Future Focus Counselling Center

11/25/2025

The holidays can feel heavy if you grew up with narcissistic or emotionally immature parents. Old roles—like being the “golden child,” the perfectionist, or the peacekeeper—tend to surface fast. You may feel pressure to perform, keep everyone happy, or fall back into the version of yourself your family expects.

If this sounds familiar, you’re not alone. I’ve written a short article on how perfectionism, golden child syndrome, and surviving narcissistic abuse often collide during the holiday season—and what you can do to protect your peace.

Read the full post here: https://futurefocustherapist.com/blog/narcissistic-abuse-golden-child-holidays/

If you’d like support, Future Focus Counselling Center offers a free 20-minute consult to help you explore your next steps.

Understand how narcissistic abuse affects family dynamics and identify strategies to overcome triggers during the holiday season.

10/03/2025

💙 “Can therapy make my symptoms worse before they get better?”

Yes, sometimes therapy can feel heavier at the beginning. When we bring awareness to painful experiences, it’s normal for old feelings or symptoms to rise to the surface.

That’s why we take things step by step. We focus on building safety and moving at a pace that feels manageable.

Over time, your system learns it doesn’t have to stay in survival mode — and those symptoms can begin to soften. Healing is possible, and you don’t have to walk that path alone.

09/26/2025

🧠✨ “Do I have trauma if I don’t remember everything that happened?”
This is such a common and important question I hear in consults.

Not remembering every detail doesn’t mean you don’t have trauma. Our brains sometimes block memories to protect us. What matters is how those experiences are showing up in your life now — in your emotions, body, or relationships.

Healing doesn’t require remembering everything. It starts with noticing what’s happening in the present and working gently with it.

06/22/2025

Thinking about counselling but not sure what to expect?

There are a lot of myths out there about what therapy is—and what it isn’t. At Future Focus Counselling Center, we work with adults in Kamloops who are ready to move beyond just coping. Whether you’re dealing with anxiety, trauma, or feeling stuck in life, we’re here to offer real support and tools that actually help.

We just published a blog about the Top 7 Truths About Counselling in Kamloops—from what actually happens in therapy to why coaching isn’t the same thing.

💬 Ready to chat? Book a free 20-min consultation here: https://futurefocustherapist.janeapp.com

03/08/2025

Betrayal trauma cuts deep. 💔 When trust is broken by someone we rely on, it can leave lasting emotional wounds—affecting our sense of safety, self-worth, and ability to trust again. If you've experienced betrayal, know that healing is possible. In my latest blog, I explore the impact of betrayal trauma, how it manifests, and steps you can take to reclaim your strength and rebuild trust—starting with yourself.

✨ Read more here: https://futurefocustherapist.com/blog/understanding-betrayal-trauma-healing-from-the-wounds-of-broken-trust/

If you're struggling with betrayal trauma, you don’t have to go through it alone. Support is available. 💙

11/27/2024

✨ Embracing Change: Your Guide to Personal Transformation ✨

Change can feel overwhelming, but understanding the process can make all the difference. In my latest blog, I break down the 6 Stages of Change—a powerful framework to help you navigate personal growth, overcome challenges, and create lasting habits. 🌟

Whether you're contemplating a new goal, ready to take action, or working to maintain positive change, this guide offers insights and practical tips for every stage of your journey. 💡

Let’s embrace progress over perfection! Read more here: https://futurefocustherapist.com/blog/embracing-change-the-6-stages-you-need-to-know-to-transform-your-life/

11/19/2024

🌟 EMDR: A Transformative Approach to Healing Body Dysmorphia 🌟

Did you know that unresolved trauma and negative self-beliefs often fuel the struggles of Body Dysmorphic Disorder (BDD)? EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing) therapy offers a powerful way to address the root causes of BDD, helping individuals reprocess painful memories, reduce appearance-related anxiety, and develop healthier self-image.

✨ Discover how EMDR is helping people break free from distorted self-perceptions and reclaim their confidence. Whether you’re a clinician, someone living with BDD, or simply curious about innovative mental health approaches, this article explores how EMDR can make a lasting impact.

https://futurefocustherapist.com/blog/unlocking-healing-how-emdr-can-transform-the-treatment-of-body-dysmorphia/

10/21/2024

New blog post: 'Mental Level and Mental Efficiency – The Cornerstones of an Integrated Sense of Self.' Dive into the concepts of mental level and efficiency and learn how they play a crucial role in shaping a balanced, resilient self. Whether you're looking to enhance personal growth or deepen self-awareness, this article offers valuable insights into building a stronger foundation for mental well-being. Read more here: https://futurefocustherapist.com/blog/mental-level-and-mental-efficiency-the-cornerstones-of-an-integrated-sense-of-self/

07/30/2024

🔍 New Blog Post: Understanding the Four Stages of Burnout

Burnout is a gradual process, often going unnoticed until it's too late. In my latest blog post, I explore the four stages of burnout—Early Burnout, Increasing Burnout, Acute Burnout, and Su***de: Ultimate Burnout—from a therapist's perspective. Recognizing the signs early and seeking support can make all the difference in managing and overcoming burnout. Whether you're experiencing burnout yourself or know someone who might be, this guide offers valuable insights and practical advice.

Read the full article here https://buff.ly/3ymWwli and let's prioritize mental well-being together. 🌟

06/20/2024

I'm excited to share that I recently had the opportunity to present on the YouTube podcast, Tea with the Experts & Dr. Leah Merle! Join us as we uncover the signs, causes, and impacts of trauma in the workplace and learn strategies for creating a healthier work environment. I share my insights on how to support employees and foster resilience. Check out the full episode here: https://youtu.be/fuV3rRoMuIw?si=FyL8C4GbaTI5KGGP

In the next episode of "Tea with the Experts and Dr. Leah Merle," we delve into the topic of workplace trauma with Zakia Ovington, an expert in organizationa...

06/13/2024

In the field of therapy, effective techniques are essential for helping clients manage overwhelming emotions, especially when addressing trauma. One such technique is the Container Exercise from EMDR therapy. This powerful tool is crucial in calming the nervous system and aiding in emotional regulation. By visualizing a secure container to temporarily hold distressing thoughts, clients gain a sense of control and safety, leading to reduced anxiety and a state of more about the psychological and physiological mechanisms behind this transformative technique in my latest blog post.
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