12/08/2025
“Healthy baby, healthy mom.”
You’ll hear it all the time.
And of course… We all hope for a healthy baby and a safe delivery. That is the number one priority - and not everyone has the privilege of that being the outcome.
But when your baby is healthy, suddenly it feels like you lose permission to admit that any part of it is hard.
Birth trauma?
“You should hear about my labour, it was way worse.”
Postpartum anxiety?
“That happens to everyone. It’ll pass.”
Breastfeeding struggles?
“At least they’ll take a bottle.”
An unplanned C-section?
“Good thing C-sections exist.”
Grieving the vaginal birth you hoped for?
“I wish I could’ve just had a C-section - that would’ve been easier.”
We’re offered “at leasts” when what we actually need is understanding, validation, and room to feel.
Because two things can be true at once.
You can be deeply grateful for your baby’s health - and still mourn the parts of your story that hurt.
You can feel lucky - and still feel lost.
You can love your baby - and still be healing from what it took to bring them here.
Your experience matters.
Your voice matters.
You matter too.
