build our ofrendas with photographs, flowers, and treasures from days gone by, we invite the spirits of our loved ones to draw near. Each marigold, each cherished story, is a message: you are not forgotten, your memory blooms in our hearts, and your love walks with us still.

Día de los Mu***os teaches us that remembering is part of living, and that grief, shared openly, becomes a connection rather than a weight to bear alone.

Today, let gratitude and remembrance lead the way. May each altar be a bridge, every flower a reminder that while our loved ones may have journeyed on, they remain beside us, never gone, forever cherished. In honoring them, we celebrate the beauty and resilience of love that knows no end.

“En el corazón de los que amamos, los mu***os nunca están mu***os.”
In the hearts of those we love, the dead are never truly gone.

10/18/2025

💙💚❤️

10/09/2025

Join us on November 22, from 11:30am-3:30pm for Heartache2Hope’s International Survivors of Su***de Loss Day Event 🩵 make sure to register to secure your seat!

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10/06/2025